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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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Top Rated Answers
sam06
May 6th, 2018 6:25am
Go out and meet new people! Like random people. Anyone. Talk to people. Take note of everything that made you smile on a particular day. Talk to yourself. Aloud. And maybe in one of those random people, you'll find solace. Talk to the elderly people, who have lived, and are still living. Listen to their stories. You can ask everyone to stay in touch. Also, get a hobby. Invest a lot of time there. Try to make something good of the situation. Always. Best of luck! :)
CaringMike
May 24th, 2018 6:29pm
I can learn to be happy with myself. Learn to love and accept myself. It is difficult to live without others as we are social beings and much of our happiness depends on being connected with others - a partner, our family, our friends and our community. However at times we find ourselves alone and can feel isolated and left out, than maybe everyone else is having fun without us. Sometimes we need others to constantly validate us, give us approval which can be a problem if we are totally dependent on that. A big way to be less dependent on too many friends is to spend less time on social media. This has been proven to improve ones mood as you not constantly see how everyone is having a so called wonderful time. You need find and reinforce the good in yourself. You don't need many friends. It is better to have one true friend than a hundred acquaintances. Family is important too but sometimes they are far away and some people don't have any family because they are deceased or estranged. It is all about balance about having real quality relationships when you are with your friends and family but also enjoying and trusting your own company when you are alone.
CordialBilli
May 25th, 2018 5:48am
You can be happy without friends and family by making a life for yourself. And doing things you want, that help you.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 8:39pm
Do you have to be happy without friends and family? You can always try to find something you really enjoy doing. Maybe a new hobby?
softNutella25
June 6th, 2018 3:11am
Why do you want to exclude friends and family from your happiness? Or, is it that you just don't have many friends or family in your life? Being happy is something that everyone deserves, regardless of their circumstances. It may be harder with or without certain relationships, but it's important to value yourself and the fact that you deserve fulfillment and happiness regardless of who is or isn't in your life.
YellowButterScotch
June 13th, 2018 1:37am
Being happy can be tough. However, spending time with yourself can be an awesome experience. Some people call it dating yourself and lots of times those people are happy. Find what works best for you and go for it.
Optimallyrealist
June 17th, 2018 8:38pm
Friends and family are immensely important. However, a substantial credit for their indispensability in our lives goes to the way we are raised. The desire for family and friends is inculcated, and it's not innate. We need to realise it. Yes having friend and family make us feel secure, but at the end of the day, if we think deeply, we all need to fend for ourselves.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 11:53am
By focusing on how you can make yourself better for you to enjoy being in the moment and actually living in it can help attain happiness
Allears247
June 24th, 2018 12:21pm
Focus on yourself and think of things that make you happy that you don't need these people for and exercise these things regularly.
ElegantRose54
June 27th, 2018 8:04am
To focus on personal growth and how to give back to the world. Focus on sharing positive energy and seeking to inspire and be inspired.
kyah0105
June 27th, 2018 4:42pm
It is important to be able to love yourself and be secure enough to able to separate yourself from others when you need it. Sometimes, I find it relaxing to just be on my own, with my own thoughts. And if I need to talk about it after, I will.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 7:15pm
You can be happy by being with your pets and helping others those who are poor and needy there smile will put on a smile on your cheeks
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 10:03am
do what you love to do. start reading novels/books, exercise every day, do something creative, these things will keep you busy and you'll be growing every day by doing these things.
YourPersonalPal
June 29th, 2018 11:58pm
You don’t need other people to make you happy. You can make yourself happy, be happy on your own. Sure people can also make you happy but it’s not very healthy to completely rely your happiness from other people.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 1:13am
As long as they are happy I'm happy too with or without them, I don't have to be with them just to be happy
Anonymous
July 5th, 2018 9:50am
By enjoying things that you like to do, like hobbies for example. Those things will distract you and take your mind off of worries.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 6:18am
You have got to be independent and believe you can be. Work hard on what you have in your mind. Your goal and you are always together
ugotafriendinme18
July 8th, 2018 4:19am
It can be difficult if you don't have any friends or family in your life. You probably feel isolated and alone and I'm sorry. But you can make your own family and find some new friends. Just put yourself out there and reach out, join a team sport, a book group or even meet some new people online. Also just know that even though family and friends are important you don't actually need others to be happy, you can find it yourself. Hang in there.
Summerwish
July 12th, 2018 4:50am
Do the things you like to do make new friends have fun with life meet new people try new things go to new places to help you try to be happy
Anonymous
July 12th, 2018 11:03pm
I used to be the kind of person who based my emotion based on people. I tend to overread every of their word and interaction to me. As the time went by, I always keep in mind that no one deserves my attention if they can't return the same. When I just learn not to care and over read things, I feel less lonely and thus feel happier by myself.
Numinox
July 13th, 2018 7:51am
Family doesn’t need to necessarily be blood related. As long as you have someone you truly trust and admire you can 100% be happy.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 11:08pm
Learn to accept myself, and know that I am valid, even if those close for me don't make me feel that way. I can reach out to new people or co-workers.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 3:12am
You first need to be happy with yourself, your accomplishments, and interests. Once you're happy, or even just content with those things, you'll be able to realize that you can move on from family and old friends. A social life is important to have so you could try to engage in conversations relating to your interests and then go from there.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 7:41am
It is difficult as we are social creatures, but not impossible as it all depends on how much social interaction you need. As an introvert I have a very limited number of people I talk to and rely on and can go days without socialising and be perfectly happy, but many others need people around them to be happy so it depends on the individual. I think hobbies and interests where you socialise with others may help with happiness, but like I say, it's difficult and would be hard for people in the long term with no support from people who know you. That's why 7 cups helps.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 6:22pm
Find yourself and befriend yourself and if you know yourself good enough then find friends. Maybe you'll make some that are good enough to consider family. You're put through tests in life and sometimes you get a break when you get through it.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2018 1:25am
Making friends online is easier and they too can bring you happiness, however you won't be able to (communicate) w/ them unless you have a device with you
athenacleere
July 21st, 2018 1:58am
Maybe you should get a small pet, just for some companionship in place of a friend or family member.
Sweetieangel
August 2nd, 2018 4:41pm
Then you can exercise or doing your hobbies what makes you happiest person in world or help people who in their needs
Anonymous
August 8th, 2018 3:01am
You made in a family You wasn't made by friends. So without family no one can be happy but without friend you can be happy.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2018 8:50am
Find something that interest you that you can engage in, take time to focus on yourself but don't bog yourself down in thoughts. An interest is good for that and it doesn't have to be continual or pressuring.