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How do I stop feeling so isolated?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 7:17pm
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Top Rated Answers
Sunshine444
January 17th, 2020 6:23am
"Start enjoying your own company" Yes, we sometimes have many insecurities and one of the major concern found in young people is "Fear of missing out". first of all knowing from where this feeling is very important , one can not jump to solution directly 1.observe the feeling ,understand when it comes and what triggers it... 2. is someone else making you feel isolated or its your own thinking? 3.What happens when you start feeling isolated ...do you feel guilty/angry/hurt? 4.What are the activities you do when you are alone? 5.Do you feel lonely anywhere, anytime – no matter how many people are physically around you? if the answers are yes.. I would suggest to meet psychologist and also as a first aid kit you can start 1.Start with small interactions in neighborhood/friends.family 2.Hangout with like minded people 3.Social/online interaction 4.Enjoying your own company by developing hobby/ writing down your feelings 5.Getting a pet helps these are few tips...for more tips you can connect with me :)
uniquecreature41
October 27th, 2016 10:48pm
At some point in their lives every single person has felt isolated; cut off, remote, estranged from the rest of the human race. Keeping this in mind and keeping some perspective is a great way to unlock yourself from this position.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 9:10am
First of all try to figure out what makes you feel isolated. Then act accordingly. For example if you feel isolated because some of your closed ones or acquaintance are ignoring you, then try talking to them. Ask them why are they ignoring you. Once you got to know that it's because of something you did then work on it. Try not to do that again(this was just an example though)
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 3:13am
Well! I think you're isolated in a crowd. Try to talk to other people. Don't be shy, you're not isolated, you can do it!
proudRose
May 5th, 2019 12:40am
Everyone can feel isolated sometimes, it’s completely normal! However it’s important to break this habit of isolating ourselves and start opening up to the world! My best piece of advice would be to reach out to your closest friends. Maybe you can ask them out for a coffee date, go to the movies, drive around, just do anything to get out of the house and have fun! Sometimes the best medicine is laughter so hanging out with your friends and having a laugh can be really helpful. Taking walks in nature is also very nice because you get a breath of fresh air and you can just enjoy some time for yourself
Anonymous
June 6th, 2018 6:15am
I would say get out there, but we all know that sometimes doesn't work. Isolation in the form of a mental state can be overpowered by sharing secrets and telling yourself to open those doors to people, even if you're scared they might not like the decorations on the inside.
Kali4now
March 7th, 2020 7:31pm
I have made the experience that other people usually also feel isolated. Not all of them. But more than one would expect. So when I feel lonely I send messages to friends who I haven't heard of in a long time, asking how they are doing. I treat them with the same compassion and care that I am currently really wishing for and usually a surprising amount of love and kindness and deep connection is coming back. It is so much easier to receive what you need if you show people around you that you are also willing to give that. This is the only thing that becomes more and more, the more you share it.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2020 5:45pm
By starting to love your own company this way you will never feel isolated, there is nothing more empowering in this whole world than starting to love your own company. Also when you get away with idea of being part of a group or crowd and identify yourself as a complete individual without anyone else involved , you will never feel isolated, you should never give yourself permission to feel isolated because of people who don't even matter . Self love is the key and that is the most important aspect of a person's life all together. This is what I believe.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2020 11:56pm
For me personally, I was able to stop feeling isolated by opening myself up to others. I often felt alone in the things I was experiencing and thought that no one else was going through the same things that I was, so no one could understand me. However, by getting to know people, and slowly telling my story to those that I trust, I was able to open myself up to the world and feel less lonely. Now, when I feel negative emotions, I know that someone is always there to listen, and I am not scared to reach out to others.
SpaceDino
January 30th, 2020 8:35pm
Start with small steps. Can you send a text or message to someone? Call an old friend or family member? Make plans to grab a coffee? If you feel like you don't have anyone to message or make plans with you could join a group chat here on 7cups or message a listener. Just reach out and say hello! I also find it useful to step outside and go for a walk when I'm feeling isolated. Make eye contact with people and nod, hold the door for someone, buy a coffee if you can afford. Even a small amount of human interaction with strangers can help.
thoughtfulPoetry7779
June 10th, 2022 7:17pm
You may ask yourself, what you are doing wrong. Maybe, you are too much inside, playing games. You may ask someone from the school if they want to go out with you sometimes. Feeling isolated may also be caused by bad people around you, for example always laughing at you for no reason. Find someone good from the school to hang out with. Try to talk with someone close to you about your problems and things that can't get out of your head. When you let it go, you may feel better. Don't be too hard on yourself because maybe you arent the problem at all!
HarshYogi
January 10th, 2020 3:19pm
Sometime, it would be useful to learn about patterns on when and why we get a feeling of isolation. In my case, if there if I get 3-4 blank days without external triggers (from business or guests or friends), I start feeling isolated. But coming to the point, yes, I have felt many a time the same and following has worked for me. 1. Always keeping some backlog tasks that do not require much preparation and I can engage immediately. Example, watering the plant, or organizing the book or even coming to 7cups.come and helping others. 2. Pick up a pen/laptop and start writing. Silence or feeling of isolation also is a great opportunity to look inward and get some great answers of life. 3. Leisure walk, if the climate is conducive. I hope this helps.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2020 4:19am
Try new activities. It may be hard, but it will be worth it in the long run. Join a sport, music group, or a school club. You will be given the opportunity to make new friends and connections. Any joining, you will also learn team working skills to help you in later life. Also, you can start to go out with family. Instead of saying no to going to dinners, say yes. See how it goes. You will most likely connect with family that you never thought you would. Your relationship with your family will then soon grow and grow.
Optimallyrealist
June 17th, 2018 8:44pm
Isolation is dichotomous. isolation from oneself, and isolation from others. Many times in an effort to stay connected with others, we lose connection with own self. You can't feel isolated if you are in harmony with your inner self. You need to enjoy your own company. Once you start that, other isolation will vanish as well.
Prisha123
November 14th, 2019 6:23pm
Try to be happy with yourself first. It's very important to know your worth first. Spending time with yourself will not only help you gain self love but also help you overcome the fear of being isolated. The next step you can try is to talk to people. Give your time to people who actually mean something in your life. Talking to negative people only harm you. Try to stay with people you spread positive and have a positive impact in your life, this will help you have and maintain a healthy life. Going outdoors and taking a break sometimes also helps. I hope this helps you. :)
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2019 1:49am
The fact you're thinking about that is a good start , it shows you want change and you want things to get better. The best way to get yourself out of that enclosed environment is to go outside and try and do something like finding activities you enjoy such as football , tennis , or even just going out for walks with your friends or something small. It's also important to consider where and when you feel isolated and try and figure out why you feel that and maybe even discussing it with a family as one mind is better than two sometimes.
wildghostmemories
November 1st, 2019 9:31pm
How you feel is a feeling and while they can be overwhelming it is important to remember that your feelings are not you. I know it can be really hurtful and painful to feel this way and even though it can be difficult to accept you are no alone in it. It is very normal to feel isolated and connection can sometimes be difficult but you deserve to feel safe, supported, and heard. Have you already looked at the 7 cups guides on Lonliness, Anxiety and Managing Emotions? Those can be really helpful in reassuring yourself about your current feeling and reframing them into more positive ones.
xMoony
June 21st, 2018 12:13am
Surround yourself with others, even if it’s minior. Don’t spend a ton of time alone otherwise you won’t feel good. Find things you love and connect with others who enjoy your interests and hobbies.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2019 10:59am
Call a friend, bond with a family member, read a book and discuss it online. I think according to ROBERT WHITAKER of ANATOMY OF AN EPIDEMIC fame, a best-selling book, the key to happiness is human interaction. That is so, so, so very important, yes. according to ROBERT WHITAKER of ANATOMY OF AN EPIDEMIC fame, a best-selling book, the key to happiness is human interaction. That is so, so, so very important, yes. The most important human interaction is with family, then friends, then others. If you do not have family, then friends, neighbords etc etc. Try it. Spend time doing gardening, even if indoors in winter.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 10:38am
Best way is to go out and meet people. Family, friends. And engage in activities with them. When you're around people, people who are close to you and you know you're comfortable being with, your isolation will go away.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2019 4:33pm
Isolation is an awful thing to experience and it is difficult to feel like you're on your own in this thing. You can first try to recognize whether it's most likely due to your external environment or internal. If it's internal, you can try to accept that, yes, you do feel isolated and it is valid to feel that way regardless of the number of people you surround yourself with. What isolation means can be different to each person including you. Try to understand what it actually is and recognize the root of it. When you do figure it out, you are free to do what you think is the most ideal way to overcome it in your own pace and terms.
HopeIsAHealer
September 14th, 2019 12:39pm
I think the first step to ending isolation is to show up for yourself emotionally. Embark on a journey of self-discovery until you become familiar with your authentic self and can identify your needs, values and purpose. The next step is building healthy boundaries. Start by setting them for yourself. How can you stay in your integrity? How can you honor yourself? Decide what you love about yourself and where you would like to go. What kind of people will enrich your life. What qualities are you looking for in friends. Once this comes into focus, start reaching out to others by pursuing activities that you love. Seek out people whose values align with yours and slowly start to build bridges.
Imhere4you247
August 17th, 2019 6:34am
Feeling isolated is generally not a good feeling, even if you prefer being alone most of the time. What I've learned is that the best way to stop feeling isolated, is to stop allowing yourself to isolate yourself. Often times when I feel alone I have realized that I put myself in the situation. I can put myself in this situation by ignoring friends and family when I'm feeling down, avoiding going out, or even by making myself unapproachable. Many times this is done in order to protect myself as I have bad anxiety. One way to prevent myself from isolation is to talk to a trusted friend or put myself out of my comfort zone. In order to stop feeling isolated you must realize where the source of isolation came from and how you got to this point.
Falguni4782
July 12th, 2019 6:55am
By changing your perception towards yourself & others. Why you feel that your are isolated ! First of all you have to limit your expectation from others. Just stop thinking about yourself always. Explore your hobbies. Go our and meet people without any reason. Not necessary everyone will behave or respond the way you want. But thats fine ! Just accept what world is. Go and live ! And last but not the least Help Poors and needy people. Devote some time to make the poor people around you a little better. Life is beautiful ! Live it ! Don't plan everything !
Anonymous
July 11th, 2019 3:53am
The best thing you can do for yourself is surround yourself with other people. Whether you do this by attending social events, sitting at a baseball game, or just taking up a new hobby where you can meet new people. Isolation comes from the lack of human contact or being around others. But when you try and surround yourself around other people, you will notice a drastic change. You will start to feel safer and more comfortable. It will become easier to talk to others, and interact with them. Just know that it's perfectly normal to feel this way, and everyone feels isolated at some point in their life.
LiteViWanda
August 1st, 2018 2:09am
Isolation starts inside of us. How we think and view ourselves affects how we interact with others. So, when I identify myself as isolated, I tend to interact less with others. When I think about myself as more engaging, I will find ways to engage more with others.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2018 2:31pm
Allow yourself to be helped, to be heard, if not by others, by yourself. You are your own best friend, you are the person that understands yourself the most. So try to find a passion, try to find an occupation, something that makes you feel worth it, something that makes you love yourself. Meditate and talk to yourself and keep in mind that you deserve happiness and that you'll never exclude yourself from any social interaction that you get, because you deserve to be cared for, you deserve to make a friend, you deserve to find love, and even if those things take time to reach you, never forget that you deserve to live despite all that. You owe it to yourself to care for your mental health and your health in general. Discover yourself, your mind, your capacities and always stay in communication with your feelings and do you, you'll find out there is are many reasons to love and feel proud about your person.
BehavioralAnalystinTraining
July 14th, 2018 5:44am
Well, first of all ARE you isolated? Or do you feel lonely in a crowd? Usually I've found a good step is finding someone you can talk to & being open with them about your feelings.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 11:00am
I guess you need to focus on yourself and make yourself busy. Read books, play an instrument and many other things. They won't let you feel alone and if that doesn't work ,try talking to people more. Try to Know them , about their life , take interest in different things. Be weird at times . All of this will surely help you ☺️
heavenDew42
July 7th, 2018 11:09am
Find a trusted friend or family member to spend time with you. Schedule your alone time and your out in the world time. Join a group. Get a gym membership.