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How do I stop feeling so isolated?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 7:17pm
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I am a mental health counselor licensed in the state of Florida. I have been fully licensed for 5 years, however I have over 8 years of experience in the counseling field.

Top Rated Answers
bewellbeswell
May 21st, 2021 5:08am
Feelings of isolation, especially in this past year with the pandemic, are very common and can be scary. With what seems like few solutions during the pandemic, feelings of isolation can often coincide with feelings of helplessness and loneliness. To help with feelings of isolation, I often call a friend, do errands with my mom or write. Writing has, personally, helped me overcome feelings of isolation as I can share my thoughts and feelings with the page, leaving my mind cleansed of those overwhelming thoughts. This makes me feel as if these feelings of isolation are shared, that they are not only my own anymore. In these moments, I feel peacefully alone, but not isolated.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2021 8:07am
It's easy to feel isolated when you can't fit into a group or community. What I experience myself is that it is important to reach out for people similiar to you and understand that most of people around you have good intentions, therefore not being afraid of them. You should try to find common topics, hobbies to talk about and some time hanging out with 1 or 2 people you really like instead of the whole group may help. Furthermore, you have to understand that it's not yours or anyone fault if you can't fit in, though it's important for you to start reaching out to people that you find you can connect with.
Migulito
July 28th, 2021 6:36am
One of the best ways, in order to stop feeling isolated, is to turn this negative feeling into a positive one by seeing it more as an opportunity to find your authentic self by exploring the things you can do whether it is doing the things you currently love (singing, painting, etc.) or trying new things (baking, drawing, etc) rather than placing it as a negative situation. Being isolated especially in times of a pandemic is hard but we must remember that as humans we must be adaptive and somehow still see the light in these darkest times by choosing to be thankful for every day that is given to us, knowing that this life of ours is a blessing and temporary. That is why it is up to us to wisely use our time left and it's our choice to whether stay in the dark or see the light
Anonymous
October 17th, 2021 3:10pm
Getting out of your box and doing things you love the most would be a great solution. It does seem like the basic answer anyone would give but i think it really would help. Another thing would be to make a friend that’s so down for anything because that’s what I did and it really made me be out there and happier, if you don’t find it easy to make friends and would rather something you could do alone then you should work on finding something peaceful you would like doing and constantly do it and put emotions into it.
Adanna8
October 24th, 2021 12:51pm
Take some time. Think about what you like doing, and try to spend time doing them. Try to bring yourself out of your comfort zone, once in while. When you feel the urge to stay away, find someone you feel comfortable with, and just talk to the person. If you have fears of people not liking or wanting to be around you, then try to overcome them. It won't be easy, but remember that not everyone is your type of person, but your type of people still exist, and that there are many people who would love, more than anything, to hear from you. I hope this helps
SkyeVei
November 25th, 2021 6:32am
Depends where these feelings and desire to isolate come from. Is it from depression? Do you feel tired and there is another physiological reason? Self confidence issues? Do you have difficulties with placing boundaries? Or is the crowd you hang out with just not pleasant to be around? If it is from depression or due to health issues in general, I am very sorry. How does isolation affect you? If it helps you in a certain way or you don’t mind, you want to invest more in yourself, and it wouldn’t affect your mental health, then go for it. Some were born to be hermits and there’s nothing wrong with that. Feelings will get hurt however, maybe not yours, but the feelings of those around you who enjoy your presence will be hurt, unless you explain and are straightforward with them. If the desire to isolate is from a mental issue, I would try to go against it and engage in things that help with the mental issue: good nutrition, vitamin D, therapy, and exercise. Now, I realize that those that have a mental issue might have a very hard time with this, feeling motivated to even do anything. I would urge you to ask for help. If not from anyone, you can download a free therapy app on your phone, and just play around it for a little bit. Start small. If you can’t get vitamin D through going outside, buy a lamp that helps with that (they are on amazon and eBay, look for depression lamps). Then small steps, make your phone give you a happy fact everyday when u wake up to help a bit with some slight serotonin production. Then, nutrition, eat something nice that helps with the brain, even if it is for one meal. You can open an avocado, or a banana, or some fruit, as you don’t have to cook it. Physical exercise is very important. Is there something you enjoy? You can take a small walk here and there, maybe listen to some upbeat music when walking, and build up from there. I hope I didn’t misread the situation from your question. Good luck. -Skye
chocolatte212
December 22nd, 2021 4:31am
feeling of being isolated is very common especially during this pandemic. being alone and not able to share things or not getting the support we require is very hard. online chats feel very different from actual conversations. if you feel lonely and are isolating yourself I think it would be good if you talked to random people online because thats what I did and it helps me whenever i feel sad and lonely. you could also go outside for a walk, with friends or alone, to freshen up your life. I hope you can stay strong
Anonymous
January 6th, 2022 12:50am
Feeling lonely, even when you’re surrounded by people, doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. I would contend that all human beings struggle with loneliness intermittently, whether they are aware of it or not. Trauma, loss, and stress can exacerbate feelings of loneliness. You can practice seeing things from a different perspective or associate them with positive emotions For example, you can treat alone time as an opportunity to grow, reflect, and connect with yourself.To combat feelings of loneliness and learn to be happy alone, Magavi suggests partaking in activities focused on self-compassion.A few examples include: meditation mindful walks physical activity Taking care of yourself with patience and compassion might help you strengthen the bond with yourself, which in turn can help you ease the feelings of loneliness.
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
May 11th, 2022 7:46am
Oh dear, feeling isolated could be due to many reasons, it may help to identify what is your "why" behind wanting to isolate, how does that make you feel. I'm very proud of you for wanting to stop being isolated though, while me time or being alone is great sometimes, it helps to recharge ourselves too but human beings are social beings and we do need some form of affection, interaction and company to function in our fullest. Maybe you can catch up with a friend or a family member? It might seem hard at first coming out of the comfort zone, but it is going to be worth it for sure and you dont need to be too hard on yourself, just one step at a time, you certainly got this. Live a little, okie? You deserve it. ❤
thoughtfulPoetry7779
June 10th, 2022 7:17pm
You may ask yourself, what you are doing wrong. Maybe, you are too much inside, playing games. You may ask someone from the school if they want to go out with you sometimes. Feeling isolated may also be caused by bad people around you, for example always laughing at you for no reason. Find someone good from the school to hang out with. Try to talk with someone close to you about your problems and things that can't get out of your head. When you let it go, you may feel better. Don't be too hard on yourself because maybe you arent the problem at all!