I feel like isolating myself, but deep inside I am very lonely. What do I do?

You should try to meet new people even if your nervous to do so, it will really help your lonelness.

Ask yourself exactly what you're lonely for. Company? Interaction? Advice? Perspective? Entertainment? Boredom-Relief? What exactly do you want from other people that you're not able to get alone? Could you get those things alone? Then do it! It's great to have a caring supportive network of friends but it's also great to have have a lot of things you like to do that don't require others to do them. Also, ask yourself if you really like the people you know and want to be around them in the first place. If not, then you're really not lonely, right? If you don't particularly like the people you currently know, then you have to find people you actually want to be around. Then, you might have to figure out what you may need to change about yourself if people you like don't want to be around you.

Ask your family members for opinions and advice. Their experience can be helpful. Don't be afraid of judgement and criticism.

Feeling like isolating yourself often seems like the natural reaction when we feel lonely, but it can often send us into a spiral. If i'm feeling too drained to have full interaction with other people, i often talk to online friends. You could try and find an online community/sub-community of nice people with similar interests. Chances are, you'll make at least 1 new friend and learn something new! If that's not really your jam, maybe try and reconnecting with old friends. Sometimes my best friend and I want company but feel to drained to actually interact, so we often facetime without talking or hang out at each others houses without talking, just simply because the other person's presence is comforting. Good luck!

We do experience unhappiness when we feel unwanted and we want to make a place for ourselves by covering up ourselves under the impression we are not dependent on anybody for affection to prove that we are strong and worthy of being respected but in reality we don't want to be left alone the best option here would be to try talking to someone who seems to care and we are comfortable with but still one has to maintain some ego to feel respected and one has to be knowledgeable for supporting the ego factor.

Break free from that feeling of wanting to be alone. Talk to somebody, in the long run you will be rewarded with happiness.

A few years back, I had a similar feeling. I'll just share what I did to help myself. 1.) I distanced myself form social media, no more uploads and very few feed check (once a few days or week) 2.) Spend a lot of time with nature, like going to garden or sitting beside river, or as simple as sitting in open gazing at the sky (especially at night, it's beautiful) 3.) Be in touch with person who really matters and cares for you, meet them in person. 4.) Talk to yourself, this sounds silly but helps a lot. Understand what's going on with you, if it helps write about it in a diary. At first it might come as difficult, but eventually you'll become bestfriend with yourself and you'll start enjoying being with yourself. 5.) Meditation helps, being self aware helps, focusing on your breaths helps. 6.) Lastly, if you can spend time with animals, that would be great. I used to feed stray dogs and spend time with them, I started with 1 and by the end of month I was feeding and sitting with some 20-30 dogs. The amount of love they shower in you, it's amazing. They will heal you. All the best buddy, I know you can make it, Have great day, Stay awesome and keep smiling It's free and it looks good on you :)

Deep inside everyone is alone.The best part of our life is we being our best version inside,So don't feel bad for these things,Try to connect externally and maintain that lonely self inside.

A lot of the time we isolate ourselves as a form of self-protection. It's ok to do that, especially in situations where it is an effective strategy for protection. The fact that you feel lonely highlights a need for connection while also indicating a deep fear of being harmed by other people, whether emotionally, physically or otherwise. So if your immediate environment is not helping you feel safe it helps to remember that there are people you can find outside of it who can make you feel seen and secure. That could be counselors and teacher if you are in school or university, workplace therapists and advisors if you are working, online communities, people in your extended circle who feel trustworthy etc. Take it slow, but remember, there are people around you who care.

I can't say have a specific answer that will tell you why or what you may do for resolution. I know personally that I don't know of almost anyone who I know who doesn't become lonely at occassional times. As someone who has gotten an introverted title from personality tests I think it's common personally to want to surround myself with people occassionally even if alone time is something that is ideal for me to settle down for the day. I think one thing I've thought over the years is to consider why I want to be alone or spend time around people. Do I hope to spend time helping others or perhaps spend time with them? Is it solely at work for me or also when I'm off work? What does this mean for my friend and what can I offer them in return for their time? Do I feel a void to serve others in my community? Perhaps do I want to give company? Do I feel like self isolating to avoid something? Do I need to change friends circles and am I looking for community or friendship?Some people I know have joined groups, played sports, or even volunteered. Some people at my church seem to gain a lot of connection with each other too. I think isolating does sometimes concern me in my own life if I dont know why or if its used for avoiding an issue but I never felt that I have gone to long without trying to occassionally speak with others. I know this may not fully answer your question in a specific manner but I hope it can offer thoughts on the experience.

I understand. I have gone through that too. Try making a goal to make one friend a day. It will help more than you think.

We've felt this; most of us. You feel like sitting away in your room, listening to your favourite music, blanket wrapped around you. I get it. But at the same time, we all crave attention and love, friendship and cuddles, I think the music helps, go ahead and relax in your blanket with your music blasting, but don't forget to come here for a chat, phone a close friend, parental figure, adult or even just relatives you're comfortable with, if you can, ask them to go shopping, to watch a movie, or ask about a book you know they read. Other people worry about these things too, they will be happy to be invited somewhere, even if they cant make it. Its important to remember that we are all a little overwhelmed at times :).

For me, when I felt like this, the thing that helped was pushing myself outside. I was in college so it was easier to find spaces where I could sit on a bench outside, doing my own thing, while also not feeling as lonely as when I had shut myself in my room. Getting the fresh air, seeing and listening to people, really helped me refocus myself and my energy. I felt less lonely while being alone, and that feeling of being alone became one of reflection rather than judgment. I wish I had been able to do that more often, talking myself out of wanting to isolate. It helped immensely.

Do both, isolate yourself to gather your thoughts but do it when you relax, but then find others to talk to so you don't feel so alone.

I would say perhaps you should start out by seeking out others with similar interests. Perhaps go for a nice walk or visit the local library.

We feel lonely when we are unable to communicate with others , when we feel outcast , misunderstood , bullied or sometimes just because we don't want to bother others with our emotions that we see as an ISSUE for us. And when we feel lonely the best therapy we could think of is isolating ourselves , we pull our guards up and don't let anyone in because of all the unpleasant experiences we have already had. To some extent it's okay too , I mean protecting ourselves is not a bad idea, it just becomes a concern when we deny to come out of this isolation , when our fears are so big that they doesn't allow us to trust another human. But honestly speaking there are beautiful people in the world who are willing to hold our hand and guide us through this darkness of loneliness , all it needs us is to ask for it. How can we make that one relationship/friendship work if we grow our Walls and doesn't give that 1 out of 100 people a chance with whom we connect? Give yourself a chance by giving them an opportunity to know you. I think if you deal with loneliness , you might not feel the need to isolate yourself. Try to participate in life whether it's about taking walk in a park , talking to family/friends/strangers , listening to your favorite music , reading a book , treating yourself in a restaurant, exploring some new dimension of life or any other thing of your interest. Just do it. I know it will take every ounce of energy to do this but believe me it will be worthy at the end 😊

Hey there, I would say set little challenges. Like go outside for just 2 minutes. When you complete a challenge, reward your self, say well done or do something good for yourself. This will cause a positive spiral where you can keep doing small challenges. It doesn't matter how well or bad it went as long as you did it that's what you reward! I have done this myself to improve my social anxiety and it has been really effective for me and hopefully you too! Know that you can do it :) I hope this helps you, thank you :)

We feel like that sometimes because we want to know if someone cares. If someone will respond to our desperate calls for help one thing you should know is that before you expect someone to help you you should help yourself. You should be comfortable in your own skin. Then we would not be scared that no one will catch us if we fall. Your thoughts start to change and that positive outlook will attract positive people in you life. Just trust yourself that is all that matters. Learn to accept and love yourself for who you were, who you are and finally who you hope to become one day

As cliché as it sounds, reaching out to people is usually what helps me the most when I'm feeling isolated. In order for it to be helpful however, you have to be honest about how you feel. Opening up is most difficult at the beginning. Trying to open up to somebody can often feel forced and unnatural. It helps to start off small. For example, just a few years ago when people asked me how I was doing I would always have the default answer of 'I'm good'. This was because I thought my problems would be a burden to others, or that they simply wouldn't care or couldn't help me. But in most cases this isn't true. It is true however that sometimes opening up is going to lead to some awkward conversations. And sometimes the person your talking to may not know the right thing to say or do but that's okay. The main benefit to opening up to others, at least for me, is that I was finally being honest. And this honesty made me feel more connected to others than I had been in years.

Maybe you could try reaching out to some trusted friends or family. Let them know how you are feeling and think of a few ways they may be able to help you through this. For example, they could consider reaching out to you when it seems like you are starting to isolate yourself more. I have struggled with similar challenges in the past, and I found it really helpful to open up to one or two trusted friends who now reach out, just to check on me, when they haven't heard much from me in a few days. Perhaps something like this could help?

When you feel like isolating yourself you probably aren't enjoying your surroundings. is it true? In such a case it feels weird and confusing and i completely understand it . But ask yourself what is the one thing you enjoy doing ? what makes you happy ? And keep doing it. you will find it soothing once you do what you like doing . And loneliness doesn't always require people to be healed. You can feel less lonely and happy with yourself. So if you do feel like being alone its fine . Do what you want to and enjoy it. Focus on yourself and you will no longer be lonely

I have been here many times myself. Sometimes, I find that the best thing for me to do in this situation is to go outside. I don't need to talk to anyone, or do anything in particular. When I lived in a city, I would just walk to a park, and listen to people talk and laugh. I know the desire to isolate oneself can be really strong. I also have some social anxiety/introverted tendencies, so sometimes I get even more tired and lonely and frustrated when I talk to people, but just going for a walk outside will help reset my mood. Everyone is different, though, so try to find something that works for you!

Try to be nice to yourself. Do little things that make you feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you can be the best for others and be there for them, you are the most important person in your life so take self care very seriously. I know it is hard to pull yourself out of the funk some times but you will come back to wanting to be around people again and feel like you want to be social again soon. It is an ebb and flow, everyone has low time and it makes the high times feel so much better!

As an introvert, having down time is important. But when you are isolating yourself too much, you are getting yourself an unhealthy habit. Sticking with an unhealthy habit for too long and you get yourself an unhealthy lifestyle. When you feel lonely, going out to meet strangers is a great way to break the habit. As a side not: volunteering can be life-saving for little hermit crabs.I am talking from my own experience. I was a little hermit crab, who loved staying home and eating snacks too much. Up till university, I had the tendency to isolate myself. My family shamed me for not being social at all and not putting efforts into network. I got scared of other people and I had problem talking with people outside of my family. Even after university, I found it difficult to seek job opportunities and deal with interviews. Then I started to volunteer for different non-profit organizations. Along the way I have learnt to cope with interacting with strangers. I got less and less nervous when I am doing public speaking. I am glad that I took the first step even though I know I have a long way to go to become what I want to be. It is normal to be afraid when you are not in your comfort zone. There is a quote, saying "Everything you’ve ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear." I can't agree more. I encourage you to make some change everyday. One step at a time. One day when you look back, you will find out and be proud of how much you have achieved through small steps.

It is normal for all of us to feel lonely from time to time. May be it is time to ask what you need and want the most at this very moment. Do you have any void in your life? What do you see when you look yourself in the mirror? Are you happy with being who you are? Do you have family and friends? Are you comfortable being with a close group of friends ? Or are you comfortable being with a large group of friends? What do you do when you’re alone? Ask yourself what you want the most right now.

You may consider finding and exploring what makes you feel lonely. You can find people you can connect with or find hobbies. If there is something in your way of doing so push yourself to do it anyways or work towards it. It is not always easy finding people you can connect with and it can take time. Be patient with yourself and understand you are not alone. Try joining a club you might be interested in or find volunteer options around you to get yourself out there. Or start by going out in nature, observing life that is not human. Appreciate all the other things on earth that make us a whole. All of these things helped me and I hope they will help you too!

Loneliness is a strange beast: it devour us, but we develop a sort of codependency. The more we feel lonely, the more we do to keep on feeling lonely. It seems a nonsense, but it happens. Loneliness is feeded by isolation and isolation is feeded by loneliness. The best you can do about it is to plan some tasks everyday for two weeks. The tasks shouldn't be overwhelming, otherwise you'll feel completely drained. A task could be "ask two people how their day is going" or "get in touch with one friend and enjoy a coffee together". There are minor patterns you have to break: isolation tends to embrace procrastination. Setting little tasks is going to be challenging enough without becoming frustrating. Odds are, as the time comes, you'll feel anxiety rising up. There are only two rules. Rule number 1: stick to the plan, unless it's not your fault. Don't make up excuses no to go out two hours before meeting your friend. Rule number 2: these tasks must be done in real life. Keep it simple and enjoy vulnerability. The world is missing you!

]It really varies from person to person and thus better to discuss with someone who knows you a little better. That being said here are some suggestions that have helped many people. Firstly, many times just talking about it with someone can help. Here at 7 Cups of tea there are many active listeners to whom you can chat and share your feelings with them. Sometimes it's all you need. Another suggestion is to think about and ask yourself the following questions: 1. Why do I feel like isolating yourself? 2. What will I gain from isolating myself? 3. What can I do to change the way I feel? Sometimes discussing such thoughts with a friend or an active listener can help you even better. Another suggestion is find a social-cirlce with good friends. Many times being part of a healthy social circle or simply having good friends that you feel comfortable with can help quite a bit. But it can be hard to become comfortable with your social-circle or friends, especially when you don't have yet a good enough connection with them. Another suggestion, which is very recommended and has helped many people overcome loneliness, is to look for ways to help and be kind to others. This will help you in multiple ways. Firstly, when you think of helping or being kind to others you don't think so much about yourself and it is thus easier to overcome feelings of isolating yourself. Of course now you are also feeling much less lonely because you are with other people. Alas, by helping others and doing acts of kindness you are making the world a better place and perhaps you have also helped others feel less lonely along the way. In conclusion though, as mentioned at the beginning, it is best to discuss this subject with someone who knows you on a personal level and has enough experience to give you the right advice and guidance.

Find your closest friend, or someone you feel you can trust with anything. You don't even need to talk with them. Being in the presence of another human being can definitely bring something out of you. Maybe a gut feeling, maybe a little voice in your head. Maybe pressure to start conversation with another. If you don't feel up to it, take a break. Hide yourself in your personal secret land for a while. Set goals. Like, today I shall interact with my neighbour! One tiny step, baby steps really. As long as you move forward, you can do it in your own way. Worm, wiggle, crawl, walk, soar. Any progress is better than none. But do ask yourself, why am I feeling lonely? Lack of friends? Low self esteem? Had a day that put you down in the dumps? It's gonna be tough, but with the human spirit, I'm sure you'll get somewhere. Or maybe you're not built for it. Introverts exist. Why though? A little feeling that spreads like wildfire, or creeping up your spine, telling you not to make that step? It's okay, it's a natural thing, everyone feels it, maybe on a passing occasion. Pour out your emotions maybe. Write a short story, paint, draw, listen to your favourite music. Maybe stay in that bundle of your paradise a little longer. Do remember to come out though. Loneliness and human being don't really go well together. It gnaws away at your heart and instills doubt. Don't let it get to you.

I’m currently going through something similar. At first I didn’t really have a way to cope or so I thought, and then I started writing it out. Why I feel lonely and all of the frustrations just came pouring out and helped me realize that I am lonely but that is what the unavoidable circumstances that I’m living under brings and came to peace with it. It sounds easy to say ; like deal with it. But with the busy lifestyle I’m leading, classes, therapy, living alone, exam pressure. I’m glad I came to peace with it because if I were to go through this again I would know how to get through it. Then I wouldn’t struggle as much.