I feel so alone. I feel like if I was removed from the equation, nothing would change. Is this true?
Last Updated: 12/13/2021 at 4:51am
Lauren Abasheva, LMHC
Licensed Professional Counselor
A sex positive, and kink knowledgeable therapist with an open mindset and a clear understanding that we are all different.
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It most definitely isn't true. Loneliness can be overwhelming and trick us into believing our life as a whole doesn't matter. More than not, we only think this because that's what other people make us believe. There are people who care. Don't let those people making you believe you're not important ruin your only shot at life. The world, fortunately, is quite big, so you will find people who genuinely care about you and make you feel like you belong. I know it's hard to picture it when reality seems to tell you otherwise, but everything can change. If you ever need to talk, I'll be very happy to help. Best wishes :)
That's not true. Even though you feel alone, if you were "removed from the equation" as you say, your friends, family, neighbors, pets, teachers, coworkers, somebody out there would feel the difference.
No this is absolutely not true. Think of your parents. They would walk into your empty room, eyes full of tears, wishing you were there to make them smile. You are their child after all. Think of your friends. They love to mess around with you. They care about you. If you remove yourself, they will come to school or work sad as heck, wanting to see your smile again, wishing you were there to joke around. Think of yourself, how amazing you really are. Do you really want to let the life given to you go? All this "If i die, nothing will change" stuff is bullcrap. Everything would change. Everyone who has met you would be impacted for the worse.
Your feelings of loneliness are valid and shared, especially in a period of deep uncertainty. Sometimes we become so used to loneliness, that we speak the "Loneliness" language and we act as if it was the only way to live. Good thing we always have options and we can choose to feel less lonely. One of the easiest things to do is to stop thinking that online friends are not real friends. The image and the way we communicate online may be different, but it's always true in a way it's how we choose to represent ourselves. Dare to communicate and to express your feelings: you will find a world of people what can't wait to make you feel important... 'cause you are.
Alone can be a scary feeling and you are so brave to reach out. I have felt this way in the past - like nothing I do makes a difference and no one truly understands me. The truth is that every life touches another and no one can do things exactly the way you do. Smiling at a stranger or doing something kind for someone can alter a person’s day in a positive way, maybe even their life, and it is a ripple effect for everyone else they come in contact with. Even though you may not feel it right now, your existence absolutely has an impact. You asked this question, I am answering it, and other people will read it and think about it - you have changed the course of the night for multiple people.
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