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What are the pros and cons of making friends online?

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Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 7:41am
Okay making friends online can be fun however from personal experience you can be whoever you wish to be online. You really need to leave online friends as just that and only make them real friends if you meet in real time at a function or on another occasion. It is so easy to miscommunicate in the written word too. If someone actually doesn't articulate very well it can be damaging. We need in life to become friends first and for most to build trusting relationships and staying consistent seems to be the key with anything relationship wise I in life.
ExistentialConversation
August 1st, 2018 10:38pm
Pros: you can make a lot of “friends”, you can find people with similar interests. Cons: I don’t think anything can replace face to face human contact.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 2:34am
Its hard to always be 100% certain if you who you see on the other side is authentic. They also aren't fully aware of your situation meaning that they might not be the most helpful. Whilst they can feel safer you don't know what they are actually doing. It also means you fail to develop all of the social skills.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 6:28am
PROS: -feel like you won't get judged necessarily on looks or appearance -you generally meet over something mutual, like a game, fan of something or someone CONS: -they aren't physically there -you can't always trust everyone
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 5:53pm
Pros, it’s easier, a lot of the times people are nicer, you don’t have to show you’re face, you can be yourself. Cons, people lie, people can be inappropriate, they can scam you
musicalBubbles69
August 12th, 2018 6:15am
Many online friends can be fake, or not be who they say they are. But, online friends can give advice, and talk to you when you need someone to talk to.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 6:11pm
Pros are...I can help people and they could possibly help me. Cons...you never really know who you are talking to.
peanutsarefriends
August 18th, 2018 8:20am
It is easier to find someone with similar interests online. Many people feel better talking to someone through a chat (as they have more time to think about what they want to say) rather than face to face, although sometimes it is difficult to find a topic during an online conversation since in real life, silence would eventually become so awkward that someone would feel obliged to say something, which doesn't really seem to happen on, for example, Messenger. There is always a risk that your online friend is pretending to be someone they are not, which can be dangerous.
Elainna
August 23rd, 2018 12:06am
The internet has provided an amazing resource to make friends all around the world. Through social media, fandoms, and almost everywhere else we are interacting with strangers like never before. Internet friends can be amazing, however there are some obvious risks to connecting without ever seeing the other person’s face. Pros would be that you can meet people you really relate too, with the same interests. These people can’t embarrass or ridicule you, because oftentimes they’re hundreds or thousands of miles away. A lot of people (including myself) have met their closest friends online. However, there can also be predators online posing as teenagers, and this can become dangerous. If you ever plan to meet up with someone you’ve met online, make sure you’ve skyped or facetimed or google duod them beforehand. Otherwise, have fun connecting!
Heronstairs310
August 28th, 2018 1:45am
Making online friends can be really beneficial, especially if you are too nervous to make friends in real life. I've definitely been there. You can make some really good friendships online; ones where you can talk to them about stuff you are afraid to talk about to your friends in real life. A problem with online friends is that the realization it could never become a true friendship in real life has the possibility to crush you. Also, not everyone on the internet is safe, so you have to be careful as to who you talk to. Another bad part about online friends is that you might start finding it harder and harder to connect to people in real life, ultimately causing more harm than good. If you really just want someone to talk to though, I've met a lot of good people on the app Wattpad, which is an app where people can self-publish their books for people to read. There are a lot of published poetry books where people pour out their feelings, and there are a lot of people that are really good at helping you through tough times. I follow quite a few good people and projects on wattpad under the same username as the one I use on here. Just don't completely disconnect yourself from the real world.
thescorpiohelper
September 6th, 2018 7:39pm
A huge pro is that you have people to talk to even when they don't really know you. Also the fact that they can be here for you even when your real friends are not and they can understand you. But a huge con is that you don't really know them to so it's not a good idea to share personal things and to meet with them. People never know what is behind the profile that you are texting with so everyone has to be extremelly careful when it comes to online texting. Another con is that if they need major help you can't really do anything besides calling someone.
wishfulVoice36
September 13th, 2018 10:33pm
i believe it is good to make friends online as if you don't feel comfortable talking about certain subjects with your friends then you have your online friends help to give you advice. i dont like talking to people that live close to me my problems but i like talking to friends online because they dont know me fully and they wont judge me for anything i say however i feel as if people who live close to me and who know me well would have some element of judgement for some of the things that i may say.
sweetWriting46
September 29th, 2018 11:16am
This is really a Good one to be answered. The pros and cons are as follows. The pros are sometimes there is every possibility of getting a good friend and good person to share the things, share views and thoughts. There is advantage of learning new things and language exchange helps sometimes and can be able to know the tradition, culture and customs of the person if he is from different country or region. The Cons are the Online friends are not trust worthy. If personal details are shared knowingly or not knowingly it might lead to difficulties. The other thing is there every possibility of being emotionally attached to the person who is an online friend. There is every possibility of being get hurt badly in the end if the online friendship ends.
moonlow
September 30th, 2018 7:39am
Friendship online is probably one of the trickiest things that came with the internet popping into existence? On one hand, because of the divide it creates, friendships can become a lot less stressful, and casual. You're also able to show these hypothetical friends the best side of yourself--whatever you want them to see. On the other hand, however, this sometimes makes the friendship less meaningful. I've talked to a lot of people who feel like online friendships can't be serious; that you can't communicate real emotions through a screen. They'll talk about how, on the internet, everything--including their friends--seems shallow, and fake. Does that make sense? Online friendship could be good, depending on what you're looking for. If you want something careless, to have fun with, the online world could be a good bet. If you want something more grounded and realistic, though, you're probably gonna have to turn to the corporeal. :/
magnanimousWinter46
October 4th, 2018 11:09pm
Pros of online friendships: the differences in location, opportunities for travel. Knowledge of other lifestyles. Conversation is a real thing, not focused so much on the external things rather the internal things that makeup this person. Personally, online friendships are more concentrated on getting to know someone because there arent busy coffee shops with loud music or people distracting you. You dedicate a time to chat with them. They know the popular spots in their city. I’m going a little bit of everywhere with these answers. Cons of making friends online: from the age MySpace, I had to save up money for my sister to take me to visit my friend who lived 2 hrs away, also depending on your age money can be an issue (driving or flying). You aren’t experiencing life with them. Everyone needs physical presence! You never really know the person you are interacting with. CATFISH.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2018 7:35pm
Well I’d like to make a list. Pros: Low maintenance (‘outings’ occur at your pc) Higher superficial compatability because of limited interaction/responsibilities Some degree of judging character/values based purely on what they say Ease to end the relationship based on information exchanged Ease to control your information revealed Greater number and diversity of people met/ interest in cultures Cons: Higher effort to meet irl if long distance/or the possibility of never meeting in person Inability to judge character based on body language, daily scenarios (idk bad habits), and on the actions they take Ease for them to block communication with you Ease for them to hide information from you Honestly it’s 4 am and I’m pretty sure there’s way more but I’m out for the moment haha
Anonymous
October 28th, 2018 9:02am
Easier to talk to, as behind the screen so I can pretty much say my deepest darkest secrets. But taking it 'off-online' is way more riskier and maybe more riskier. Also online you don't have to worry about being seeing the other's face for any reactions and its much more easier to be open rather than face to face where social anxieties come into play. Despite risking no off-site contact I have had online friends before and they were as close to me as any of my real flesh and blood friends who I see everyday, so there is that!
Anonymous
October 31st, 2018 10:39am
The positives of making friends online is that there is the absence of gating features. So certain things you are insecure about are not displayed online so you can make connections with people without feeling vulnerable about your insecurities. This absence of gating features can mean you make friends with an almost fictional person as people can cut and paste and edit how people perceive them. A postive is that when you meet people online you usually have a common interest and that interest maybe a niche so you can actually have a stronger connection than people you meet in real life as there is a higher level of disclosure in a smaller frame of time online than in person. However these friends maybe all over the world which is cool because it gives you the opportunity to travel to cool places but it kind of sucks because you cannot see them everyday.
cocobeauty
November 9th, 2018 1:50am
The pros of making friend online is that it's easier to open up. It's easier to open up because some people find it easier to write to people than talking to them in person. And you have the choice to go anonymous . The con of making online friends is that you'll never know who to trust, you can set yourself up for danger, and you can be taken advantage of. When you're online it's harder to tell if people are lying or telling the truth but mot of the time you might believe them because the way the word their things. You're could set yourself up for danger by talking to completely stranger then trusting them 10 minutes later this could also lead into them taking advantage of you.
Joye74
November 29th, 2018 5:19pm
Lots of things can go well and not so well as it is difficult to know who we are talking/communicating other side. Only, pros I see is a social contact without any anxiety. But, there are serious risks of identity related safety. In case, the other person has some different motive than you do, it can be pretty serious. We don't realize in long conversation and end up disclosing some important information which may compromise life safety. Sometimes, the online friendship leads to abuses and bulley. It is impotant to keep doing fact checks often in online relationships.
haveyoumetJuliet
November 30th, 2018 1:50pm
The pros of making friends online are: 1. You can be at your best since you can choose the things you just want to say and filter those you don't want them to know yet. 2. You can tell them things about you and you won't be judged because they do not know you personally. 3. You can block them if they're predators. Cons: 1. You're not sure if they are telling the truth about themselves or just filtering things out like you do. 2. You are not sure if they will reply or respond to you or not. 3. You can't see how they're really feeling or emotions shown in their faces and body language when you're talking online with them.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2018 10:33pm
The cons: scams, mentally ill people, identity thefts... The pros: Making amazing and sincere friendships. For me, it is worth it, but be careful, anything can happen behind screens. Meeting people online is comparable to a lottery. Sometimes you make amazing uncquaintances; while other times you find bad people and you just regret the experience. The good and the bad are present everywhere, we just need to work our brains a little. It also depends on where you meet these people, what kind of pages and groups you follows, and things like that. You are less likely to find good people on "find friends" groups. That was just an example from my personal experience. Most of them are fake. :) Hope this comment helped.
SaraHoffman
December 6th, 2018 11:44pm
Pros: you have a new friend. Cons: They are not who you think they are and you get with the wrong person.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2019 7:44am
Making friends online is a great way to meet people that you may never get the chance (or not be confident enough) to talk to in real life. On the flip side of that it is difficult to tell if someone is sincere without being able to pick up physical or verbal cues. People could pretend to be someone they aren’t and possibly exploit your private information. It is best to be cautious when talking to people online and do so through secure platforms. Despite all this, making friends online is still a great opportunity and can help to expand your knowledge by seeing things from different perspectives.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2019 2:57am
So pros included just feeling connected, meeting people of different cultures and areas, as well widening your friend circle. cons include not really knowing who you’re talking too and the internet gives them a huge mask to hide under and increases uncertainty. They could have picture of a young adult but actually be an older man preying. But meeting online opens a very large door to get us out of our comfort zone and learn new things about new people that you may have never found. it allows you see that and experience that the world is a much bigger place than your community and what you see everyday
Anonymous
January 27th, 2019 10:01am
For me, I’ve had a lot of pros. Online friends to me seem nicer and more loyal than people you could meet in real life. You also might agree on more things or have more things in common than your friends in real life. A lot of the time online friends will share some of the same interests as you. Some cons I would say are if they live in a different country than you, the time zone might be different from yours, so you might be available at different times. Another con I guess is that you can’t talk to them in real life like you can with your friends in real life.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2019 11:34pm
You meet new people around the world, You talk to them in real time. You can find out new things, you can find what is happening around the world. You can also introduce new things and get people to know about you and what your likes are. But it can also be risky. because you do not know who you are talking to, or what they are like. anyone can be anyone behind a computer, they could be hackers or stalkers, they could spread untrue things about you. They could use online abuse by trolling you from miles away
Anonymous
March 27th, 2019 3:49am
pros: • making friends online can really boost your confidence and make you feel like you always have someone there for you, especially on 7cups since there are people here specifically to help and be kind to you • another pro is that chatting with them is always an amazing experience. you never know if they're across the world or if they're in your area. it's always entertaining to find out their quirks, hobbies, and their story overall • online friends can really help you explore so many new things you never knew you needed to find out and discover cons: • even though many are amazing, there's always those creeps and toxic, dangerous people out there. if you're not careful they'll easily manipulate you into something you don't want
Gracegiveshelp
April 19th, 2019 8:25pm
The pros of making friends online is that they can always be there for you. You can whip out your phone (or any other device) and text them at any time, however many cons come with internet friends. You don’t always know who you are talking to (cliche, I know!) i always like to confirm my internet friends are ‘real’ through a FaceTime call. If I FaceTime them, and I can clearly see who they are, then great! I’ve never had a bad experience with internet friends, but I know for a fact if I FaceTimed my internet friend and they didn’t show their face, I’d be kind of creeped out. Another con is that they could be using you, humiliating you.
Mondrian
May 3rd, 2019 4:46am
When I think about making a friend online I can think about having access to a much larger number of selections/possibilities: I can have access to many people all around the word; there is no time or location limitation. So, it is more probable to find a like minded friend online, while when I want to find a non-online, like-minded friend, I will have only the choice of selecting someone among the people around me, the people that I already know, who might not be close to what I am looking for. Also I will be able to connect to online friends more easily. As soon as we both have some time, doesn't matter whether it is late at night or early in the morning, at any time, it would be possible to connect, while meeting with a non-online friend needs more time, and it is not possible to meet with them at any time. Though, there are good things about having a non-online friend that is missing when we have online friends, like being able to look at each other's eyes, or communication with our body language, tone of voice and things that should be seen or heard. As a result the communication could be more limited and less emotionally fulfilling. Also miscommunication, misinterpretation or misunderstanding can happen more easily. Not to mention that not to be told the truth or getting deceived becomes more easily possible.