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What does it mean when you feel lonely all the time?

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What does it mean when you feel lonely all the time?
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ElephantTiger1
June 14th, 2017 6:54am
Feeling lonely isn't an uncommon response, people will go through loneliness at least once in their lifetime. Sometimes when we feel lonely this can be an indication that something in your life needs to change, whether that is an unhealthy relationship with a friend or partner or even the job that you are in. Sometimes changing routine and trying something different or new to engage yourself in new experiences can be enough to make you feel included and accepted again. But please remember that even when you feel alone and like nobody cares, people do care and you are greatly loved. Don't give up, I believe in you!
Anonymous
June 11th, 2017 3:43pm
You are probably not getting what you need from the people in your life - support, affection, conversation...
aimy
April 21st, 2017 1:26pm
It can mean a great deal of things. Loneliness can be a symptom of something more serious, like depression. Remember to take care of yourself and if you feel compelled to, seeing a doctor isn't a bad idea if your loneliness is affecting your quality of life.
skeletondoorframe
February 11th, 2017 6:29am
When you feel lonely all the time, it could mean you don't talk to your friends enough. Try to shoot them a message or do something with them.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2017 10:18am
If you feel lonely all the time then that is not a good sign. I, myself have been through that feeling my most of my teenage years. You may feel like, more people is the solution to your loneliness, but alas, it is not so. Instead, i would say that it may be the result of us, spending so much time in our head, overthinking every little thing. It may also mean, we are not challenging ourselves to grow as much as we should. It may also mean that we haven't yet found our passion in life (or really a thing that we are good at and love doing). Just realize that we need get out of our head and live the hell out of whatever is presented to us by our life. Just give yourself new challenges to overcome and try your best (what if you can't? You will still have a best time).
emmalah
December 31st, 2016 3:47pm
Usually it means the connections that are existent in your life aren't fulfilling you emotionally in a way that you need. To help it can be quite useful in really looking at what you want from the support network around you and being able to voice those wants so that you can strengthen weak connections. It is perfectly valid to feel lonely even in a room full of people, try to pick out one or two people that you think may be able to help and work on creating a dialogue you are in control of that fulfills you. Sending hugs!
Leah157
July 22nd, 2020 1:32pm
To me, this means that you feel like you have no one, who is willing to listen to you. You feel like no one in the world cares about you, worries about you, and thinks about you. It's like when you turn on your phone to text somebody that you just want to talk, you end up turning your phone back off because there is no one that you can reach out to. Loneliness to me is just when there is an empty feeling in your chest, and you know that there is no one by your side. (However, this feeling varies so much among every individual.)
Zac001
August 7th, 2016 1:29am
It's perfectly normal to go through times where you feel alone. I have been there many times I myself and one pretty recently. Try to surround yourself with people who mean the most to you. Focus on the good.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 2:12am
When you feel lonely all the time it could mean that you either done connect with many people or you need to go out there a make friends by joining sports clubs,lessons etc.
contentheart16
July 25th, 2016 2:14am
I think feeling lonely all the time does not necessarily mean you are alone all the time. You can feel alone in a big group of people or even in your own house. Sometimes that is how it was for me. You may feel that people do not understand you or you may feel that you are truly isolated from the people around you. It is the worst feeling ever, especially when you have people around you that love you unconditionally.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 1:22pm
Loneliness, depression, the feeling of being completely helpess and hopeless it's not a good feeling
CupidtheKingofLove
December 3rd, 2020 7:17pm
It means your feeling alone. Humans are social creatures and it hurts being alone. The feelings you get when there is no one like friends, family, a lover, etc someone that you can always be there for you. Therefore that is what it feels to be lonely. No one deserves to be lonely and alone but people don't get along with everyone and thus those who need friendship doesn't mean they have to be perfect. Not everyone fits. No one is perfect. Ways to cope with loneliness? Keep yourself busy. Read books, watch a movie, listen to songs etc. But it affects you as loneliness gets into your mind and makes everything dark. Distracting self is very helpful and important.
originalbraveheart63
October 13th, 2016 2:34pm
It may mean many things, if it is possible to talk to someone then try to do it, maybe it would help.
Bri2341
October 20th, 2016 7:07pm
You actually have no one
lovingLynx89
August 24th, 2016 10:03pm
It means you love being connected to others in a deep way and there is more potential in you to look for deeper connection with those you love.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 1:32pm
You might be neglected by the people around you or maybe you are just having lots of time where you don't have tasks to do so you stay alone & think about your problems while everyone else is busy in their own lives
MsWhite
June 29th, 2016 10:34am
It could mean that no matter how many people you have around you, you don't have a soul-to-soul connection with anyone..
Titch94
August 23rd, 2016 2:53pm
It means that you feel all alone in the world, that you're completely different to everyone else, that no one else understands you, that you feel like you have no friends in the world to talk to. It means that you have no one to share memories with, do things with. Loneliness sucks! But there's no need to feel like that. There are 7 billion people in the world. Someone out there would love to be your friend.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 12:59am
I guess you feel like that because you are no so sociable, or maybe you feel something is missing...
Anonymous
January 19th, 2020 11:02pm
It means you feel lonely chronically. It also means you need to do something about it. Disconnection from the rest of the population causes more mind problems than you think. Spend more time with your family and friends. If you are a hermit crab, you may need to put in the efforts to get out of your comfort zone. If you don't want to get out of your house and you don't talk with your family or friends. Try talking with strangers. Use social media to communicate with quality people. Find a project and do something that can improve your life and other people's lives.
ShooqA
December 14th, 2019 2:54am
The feeling of being completely isolated even when you're surrounded by millions... I may not have the knowledge of all things around me, however, I have dealt with feelings of extreme loneliness for the majority of my life; even before I understand exactly what loneliness means. Though many factors come into play, I personally believe it is best to seek professional help when feelings such as loneliness exist and affect your mood/behavior for a prolonged period of time. When I did finally see a psychologist after years of refusing to ask for help, I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, which turned out to be the culprit behind my loneliness! I pray you find the answer to this painful curse. It truly hurts more than any physical wound I've known.
calmingJewel2421
August 22nd, 2019 7:06pm
It most likely means that you do not connect to the people around you, maybe because of trust issues, or other issues. Maybe you don't fit in with the people you surround yourself with. In other cases it may just be that you are alone a lot of the time, which is not bad in any way, although being social is healthy, it is always better to stay alone than with people that are not good for you. Simple ways to deal with loneliness is to get to know new people, or simply take a walk around your town, explore new areas. Avoid getting stuck infront of the computer, or eating too much food, to cope.
Jezbr
August 28th, 2019 6:33am
Many of the times I have felt lonely was tied to how I saw myself compared to others. I would look at other people online or in real life having fun and many friends but I was stuck at home. My energy was usually low so I felt like I couldn't get out of the house. And I would assume that no one wanted to hang out with me because no one asked. But, then I asked someone to get a coffee with me. And they said yes. And it became clear that my energy would raise with just a walk outside. And as I am an extreme extravert, just sitting in a town square with people whilst drawing was great for not feeling lonely. But I understand that some seasons its even hard to get out of the house. Or to meet people. Sometimes we are isolated. I live 10,000km from my family. So its very easy to feel isolated. But there are people to talk to here on 7 cups. There are probably people in your city that want a new friend. And a few things can connect you quickly. Including augmented reality games like pokemon go, or learning a new language. I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. But proud that you are reaching out. Keep reaching. People are here for you.
RosieSpring
September 26th, 2021 5:04am
There are many things that could be going on to make you feel lonely constantly. First of all, you could just be genuinely lonely. Maybe you have no friends and your family doesn't spend time with you. That kind of loneliness is tough to deal with. But there's also another kind of loneliness. You may have "friends" and a family that's always around, but they can be careless and exclude you. For example, you could have a friend whose judgmental and doesn't understand you. When you don't feel comfortable around the people you're surrounded by, it can feel like you're battling the world alone. Both of these are hard things to deal with.
jaylynelora
December 21st, 2019 6:30am
Feeling lonely is a feeling everyone feels even the ones we look at as "perfect". It is a completely normal feeling we all go through, but to feel lonely all the time is not healthy. This feeling being all the time could mean you're not comfortable with yourself or others. Being comfortable with yourself is a start, self-love is important. Once you love yourself and are comfortable with yourself you will find yourself being comfortable with others as well. Improving your comfort with yourself will help comfort with others as well which will lead to you not feeling lonely anymore regarding your comfort with others and interacting with one another.
gentleSun78
July 18th, 2019 8:48am
Being lonely all the time means that some of your needs aren't met. It can arise also when your self care isn't sufficient or you overburdened yourself. You can consider some more self care and cuddling yourself. Try to think about people who like you and disregard people who dislike or hurt you. Feeling of loneliness can also arise when you are bored and no one currently has time to hang out with you. You can consider to distract yourself with a hobby or relaxing activity (exercising, for example). Constant feeling of loneliness can also signal that you have got depression and you need professional counselling or psychiatrist.
bouncyShoulder2478
June 17th, 2021 3:04pm
It depends. But when you feel lonely it usually means that something may be off in your life; emotions are guideposts. For example, it may mean that you're not feeling seen and/or heard in your closest relationships. This can also happen if you feel like your needs aren't being met. And it can simply mean that you haven't seen your friends in a while and that you are missing human interaction. In any case, loneliness usually means that we should reach out to others. It's important to take note of how we're feeling and take action on it. For example, reaching out on 7 cups.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2021 2:17pm
If you feel lonely at times, it means that you don't have many people to talk with. If you feel lonely all the time, it means that you are not being friendly to yourself. So, talk to yourself first. You will know what you have in yourself and what you don't. So that you will start attracting the right people and the loneliness will be left alone. You must also understand that there can be loneliness even when there are hundreds and thousands of people around you. Because being alone is different from being lonely. Love others as you love yourself. So, Love yourself first.
Ss1354
September 12th, 2021 10:45am
I think it means that you need to love yourself more to be able to enjoy the time that you spend alone that’s first. Maybe you also need to be patient until you find the right people that you’ll not feel lonely among them. You need to work on yourself- learn new things, try meditation & yoga and try to find things to wake up for with passion. Do what makes you happy even if you’re doing it alone just learn to be happy with that until you find the right people without any previous plans. Just don’t forget to love yourself.
delightfulPumpkin6540
July 14th, 2021 10:37pm
Emotions are communications that help us to understand ourselves better. An emotion like loneliness can tell us many things. It might indicate that we need social or emotional support. Or it might show that we are feeling a lack of connectedness with others. Most importantly, loneliness is a indicator that we are loving and are deserving of love in return, which is a good thing. There are many ways to help ourselves when we are feeling lonely. We can arrange a social event with a friend. We can call a family member or someone important to us. If we are not near loved ones, a short conversation at the store or a restaurant can also help.