why do i always feel nobody likes me?
Last Updated: 12/28/2020 at 2:33am
Melissa Strauss, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am client focused and believe everyone has a strength. I feel confident in seeing clients with generalized and social anxiety, depression and relational goals.
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It's because of what we think of ourselves. We see ourselves as somebody who's not very likeable because of being flawed. Nevertheless, there are people who you're going to meet who'd accept you for who you are whatever your personality is.
Believe me mate,a lot of people think that way.But actually there are always people who care about you,wanna see you happy and all but they never really openly say anything.But in their hearts, they feel a lot for you.
I've experienced this for a long time. I think it could be two reasons: 1/ You haven't put yourself out there enough for people to get to know you, or 2/ You have high expectation of what counts as "being well-liked", both in terms of quality (e.g. "I must be everyone's best friend") and quantity (e.g. "I must be friend with everyone"). In the second case, realize that it's both unrealistic and unnecessary. It is unnecessary because there's no point of being liked by everyone or even many people even if it's possible. We each have different social needs. Find a balance between what you're able to give and what you'd like to receive from people.
Sometimes I feel that way too, it's important to remember a lot of those times those feelings are in our heads and as we spin them around they tend to get worse. It's important to tell yourself what you know is true as you work through what you're feeling, or even talk to friends and loved ones about these fears. Sometimes we feel like the worlds against us when really we're just against ourselves. You need to start by building up and being positive with yourself. You can do this by journaling, self affirmations, and writing nice things on sticky notes and putting them on your mirrors. Most of all remember you are loved and worthy.
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