Why do I feel lonely when I'm around friends and family?
Last Updated: 08/24/2020 at 5:51am
Evelyn Coker, MSW, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I am down to earth and enjoy working with all clients. I have a special passion to support teen girls and women. My work is nonjudgmental and provides a safe space to grow.
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It might be because you feel left out, and you wonder if they really care about you. It might be because they don't understand you or because you don't have a connection with them.
You may feel lonely because the conversation subject they are having doesn't relate to your subject or the other way around you ran out of things to chat with them about so than you are left in silence.
You feel disconnected. It is very likely that you are not having real communication with you family and friends. A lot of time when we feel we are not heard, we feel alone and lonely. Humans are social creatures. In caveman time our hunter gatherer ancestors survived harsh living conditions by staying in a tribe. Throughout human evolution we have been wired to have a social life. Social interactions increase our chance of survival. That is why when we don't have enough human interactions, our brains start to act weirdly. That is why without real communication you feel lonely.
You can have the whole world around you and still feel lonely. You might feel lonely around your family because you feel like you can’t completely be yourself around them. You probably feel scared that if you bare yourself to them, they won’t accept you for who you are. Friends, on the other hand, you get to choose. So, if you’re feeling lonely even with your friends, maybe you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. True friends make you feel less lonely. You could sit in silence with them and still have a whole conversation with them. Needless to say, there will be moments in your life when you will feel like no one in the world could possibly understand what you’re going through. And, I mean no one. Not your family. Not your friends. Not a single soul. But know this, you are not alone. There are millions out there who feel the same. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It only proves you’re human. Don’t hesitate to reach out. You can visit a therapist. Or if you can’t and you just want someone to listen to what you need to say, that’s what 7 cups is for.
Sometimes you do not feel connected with people around you. The second reason could be stress or worrying about something can cause feelings of loneliness. Thirdly, difficulties can be another reason for the disconnection with friends and families. Sometimes lack of good health and mental well-being can cause loneliness in life. conflict of interest with the family and friends can be a reason for loneliness. unhealthy diet or drinking can be a factor for loneliness. sadness or depression are major factors of feeling lonely. Financial issues can cause depression. Relationship breakdown can cause feelings of depression and loneliness.
A plausible reason can be that they are not really there for you, or they don't listen, or respect you the way you want them to, or maybe you just have very different thought processes. That is a common experience, so do not worry. If you feel that they are adversely affecting your mentality, then you need to let them (toxic friends at least) go, and you will eventually find people who actually care about you, and around whom you feel loved and respected. Those are the ones that will stick around, and around whom you will feel much better.
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