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Anger makes me Self Harm and destroy objects, how can I manage this?

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Last Updated: 11/11/2019 at 3:25am
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Top Rated Answers
October 25th, 2016 3:17pm
A professional would be the best route to go, im not a professional and i cannot fix your feelings i can just talk and help guide you to the best outcome for your problem.
December 4th, 2017 4:10am
If you have anger issues, then talking to a professional could be the best option, I guess. + you can try meditation too.
December 5th, 2017 11:38am
well try listening to something or doing something that will distract you from feeling this way and that will distract you from this hopefully
September 10th, 2018 3:30pm
Anger is a strong and intense feeling that can be difficult to process. However, self-control exercises can help you manage these kind of feelings or emotions. You can breath in (through your nose) and breath out (through your mouth) slowly. Breathing exercices help the body relax and can evacuate the tensions. Finding a quiet place where you can reflect on your feelings and emotions is important : thinking about it and processing it is a part of self-care. It is important to take all the time you feel like needed to meditate on your feelings and emotions, it ultimately leads to a better understanding of the situation and of yourself. Then, listener and therapists will always be available on 7cups to help you manage this.
December 31st, 2018 9:30pm
Anger can sometimes be really hard to deal with. It often arouses more negative thoughts and urges than it started with in the first place. This might be really hard and distressing at first, but to let go of your anger you will have to completely feel it without acting on it or any thoughts that arise - it is not infinite, it will have to go away at some point and unfortunately, the more you resist, the more it will hurt and last. When calm, try visualising yourself being angry and just “observing” it, feeling how this rage flows through your hands, then paying attention to the surroundings - sounds, lights, wind... And doing that until it settles down a bit. Convince yourself that you’ll try it the next time you get angry, even if you’re just a little angry - the more you do it, the easier it gets. I wish you luck and I know you can do it (and I’m not just saying this to say it, because I had the same problem - and I did it despite thinking I couldn’t!)
November 11th, 2019 3:25am
Managing anger is a hard task when we build habits like self harm or destruction to cope with it. Instead, creating new healthier habits is the way to go! What about focusing that anger into a stream of consciousness writing session? Or a splatter paint session outdoors? When we are able to redirect our anger into a creative action, we are able to control an outburst without hurting ourselves or others. Another great opportunity to redirect that energy is to get outdoors and walk! Sometimes a brisk walk can help us cool our heads and prevents us from taking our angry energy out on others.