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Best way to get over a break up?

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Last Updated: 04/19/2021 at 8:19pm
Best way to get over a break up?
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goldenPeace97
May 9th, 2015 1:19pm
How to get over someone, A step by step guide Few concepts you must understand: •"The One" Concept is a myth: One of the main reasons if not the main reason people don't recover from breakups is that they believe in the one Myth. Your subconscious mind can never heal if it believed that the person who broke up with you was the best person who ever existed. By learning more about the "one" concept and understanding that we all have lots of potential partners out there you will be able to get rid of the pain associated with a breakup •Lots of people can be the One: I have explained before in my article the psychology of love that we fall in love with those who match some of the criteria we have in our subconscious mind. This means that more than one person can match our criteria!! Moreover you might fall in love with someone who matched 30 out of your forty subconscious criteria while in fact there could be a person out there who matches 35 of them!! •Being dumped doesn’t mean that you are bad: Contrary to common beliefs a big part of the pain experienced after a breakup is not related to the person we loved but to our hurt Egos, shaken self confidence, worries about the future and the feelings of loneliness. By learning how to divide your bad feelings into small parts and by understanding the root cause behind each part's you will be able to heal yourself completely without needing the person who dumped you!! •Recovering from breakups much faster: Once you understand why do we fall in love, why we feel bad after breakups and how love psychology works you won't only recover from the current breakup but you will get over the next ones much faster. You will never have any problems getting over someone and You will know how to get over someone even if you think that you can't forget him
Miracle
December 15th, 2014 3:57am
I would consider the best way is through the support of close family and friends.It might also be worth thinking of the reasons behind the break up and seeing if you could take something positive from a overall 'tough' life experience eg.a knowledge that for example you do not work long terms with someone who is afraid of commitment.I would also say that trying to re-engage with activities that were a bigger part of your life prior to the relationship maybe a time demanding hobby for example could be helpful in taking your mind of it and helping you reach out soically of course you can also speak to the 7cups Listeners too.
GodIsGreat
January 8th, 2015 7:18am
You need to realise that it is your past now. The more you think of it, the more it will harm you. He/She didn't deserve to live in your life. Always remember that everything happens for a reason. :)
PpatCcha27
December 15th, 2014 6:50am
Believe in yourself that you can love another person who will make you happy than you are before. Love the person that will let you cry because of joy.
joyousFreedom84
December 15th, 2014 8:02am
Break ups take time to get over, but in my experience there is a reason for everything. When going through a difficult break up, sometimes it's best to get out of the environment you are in, take a trip or go stay with a friend or your relatives for a while. It is not usually good to spend too much time alone.
BubblyBrook
December 15th, 2014 12:49pm
Give yourself some time to heal. Spend time with your family and friends. Explore your interests. Find new interests. Then when you are ready, you can start to reflect and see where the problems in the relationship were, without letting your emotions get in the way.
lovelyOcean15
September 16th, 2015 9:40pm
The best way for me to get over a break up is forgiveness. Forgive what he/she had done to me, cause as I forgive, I could have a better life and get my life back on track.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2015 8:47pm
- Feel those complex emotions, without trying to avoid them - Work on yourself - Change of style or place, might do some good - Try something new - Make efforts to fall in love with yourself - Embrace your individuality - Work on your friendships and relationships with family - Most importantly, vent to those who can understand and acknowledge, how you feel.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2016 5:20pm
Think about all the things about the other person that really bugged you. Their annoying habits or some way they acted. Then remember that you'll never have to deal with that again. Revel in your freedom. You are your own person! You don't have to be defined by another person, and you certainly don't have to make compromises for them anymore. Your single life starts here, and it will be beautiful.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2015 7:52pm
The best way to get over a breakup is to decide if the person was actually bringing out the best in you and if you two were actually encouraging and doing the same with each other. If it didn't click, then you can't really help that. Also you have to ask yourself if that person was someone who actually cared about you and if you actually felt the same yourself. You should always be willing to give them time to think unless it's all the time - then they're just over thinking and don't know what they want. If the person never really cared about you in the first place and it just didn't work, you can't sweat it. Always fight for what you love and believe in but never be someone's second choice or you're going to have to drop them.
ChinchillaMonster
September 5th, 2015 7:08am
Love yourself. Surround yourself with people you love, things you love or anythinv that makes you happy. Make yourself busy and avoid staying in your room all alone. It will haunts you every second if you give it a chance. Fill your emptiness with new hobby or going out with your family/friends. Keep yourself with motivational quotes or stories and always keep yourself healthy. It takes time to heal the broke heart, but whatever you plan to do during that certain period..make sure that you love yourself and no one can be in the same level of love towards your own body. You are worth than anything and don't harm yourself, crying all night. It doesn't change anything. Move on. Love yourself.
secretlyfree17
December 4th, 2015 3:30am
Watch a lot of movies, go out a lot and have fun! But most importantly, learn to forgive and forget your ex partner. This actually helps a load off your chest because suffering from break ups are mostly because you contemplate everyday on what had gone wrong. Learn t0 accept both you and your ex's mistakes. Take it as a lesson in life and prepare for a better future ahead with your own relationship lessons noted!
lavendersilk
November 22nd, 2015 3:05am
The best way to get over a break up is to just do something you love. Go talk to a friend, listen to music, take a walk, do anything! It's a hard thing to deal with but I promise it isn't the end of the world. You've still got your friends there with you and you still have all that you love. :)
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 8:54am
Journaling, writing down feelings, talking to friends and family and going out of the comfort-zone. And, corny as it may seem - time is the best medicine.
Gale73
November 20th, 2015 3:32pm
Well you can't really gat over it till you get over it. I mean you must cry it, drink it, pain it and it must go away. Just build something else to put your effort, enthusiasm and strength in.
daydreamer1oh1
November 20th, 2015 12:04am
Eat ice cream while watching sappy movies with a friend. Laugh until you cry. Listen to music. Move on
Immortalsoul
November 26th, 2015 11:02pm
Hang out with friends, write down bad feelings into a book and burn it, change your appearance for the better to make yourself feel good, bounce back like a tiger!
xxKrisoriaxx
November 19th, 2015 2:41pm
I think the best way to get over a break up is to refrain yourself from any situation that has to do with that person. Surround yourself with people that constantly keep you active and positive.
stellar
November 19th, 2015 1:11am
Spend time planning for your life to come. Think of all the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled.
DreamsofSuri12
November 18th, 2015 3:07pm
Eat chocolate, watch netflix! Do things that you enjoy doing, or just simply enjoy new experiences. Distract yourself!
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 1:58am
breakup music (backed by a psychological study), comfort food, your friends/family. Everyone here at 7cups!
heavenlyMelody38
November 15th, 2015 12:32pm
Let yourself grieve. Label your emotions. Recognize that grief is not a linear process. There will be ups and downs. Ask yourself how you have successfully overcome difficulties in the past. Can you do any of those things while you grieve the loss of the relationship?
wonderousSunshine82
November 15th, 2015 5:35am
Getting over a breakup is never easy. Time is the best help in recovering from a break up. Take some time for yourself, do things that you enjoy like a walk in the park, visiting a bookstore or record shop, spend time with people whose company you enjoy like your friends and family.
fieldoflilies14
November 13th, 2015 3:25pm
Remember that you are still you, and you are still a magnificent person. Try to focus on the good things in life, and that you will be ok. There will be other people and other opportunities. Time heals everything. Hang in there.
Anonymous
November 1st, 2015 8:26am
Think about yourself and your parents. Dont cry because its over, smile for what you experienced and learned. Treasure sweet moments and avoid bitterness. Love is a beautiful feeling because it makes you a better person
elephantsintheforest
November 5th, 2015 5:31am
It's not going to be easy, it might take a while but the best way to get over someone is to move on. Are there any hobbies that you've thought about taking up? Take it up. Any friends you haven't spoken to in a while? Go get coffee. Live your life, be full of it. If you sit around toying with the idea of you and your ex, you'll just make it harder to get him/her off your mind. Get out there!
genialLizards
November 5th, 2015 6:59am
Give it time. Realize that it was for the better and find someone to talk too. Find something that interests you or keeps you busy until you feel better
comfortableEars93
November 5th, 2015 12:33am
In my opinion, the best way to get over a breakup is to focus on you! Don't worry about your ex, what they are doing, who they are with, and so on. Your main goal should be to heal and grow on your own. Nobody can heal you and you need that time to be able to heal, so when the right person comes along, you don't accidentally push them away. Just focus on what's important, and that's you, and your life and growth!
Manifestation
November 3rd, 2015 5:12pm
Exercise, movement and shifting your body, heart and mind into something you are passionate about.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 8:56pm
Getting over a break up maybe hard but not impossible even though when you are going through that phase you might think it's impossible. Try to keep yourself busy , maybe with your friends or do something that gives you imminse pleasure or spend quay time with family