Best way to get over a break up?

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Best way to get over a break up?
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delightfulNatural30
October 25th, 2015 11:59pm
its ok to be upset but dont waste alot of your time on the past. lean on your friends and when your ready meet someone new, learn to do things without thinking about your ex, its not going to happen right away but slowly you will notice you'll think of them less and thats when you know you are getting over them remember to keep yourself busy in the beginning.
animeislove
October 28th, 2015 5:19am
best ways to get over a break up is Reflect on your relationship, think about what went wrong, why you guys broke it will help you understand why you need to move on. allow yourself to grieve and also to vent those negative emotions out. also find some ways that will distract you, hangout with friends and get yourself busy, go out and do things you never could do when you were in a relationship, also try and take more care of yourself get physically active or even get some new clothes. try and improve yourself and try and be strong you can do it! your ex will find this very attractive as well if your trying to move on and create a positive change to yourself, goodluck :)
TheCornishPasty
October 28th, 2015 12:35pm
I would say one of the best ways to get over a breakup is to surround yourself with the things you love e.g. your family, friends and hobbies. Try not to enclose yourself into a small space and weep over it. Get out more and just try to be who you are and run the life you want. But also you do need to accept the break up but you need to do that when you feel comfortable and in your own time.
chanelellierhea5
October 28th, 2015 8:49pm
The best way to get over a break up is to first, accept that it is over. Until you accept that the relationship is truly over, you will never be able to move on. Once you accept that the break up is over, I recommend keeping a journal. Keeping a journal to record your thoughts and feelings is a good way to deal with emotions. Keeping busy, going out with friends and family, and creating a support system are ideal steps to getting over a break up and moving on with your life.
Kayla1313
October 29th, 2015 5:55am
I'm a fan of chick flicks and ice cream. But to be serious, time will help. Break ups are hard, but over time things get better and you'll find someone new.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 10:03am
Give yourself the permission to feel as bad as you need, and do things that make you feel healthy. That, and time.
RealEmpathy
October 29th, 2015 1:44pm
Breaking up is the greater challenge. If the breakup has already happened, rest assured that it was inevitable and that you are now open to new and better relationships!
ItsJustMekitty
October 29th, 2015 9:56pm
well crying isnt always such a bad thing as many people make it out to be, so cry if it helps you to express your feelings. however you have to remember how to smile. once you feel ready to get back to your life try to distract yourself by geting back to doung your hobbies or finding new ones. asking friends to helpp you trough it could be very helpful as well :)
EsaAnnMarie
October 30th, 2015 1:39am
The best way to get over a breakup is to reflect on how this break up made you feel. Was it a good feeling or a bad feeling? Then decide why this made you feel this way and decide whether you liked this feeling. If so, take this reflection in stride and try to apply what you have learned about yourself now. If this was not a feeling you enjoyed, you most likely have learned something from this experience that you can apply to your life now that has resulted in you being stronger.
courageousBeauty49
October 30th, 2015 3:33pm
Focus COMPLETELY on yourself. Who do you want to be, and how are you going to become that person. Breakups are never easy and getting lonely is part of that. Focus on being the best you can be and time will heal the rest.
slowTime
October 31st, 2015 1:28am
Time is the best that helps :) It's good to remember that you are an individual person and you are responsible for your own life. You had good times and bad times, keep the good times in your memory and do things that make you happy. What do you enjoy doing?
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 8:56pm
Getting over a break up maybe hard but not impossible even though when you are going through that phase you might think it's impossible. Try to keep yourself busy , maybe with your friends or do something that gives you imminse pleasure or spend quay time with family
Anonymous
November 1st, 2015 8:26am
Think about yourself and your parents. Dont cry because its over, smile for what you experienced and learned. Treasure sweet moments and avoid bitterness. Love is a beautiful feeling because it makes you a better person
Manifestation
November 3rd, 2015 5:12pm
Exercise, movement and shifting your body, heart and mind into something you are passionate about.
comfortableEars93
November 5th, 2015 12:33am
In my opinion, the best way to get over a breakup is to focus on you! Don't worry about your ex, what they are doing, who they are with, and so on. Your main goal should be to heal and grow on your own. Nobody can heal you and you need that time to be able to heal, so when the right person comes along, you don't accidentally push them away. Just focus on what's important, and that's you, and your life and growth!
elephantsintheforest
November 5th, 2015 5:31am
It's not going to be easy, it might take a while but the best way to get over someone is to move on. Are there any hobbies that you've thought about taking up? Take it up. Any friends you haven't spoken to in a while? Go get coffee. Live your life, be full of it. If you sit around toying with the idea of you and your ex, you'll just make it harder to get him/her off your mind. Get out there!
genialLizards
November 5th, 2015 6:59am
Give it time. Realize that it was for the better and find someone to talk too. Find something that interests you or keeps you busy until you feel better
JustGeno11
November 5th, 2015 9:55pm
Go through the pain, grieve, and dont run. Surround yourself with people you love, friends family, confide in someone close to you. make friends and get out into the world. The best advice was given to me by my uncle, he said now you have to do "you" you have to focus on yourself and better your life. That stuck with me, i had forgotten how to be by myself, how to be just geno, and now i am starting to figure it out. Im not going to tell you it gets easier... but you get better. You are strong, you are beautiful and you are everything you need to be. It didnt work out because it wasnt supposed to. Your future is waiting for you, now go find it
Greatlistener87
November 6th, 2015 1:50am
I believe in a breakup you have to take it 1 step at a time. Firstly try not being to close with your ex cause that will only cause more confusions, Secondly try filling your time doing other things like sports or going out with friends things like that, Thirdly always give yourself room to heal if you have to cry then do it. Lastly never hold on it only makes you feel worst.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2015 5:45pm
Talking about it helps, but mainly it's up to you to understand why the relationship ended, and find healthy closure.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2015 5:04pm
Be excited about the new and better person you will be with next! life is too short to be sad, life is exciting.
Iwillhelpyouasahero
November 8th, 2015 12:22pm
Try and ask him to see if he'll go out with you again or ask someone else too (if it doesn't work)
GeorgeIkon
November 11th, 2015 11:48am
Accept that it happened. Look for the positives from you gained. Identify where you failed. Move on. Don't try to stop thinking about. Choose to stop thinking about it. It's much easier.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2015 1:38am
In my experience what helps is getting into new relationships, they don't have to be relationships with romance involved, but for haps the best way of getting over break ups is moving on.
fieldoflilies14
November 13th, 2015 3:25pm
Remember that you are still you, and you are still a magnificent person. Try to focus on the good things in life, and that you will be ok. There will be other people and other opportunities. Time heals everything. Hang in there.
wonderousSunshine82
November 15th, 2015 5:35am
Getting over a breakup is never easy. Time is the best help in recovering from a break up. Take some time for yourself, do things that you enjoy like a walk in the park, visiting a bookstore or record shop, spend time with people whose company you enjoy like your friends and family.
heavenlyMelody38
November 15th, 2015 12:32pm
Let yourself grieve. Label your emotions. Recognize that grief is not a linear process. There will be ups and downs. Ask yourself how you have successfully overcome difficulties in the past. Can you do any of those things while you grieve the loss of the relationship?
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 1:58am
breakup music (backed by a psychological study), comfort food, your friends/family. Everyone here at 7cups!
DreamsofSuri12
November 18th, 2015 3:07pm
Eat chocolate, watch netflix! Do things that you enjoy doing, or just simply enjoy new experiences. Distract yourself!
stellar
November 19th, 2015 1:11am
Spend time planning for your life to come. Think of all the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled.