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Does it become easier to manage your emotions as you become older or not ?

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Last Updated: 01/14/2019 at 8:29pm
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June 1st, 2015 4:57am
I think it does. The more experience I have dealing with negative feelings, the more I can bring them to light. Monsters always die in the light.
February 26th, 2015 3:26am
become older doesn't mean everyone can be wise and mature (physically, emotions and act). Problems and times will teach each of s to grow up, shape your personality and emotions become sharpens and mature.
March 7th, 2015 5:59pm
I don't think it is as simple as that. Firstly, we are unable to predict just how much emotions we will have, making it hard to manage. The emotions we have are very well affected by the environment, people around us and even events in our lives, so even if you have grown older, it may still be difficult to manage your emotions, depending on how much something has affected you. Secondly, I don't think age is a good indication. It's like saying the older are wiser. Well, it's not always true. I once read an article, saying that even the elderly are unsure of their lives. Yep they probably have more experiences, they are expected to be more capable of their own emotions. But hey, we're dealing with emotions here, these erratic, spontaneous, eccentric little things! Well, fret not guys. I feel that although we may not exactly come to manage emotions more effectively in future, you have to trust yourself. I feel like when we are needed to, we will deal with emotions effectively. Life is unexpected. But hey, we've always dealt with it, with or without help! Believe in yourself guys! :)
May 4th, 2015 8:18pm
From my experience, it is not easy to compare managing emotions from when you are younger to when you are older because you experience emotions differently. When I have situations now that I have been working on handling since I was younger, it is easier to manage my emotions, but when I am confronted with new emotional situations they are still hard to manage.
June 1st, 2015 4:04pm
I think it does - or at least it becomes a lot less acceptable to display emotions as you get older (which I think is sad). You're rarely going to see a grown man behave in the same way as a primary school boy. But i feel like my emotions are less intense now in my 30's than they were in my teens or my 20's. As you get older you get more perspective, more experience and a stabler physical system and I think can all really dampen emotional intensity.
June 2nd, 2015 6:13am
Usually they do, but not all adults are the shining example of emotional maturity because some act like children. As long as you are honest with yourself and continue to want to learn about yourself then you are on the right path.
June 7th, 2015 8:27pm
For me I find it comes with work and consciousness and not with age. Just because I'm getting older doesn't mean I'm getting better at managing my emotions. Being conscious of them and working on them are what does make it easier to manage them.
June 30th, 2015 11:02pm
no, management of emotions is nothing related to age. It varies for situation to situation, age gets us more experiences and maturity usually but it does not mean that we can be good at managing emotions. Any body and everybody can having hard time managing emotions and sometimes all we need is a soothing cup of tea and a non judgmental ear to listen.
July 28th, 2015 11:49pm
I think with age, comes more experience with managing emotions and learning from past-mistakes. Also, as you get more experience, your perception on things will change and make it easier to manage emotions from a different viewpoint.
September 7th, 2015 1:17am
Yes!! Especially when you get over the tween stage. Being in middle school is awful! Even if you're super popular, and have "the perfect life", going through puberty/all that emotional stuff, is going to be difficult.
November 3rd, 2015 9:37pm
No, I have found that as you grow older, emotions only intensify, in a good way or a bad way. This does not make it harder to cope with anything however, I think the only reason why it seems easier as you age is because you understand there're is more to life than that one particular emotion you are holding on to. Life is beautiful, embrace it while you can!
November 16th, 2015 10:22am
As you get older you naturally mature and develop as a person. You will learn things you never knew as a child/teenager.
December 28th, 2015 1:49am
As you become older, you are more able to manage your emotions because of experience. That doesnot mean though that you will be able to handle all situations without extra advice, and or help. Getting older is not some magic cure to all of lifes problems.
December 29th, 2015 11:24am
It is a common saying that experience is our greatest teacher, and it is true .Through experience we can get better hold of ourself and manage our emotions better. Older we get the greater the experience.
May 23rd, 2016 8:17pm
Age doesn't really have to do with how much someone is better or whether it is easier at managing something. Let's look at it this way, do people dress better as they age or do people become (fill in the blank) as they age? It depends on the work or effort in developing a skill or on becoming better. Things usually become easier as you gain new levels of learning. So the best way to look at it is how much effort has one put in managing their emotions and if they put effort, it will certainly be easier with time.
April 4th, 2017 5:24pm
I don't think age plays a big role in that. You can be young and learn how to manage emotions effectively. You can also be older and not know how to manage emotions. I think it depends on whether you have learned how.
January 16th, 2018 7:51pm
I do believe strongly that managing emotions does become a lot easier as we grow older. As we gain more life experience, our self knowledge becomes greater. With age we become more emotionally mature which allows us to learn what triggers our emotions, and therefore, we are better equip with dealing or even overcoming them. Our mind set is constantly changing and adapting to new ways of dealing with emotional turmoil.
January 23rd, 2018 12:27pm
yes as you get older you experience more situations and therefore have a history of reaction to these situations then can easily manage your emotion in a better way
February 5th, 2018 8:33am
For me it has been, I've learned what works and what doesn't -- mostly through trial and error. Now I have a toolbox of things that help me and I know what I am capable of overcoming.
February 27th, 2018 4:11pm
Being older does not always mean that you are wiser. Managing emotions is a skill that is practiced over time, and yes, the older you are, the easier it is for you to manage emotions, but only when you are trying to manage your emotions better.
July 30th, 2018 1:58pm
yes and no. Yes- We grow in maturity and learnt how to deal with our emotions over the years. We come to understand ourselves better and know what to do to make us feel better. No- As we grow older, we have more worries than we did as a child, so naturally we deal with more emotions than simply just angry or sad or happy when we were younger. So we may not have been good in handling so many complex emotions all at once.
January 14th, 2019 8:29pm
It really depends on the individual, though I think most people would state that as you get older, you are more likely to gain the skills necessary for emotional control and self-management. Generally speaking, unless you have a mental health issue that is progressively worsening and for which you do not get treatment, getting older should come with better emotional management. This is because we gain better social skills, but also because we develop better confidence, establish more stable relationships, and our hormones tend to settle into a more predictable and even pattern. The quickest way to better management, however, is accepting that our emotions are within our choice to handle. We may not have the ability to manage our initial emotions, but we *do* have a choice as to how we respond to those emotions. Practicing stability helps it become a habit. Taking accountability for our behavior and emotions can really help us feel more settled in life.