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How can I avoid taking my anger out on others?

73 Answers
Last Updated: 04/19/2021 at 9:15am
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Top Rated Answers
skydivingstars
November 6th, 2014 2:09am
Finding an outlet, finding another way to take out your anger rather than on other people is an excellent way to avoid this. Whether it's taking yoga for meditation purpose and reflecting on yourself, or karate or some form of martial arts...there are many other outlets you can use to target your anger toward other things.
Yourlifeisthelotusflower
November 10th, 2014 12:53am
I usually play a sport or sing absurdly loud. That was I feel much better about myself, it's insanely relaxing.
akireleon
November 11th, 2014 7:55am
Whenever you feel angry, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and remember how to control yourself from taking out your anger on others.
thedancekid
April 4th, 2015 3:19pm
I used to dance by myself when I'm angry. Expressing those emotions turn into powerful dance moves that would actually form a very good piece of dance routine.
mysteriousWillow50
April 8th, 2015 5:19pm
When you feel angry, do you know if specific triggers to that anger or is it something general? With that, there are different ways to deal with the anger. I personally like to carry around a stress ball or play-doh/modeling clay, etc. so that when I feel angry, I can squeeze that or manipulate the clay in my hands. By focusing my energy onto something else. Or it may be you need a punching bag to get that pent up energy. Either way, when I feel angry, I try to focus my energy elsewhere and do something constructive. Another great thing to help me when I'm angry is that I find something that needs a good scrubbing--such as the shower or the kitchen and I scrub it as if the grime is the problem causing my anger. -Two birds one stone, things get clean, and when I'm finished I'm not as angry anymore. Or the anger has disappeared because I focused those feelings onto something else.
amorvincitomnia143
April 24th, 2015 10:16pm
If I know that I am not in a very social mood I try to spend some alone time doing something I like.
janetreshia
May 23rd, 2015 5:36am
Before you do anything you'll regret, take deep breaths. Clear your mind if you can. Now, take control of your mind and know who your actually dealing with. Ask yourself, "Is it okay to vent my anger to this person?" Having a clear mind, you might possibly do the right thing.
AnnieWizz
May 27th, 2015 4:37am
Try to see the situation from the point of view of others.. ie step into their shoes. Never judge.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 8:21pm
Often times people cant control their anger and often say mean things or hurt the people they love. Sometimes when you get a bit angry take a walk outside, take a hot bath, or simply jut take a step back and breathe.
magicalsummer152
June 12th, 2015 5:49pm
do back counting clean your wardrob isolate your self run for some time gyming dancing moveout of that place
chanelsdaisy
June 22nd, 2015 5:54pm
Take a deep breath, say : Fuck you everyone. It works, i promise. Also remember, that you will only get worse, if you hurt others.
peacefulDreamer18
June 23rd, 2015 9:04pm
Try to keep a clear mind and talk out your feelings first. Sometimes, your words will speak louder than the actions you take when you're angry.
LightACandle
August 24th, 2015 4:36pm
Try taking some time off to be alone to cool down. Somewhere peaceful and quiet would be good. The trick is to know when we are angry and to know our limits. As long as we know our state of mind and behavior, we can do damage control.