How can I deal with constant disappointment?
Last Updated: 07/26/2016 at 12:34am
Hisham Tawfik, M.S.W.
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i personally deal with disappointment by understanding why the second party made the choices that let me down. it may not always be the right, or best choice, but understanding the situation always helps. from there, you can respond and deal with it in a manner that allows the second party to understand that they have disappointed you. recognizing your feelings and approach on things can really help clarify the situation. if someone continually disappoints me, i make sure i have told them that their choices have let me down, and i usually don't hold them by any expectation that could let me down any further, if it is a continuous problem. c:
Disappointment is the imbalance between expectations and the reality, where expectations exceed reality. The higher this difference, the greater will the disappointed be. One can avoid disappointment by trying to align these two factors. Most of the time our control over the reality is pretty small, meanwhile the expectations completely depend on us. So normally we can avoid disappointment by bringing expectations down. By the way, if the reality turns out to be much better that we expected, then we will be simply left with JOY.
Practice gratitude. Don't dwell on what you don't have. Think about what you DO have. Make a list. Write it down. Check it every day. That way, you'll know there there are some good things in your life too.
To deal with something like disappointment you have to realize what is causing it. A reason like if your goals are to high or something like depression messing with your mind.
Set a time frame to feel the repercussions of the disappointment. Give yourself 20 minutes, for instance, to feel disappointed, and to understand why it is you feel this way. Remember that it is okay to feel disappointed, we all go through that. But after this time frame is completed, move on with your day. This way you are giving yourself the opportunity to validate your emotions but you are also working on not letting them overwhelm you.
Be associated with things that bring out the spark in you. Talk to people that feel grateful to have you around. Explore new ideas, take a break, head start, reboot, be open and inviting.
Disappointment is one of those emotions and feelings that we as humans often take worse than anger or sadness. Why? Well because we hate that feeling knowing that we have let someone or even ourselves down, and it sucks. But when it comes to dealing with constant disappointment it can be difficult for us at first and that it normal. I personally find that to deal with it best I have to try and overlook it and find the positive that came out of what happened pushing the feelings of disappointment to a less. Though for some situations that can be hard it is something good to practice in our lives in about any situation. Another way to help deal is to realize that you are human and we all make mistakes and by holding ourselves to these feelings we become more likely to cause it or find more of it in our lives. So being able to move past it and see that it happens to all of us and we are not alone makes it much more easier to deal and cope with.
Let your feelings out; it's natural that you feel upset or even inconsolable. In the immediate aftermath of a disappointment, it's often really difficult to see the aftermath as anything but an unmitigated disaster. Ask yourself, Will this matter one year from now? A week? One month? A lot of times, asking this question will bring you back to reality. It's terrible that you dented your car, but will it be fixed in a week? You failed a quiz, but will that matter when the semester ends with a passing grade? You have an injury, and cannot finish out your spring sport, which is unfortunate, but you can play next year.
The first thing to do is adjust your standards or expectations of others, based on the individual. If you have the same expectations of everyone, you are consistently going to be disappointed.
Just think that this is not the end of the world, yet. Trying and trying until you achieve whatever goal you have in mind is what you need to do. Disappointment at some point should be okay because it helps us strive more. It helps us think like "I don't like this feeling" so we'll do our best to satisfy ourselves. But constant disappointment might lead to depression. So whatever happens, even if you don't always get what you want, stay positive and look forward for a better day. Keep on trying and dreaming.
Maybe you should try a new hobby you will enjoy. That might make you feel more joy in your life.
Don't put out high expectations for anything or anyone or else you're just deluding yourself with a false idea.
You are no less than other people.Give time to work on your skills.talking to a friend always helps.
In this world no one is perfect and disappointment is unavoidable. But you are in charge on your own happiness, do not let anyone else be responsible for it.
Being disappointed in life is common. Strive to do your best and you will NEVER be disappointed!!!!
'Always wear a suit' If you want to deal with constant dissappointmentl always be prepared for the worst (yet expecting the best).
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