How can I learn how to be there for myself?

First you must evaluate yourself from another’s perspective and pin point where you need reassurance and to be there. Once you have found this you can evaluate what brings you comfort. By looking at these things maybe you could figure a way to use some thing that comforts at a time when you are in need of your own comfort. Also just by checking up on yourself as you would check up on someone else. Ask yourself how you are doing pick your own mind. Even have these conversations with yourself out loud or wrote them down so you can really get out what you need to get out.

The best way to learn how to be there for yourself is to not be there for yourself. It may sound ironic but with trial and err we learn. As time goes on you will begin to learn to take the oath of least resistance and over time you will realize only you who are always with you. You can never leave your own side even if you want to. You are stuck with yourself. Create peace with yourself, become your best friend, become your own soul mate. Because you can never leave yourself. If you learn to love yourself you will be unstoppable.

Show up for yourself in small ways and respect your boundaries. That might mean basic things, like going to bed on time and waking up on time and brushing your teeth every day. It might be not buying food items you will mindlessly snack on, just because they're there. It could be saying no to making plans when you need a day to yourself. Or saying yes to plans when you've been a hermit. Saying you're not feeling up for sex, even though it might disappoint your partner. Or telling your partner exactly what you would like for them to do. Most of all, for me, being there for myself means speaking up for myself to express my feelings and needs, especially when I feel hurt or misunderstood. It means not telling myself my feelings aren't a big deal, and instead recognizing they are there and trying to tell me something. I think learning to be there for ourselves is something we practice in small ways by fulfilling our needs.