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Sometime situations and feelings can be so strong that we struggle to function. You are not alone! My practice is flexible and open-minded and tailored to your personal needs.
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Take a deep breath and think that what are you doing... it is going to lead you nowhere but is nly going to affect you so try let it go
In an immediate sense, mindfulness, breathing, and physical activity can help. In a long term sense, it can help to start understanding why you are angry. What sets off anger? What feelings and thoughts are related to your anger? Fear? Anxiety? Jealousy? Hurt? ...? You can work to address those thoughts and feelings through various CBT and DBT skills. It can also help to practice positive ways of expressing yourself, and finding ways you feel you can be heard accurately and honestly. On the flip side, practicing hearing other's sides and listening to their story can also help you train yourself to feel empathy instead of or in addition to your anger. Professional counseling may help as well. And avoiding substances can help you keep a tighter grip on your emotions and actions.
I have to stop myself and think about how much precious time I am wasting on being angry. While sometimes necessary or expected, anger eats at you, and letting go and learning to not be bothered is one of the best things you can do, because in the end, holding on to anger will only hurt yourself. Communicating my emotions with others, or exercising, these things can help allow me to stop being so angry. I always feel much better not being angry with someone and just accepting that people are people. We can only control ourselves at the end of the day.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 5:05pm
Breathe. I know it sounds so pointless, but really. Close your eyes, keep still and breathe. It helps more than you'd imagine. Remind yourself that anger isn't worth it. The sad truth is, it's like stabbing yourself with a knife and wishing it hurt someone/something else - You're only hurting yourself. So when you're angry, just breathe x
Pause for a while, calm yourself, close your eyes, breathe in and out for at least three times or until you felt at peace with yourself already.
Get a pen and paper. Write a letter. If you're angry at someone, write it to them (never send it). Or just scribble down whatever comes to mind. Stream of conscious. Don't hold back.
Anger is usually caused from lack of realization, theres underlying issues that we haven't dealt or come to terms with, sometimes we don't even know why we are so angry, we feel it. The best solutions are to find a outsource for the anger, in the types of things that do not cause injury to others, examples been the gym, or running or anything that lessens our energy levels that we are unable to use it towards anger.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2015 5:26pm
you can stop being angry by thinking positivly in the situation you are in. If you feel angry, take a deep breath and think about something that makes you happy :)
Focus on what is making you angry. If you can change the outcome to something good, then start. If you can not change the situation,then remind yourself, anger does not resolve anything but wasted time & energy.
Things will get better,no matter how long it takes. And someone is always there to listen.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 4:16pm
I take in long deep breaths, and try to get my mind off whatever it was that angered me. That is it.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 7:42am
Take deep breathes and focus on things you enjoy, until your anger blows over. Don't act without thinking.
I can't stop being angry, its my birth right. Though I can control it. I do it by killing my ego for the people I love, and don't get offended from what they say no matter what. End the conversation there itself when i feel that i may offend them rather than saying things that might hurt them. Talk about that matter when i'm in my senses.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:43pm
Try not to take it out on other people. See if you can channel your anger into exercise instead of letting it stew.
From personal experience I believe that to stop being angry you have to stop seeing things from one point of view. You have to develop this growing mindset that people go through a lot of things, things we might not understand and it is our empathy that brings us closer to understanding others. It is normal to be angry and it can take practice to control those small outbursts of anger. The way I see anger is like a challenge, you have to understand when its there and how you are going to react wisely towards the circumstance at hand.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 10:29pm
The best way to stop being angry is to go outside and look out at nature or the stars overhead. You'll probably realize that whatever you're angry about doesn't really matter all that much.
Anger is normally build up by some suppressed emotions/issues. Its good if you can find the source of your anger and deal with it in order to stop the anger.
"Zoom out."
"You zoom out and look at things from that perspective."
- from a friend who wanted to do just that.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 4:36pm
It's impossible (generally) to never get angry. Anger is a natural emotion . But you can learn to control that anger by trying to understand where the other person is coming from. Anger is also a defense mechanism ; it might help to realize that nobody is out to hurt you , but rather they may just be telling you the harsh truth to help you and it might help to take this as constructive feedback instead of getting angry
I usually think about what being angry will do... Usually the answer is nothing so I take a deep breath, exhale and walk away. I often find myself in tricky situations and sometimes it's incredibly hard to walk away, but, I try so hard to hold onto this logic and rationale, that is the only thing that I have keeping me 'sane' and preventing me from lashing out. My ex boyfriend's father once said to me "be in control of your emotions, don't let them control you". Powerful words I though, and then... easier said than done... Recently I practiced the above, over and over again, and so far, it is working!
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 8:26pm
By learning to control anger when it occurs it can also affect your appetite and behavior with someone else.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 11:59pm
You should find an activity or a thought that distrscts you from.anger i found holding babies or pets is really helpful also as an example.of a thought you cpuld like connect any kind of thought to you being peacful and calm.so everytime.you are angry and you think of it it calms you alittle
As I have learned not to let my emotions control my reactions, i have found peace in life! Powerful Indeed!
Focus on things that make you happy rather than angry. For example: find a hobby (drawing, painting, writing, cooking ..etc) or find ways to release your anger ( look into boxing, doing yoga, or just even going for a simple walk to blow off steam).
try to first relax and then find out what part of the situation that makes you angry. Once you do that, you will be able to face it more authortatively, whether the situation is caused by your own beliefs about others or when others directly made you angry.
Ask yourself why you're angry, and reflect on your emotion. I often find that when I think about why I'm angry, I not only learn stuff but I end up relaxing a little.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 6:21am
This is a tough one. I've often wondered how to stop being angry all the time. Whether it's at your husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend - figuring out how to stop being angry is really important in day to day life, and will make everyday experiences better and more pleasant. I'd suggest talking to someone on 7 Cups, to try and find out what sorts of things are making you angry. Is it depression, anxiety, or grief? Something else?
When things frustrate you, take a moment to breathe before you react. Think about what has frustrated you. Think about how you can change your attitude and respond in a calm manner.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2017 9:29am
Its difficult .. but you can control by regular practice...as at last you harm yourself, count 1-10 when you feel angry and control yourself.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 11:00am
Try reassessing the situation in a different perspective. Put yourself in the other person's shoes or try to have a more positive mental attitude. And don't forget to breathe. Calming your breathing and muscles helps a lot most of the time.
I know when i get angry i will try to ask my self questions about what is actually causing the anger. Sometimes when i am angry at friends i will have to consciously try and see the situation from their side and try to realize if we had a misunderstanding or not. Its not always easy to do this but i have found that when i do take that second to see other sides of my aggression i can overcome the anger and think more clearly about solutions. Other times it take me explaining to those friends that i am mad and what caused that feeling to emerge.
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