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How can I stop being angry?

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Last Updated: 12/14/2020 at 12:01pm
How can I stop being angry?
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Anonymous
December 14th, 2020 12:01pm
It's alright to be angry and try not scolding yourself for it. anger is as natural a feeling as is happiness, sorrow, or anything for that matter. the main prblem it becomes is when you hurt others or yourself when being in that state of feeling, either by saying them words you shouldn't be saying, being violent with others, or with oneself. try and embrace the feeling, admit that you feel this way, and keep asking questions in your brain before reacting to anything or saying anything. it is particularly important to know the consequences that might be brought while reacting certain way, or atleast having an idea of what it might be....at this point i know maybe i don't make any sense...but id khow else to say it. last and the most important, iin the most sorrowful or angry days. try and see goodness in the smallest of things, do things you enjoy AND MEDITATE.
Yahaans
October 26th, 2015 2:44am
Well anger can come from many sources. People in our environment, what life style we currently life, the problems with environment can also include your house problems,or your car,or school/college problems,ect. Try to find out what is making you angry and find solutions to it. In life we tend to blame others instead of looking for solutions. Trying to not blame someone can be hard but they might have made a mistake or had a reason for doing certain things. One way I know how to stop being angry is by realizing what I'm thinking. Controlling our own thoughts might be one way to stop anger. Or maybe just finding ways to relax can help too. Everyone lives in a different situation, open your mind and find the way you want to stop being angry.
Shezad
November 20th, 2014 4:19pm
you need to first of all take yourself away from the situation, if it is not physically possible to walk away then at least mentally go to your happy place to try and calm down. then after a while the situation can be addressed more reasonably without conflict. you have to remember that the only person or situation you can control is yourself and the actions you take. a lot of results will depend on our reaction to the situation and our perception of it. if its a long term issue then you need to see a therapist to address the underlying reasons for your anger
Peacegirl
November 22nd, 2014 3:44am
There are many ways differing individually. For me, I stop talking, take a deep breath, put on my earphones, then i count numbers till I calm down
Manpreet
November 24th, 2014 4:15pm
Being angry is the state when flow of our thoughts and desires get blocked by any reason. Whenever anger arise try to understand where your desire get blocked rather than projecting your anger on others.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2014 9:06pm
Try to focus on the good Things instead of the bad! Maybe by training yourself to enjoy the little things and work toward the goals you set for yourself will help. Journaling really helps me channel my frustrations, and so does reading, watching movies. Find the things that make you happy and stick to them. Put your happiness before anything else! And do what it is that YOU want.
thisismejessica
December 22nd, 2014 6:03am
Angry is a natural emotion, and it can be righteous when it is a reaction of witnessing injustice. The issue is when the anger brings aggressive behaviors. You can try to control it by recognizing the underlying feeling behind your anger. Instead of responding to your anger by destroying things / punching people / do harm, try to ask your self what makes you feel so angry, and what you feel underlying the anger.
RobynCares
January 2nd, 2015 8:26pm
If there is a specific reason you are angry, it's important to face the source of the anger. Other than that, there are ways to release your anger in healthy ways, such as exercise, art, and music.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 9:38pm
Take deep breaths, just take a little moment for yourself with some calming music, maybe it can be relieving and calming
Anonymous
June 29th, 2015 7:18pm
Come up with reasons you should be happy instead as a distraction. Write a list. Carry it around. Allow yourself to realize that it is not crucial to focus on the things that make you angry. Anger only hurts you. If it is pertaining to a specific person or situation, talk it out. Be honest. Be straightforward. Explain yourself without coming off as harsh or mean. Keep carrying that list. Smile, even if you don't mean it. Smiling physically causes you to mentally become happier because of dopamine being released.
twelvetigerlillies
July 20th, 2015 10:31am
When I'm angry, I often need to accept my anger. If you fight your anger, and feel bad about feeling that way - I find it makes me even more angry! So first, I accept it. Second, I try to understand just why I'm angry - is it a situation, or is it something deeper? Often it is an unresolved issue. Most often, I find myself allowing myself to be vulnerable, letting down your walls really allows anger to just wash away.
supportiveSummer81
September 29th, 2015 2:26am
Do things that make you happy! Try a new activity, cooking class, hiking, exercise class, art class, even listening to music helps!
TheSupport
January 27th, 2016 4:33pm
Count to ten calmly or yell at a pillow or a wall or go outside for a walk and just try to calm down and relax and if possible think about very positive things.
SJA18
November 9th, 2015 9:20am
Try to find a creative outlook for you to take your anger out on such as sports or video games. If your anger gets too out of control then you should consider seeing a psychologist or reaching out for help.
breemichelle
December 1st, 2015 2:32am
It depends on what you're angry about. Why are you angry? When did you become angry? What struck your anger?
wonderfulWaterfall86
December 14th, 2015 2:42pm
Do something that takes your mind of the reason why you are angry. Read, draw, sing, swim, whatever you love to do. It always makes you happy
BeInJoy
January 5th, 2016 4:35am
I'm not sure anger is an emotion that can be "stopped." Anger has to be transferred into something more useful. For instance, some pyromaniacs choose the profession of a fireman to be able to quench their urge, but do it constructively. Perhaps using anger in a positive or useful way is all that's needed. If you have a socially acceptable outlet (like cage fighting or boxing), or you can channel that anger to something like art or music, you will heal what has made you feel angry in the first place by using your outlet to understand your emotion.
TheLadyK
January 15th, 2016 5:41am
What if you didn't need to? I've been noticing lately that the more I let myself feel whatever I'm feeling, the sooner it dissipates. If I keep fighting it, or trying to avoid it because it's "unpleasant," then it tends to linger. Anger isn't bad; hurting yourself or someone else in anger is bad. Alone, anger is just a feeling. Learning how to meditate is an amazing way to be able to breathe through and observe anger. So is scribbling hard and fast in a journal, or punching a pillow. I believe anger will shift if given space. Like everyone and everything else, it just wants to be heard.
truefrend
January 21st, 2016 9:36am
Meditation,yoga , perusing your favorite hobby, listing to music of your choice physical activity like outdoor sports ect controls anger to a very large extent.
Vatsa
January 21st, 2016 12:21pm
Meditate. Meditation really helps our mind to calm down and lets us focus on other important things. It also prevents anxiety attacks.
nuuuris
November 15th, 2014 3:06pm
Sometimes writting all our feeling down can really help, or also you can talk abut this with a listener, we'll always be here for you. I know sometmies it's really hard to manage your emotions and mostly when you are angry. It's is normal to be angry sometimes. Feel free to message me if you need it lovie!
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 8:05am
by removing or ignoring the cause of the anger.. As simple as that.. Have an attitude of 'Never mind' And you will be always happy and not angry..
dancingLion66
January 27th, 2016 10:13am
what makes you angry, is it related to any situation, person, or any memories. tell me when was the last time you were angry and for what