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How can I stop being insecure?

38 Answers
Last Updated: 02/16/2021 at 8:53pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
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Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC

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I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.

Top Rated Answers
casicanhelp
April 12th, 2016 11:23pm
Self-confidence is key. Pick out the things you like about yourself, and then look at the stuff you don't like. Find ways to improve those things, and you're good. Most importantly, make yourself happy.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2016 1:44pm
insecurity arises when there is lack of awareness...insecurity is beautiful because insecurity is life...trying to make things permanent in this temporary world is a waste act...enjoy the beauty and adventure of life...!
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 2:00am
Be yourself do not care what people think do what you want wear what you want eat what you want because in the end doesn't matter what you say or do people in this world will always judge it's the sad reality. Be confident within yourself do what you feel is right don't ask anyone's opinions just live life and be free :)
baymax2
February 14th, 2017 3:29pm
Sometimes forcing yourself to attend events can result in greater self-confidence. Saying 'yes' to all opportunities that cross your path is a fantastic way to help yourself grow. It's a hard and lengthy process, but change is never easy anyway.
TomatoTee
July 11th, 2017 3:48am
Insecurity is tough to defeat, especially when you've grown up with the idea to always seek for the approval of others before you approve it yourself. We got used to be dependent on others' point of view and base so many of our contentment and self-acceptance on what society would think, which by the way consists mostly of strangers, people who we don't know and people who don't know us back, but somehow we convince ourselves that it matters what they will say. You cant easily brush off insecurity. You deal with it. You're going to have to take some hits along the way, but only to come out of it stronger and a new person. Insecurities makes us feel ashamed of what others may call 'flaws'. But these are features that make up who we are. and we shouldn't be ashamed of it at all. Our features are a part of us. Something we should accept. Being kind to ourselves is important also. The key to battling insecurities, is acceptance, dealing with the truth, the facts, facing it head on. Accept yourself. Deal with it. Remember that you don't have to wait for anyone to love and accept you, before you do the same for yourself. Be patient with yourself. Let yourself grow.
CoachCicely39
November 21st, 2017 12:23pm
Start taking small action steps. Start feeling the fear and doing it anyway in small things. Ask for help and strength from you higher power (who or whatever that may be). Taking action is the first step in starting to live in a state of power. And begin a practice of confronting everything. Don't put anything on hold. Confront everything as it comes no matter how insecure you feel. Start by taking the 24 hour confrontation challenge and see how far it goes. I have found when I make change something fun it takes a lot of the immobilizing fear away.
HeyJustBreathe23
November 28th, 2017 3:48am
Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you’re beautiful. At first you might have to make yourself do this but if you do this daily you will start to notice that your self esteem is improving.
alexisinthehouse
February 16th, 2021 8:53pm
Stop letting yourself believe you're not worth anything. Even if you have to force yourself to say it, say, "people love me because I'm awesome". It probably won't work the first time, or the second time, or the third time, but the more and more you say things like that to yourself, the more your brain starts to believe it. Say nice things about your body. Think nice things about how you act. Try to say (or think) one thing you love about yourself before you go to school or work each morning. The more to appreciate who you are, the less insecure you'll be.