How can I stop someone from hurting me when they don't care about my feelings?
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Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 4:32am
The best way to stop someone from hurting you, is to not allow them to hurt you in the first place. Simpy ignore or even avoid the person. It is not worth being someone who does not care about your feelings.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:38am
You ignore them. Or you tell an administrator if it's at school or collage. You care about your feelings defend yourself. You can do it !!!
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 1:39am
This can be a really difficult situation. The best way to handle this is to keep in mind that if someone doesn't care about you or how you feel, you're better off without them. It sounds really harsh, and it won't be a change that happens overnight. However, the best way to think about it is that you deserve someone who realizes you're a person and need to be treated as such. If someone doesn't care about your feelings, you don't need that kind of negative energy in your life. Just start distancing yourself from them and surrounding yourself with people you trust and who love you. Soon, this person won't even register to you anymore.
You can't control the actions of others. You have your stuff and they have their stuff. Remember, that person cannot physically make you feel anything. They cannot control you in anyway without your consent.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 7:09am
Show them that you are strong, If you show them that you are weak, they will keep hurting you. Show them that what they do doesn't hurt you anymore to show them humility and understanding.
Even if they don't care for your feelings you can talk to them and explain how you feel. They probably have no clue that they are hurting you.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 1:54am
The best advice I can give you is remove your self from bad situations and love yourself more than anyone in the world.
Leave them from your life as much as possible. If they work with you or live with you, keep interactions to a minimum. You don't need that in your life! :)
Sometimes you need to understand comments can be made due to sheer ignorance. Don't take it personally; they can and will say this to anyone and everyone. So it may not directed at you. Hope this helps.
By caring enough about yourself and having enough self confidence to remove yourself from any negative people or situations
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 9:15pm
you can't stop anyone. All you can do and what's most important that you shouldn't care that they don't care. You have yourself and that is everythings you needs, you are the number one in your life. You have to see, that you are safe. Hold on to the people who loves you
Try to distance yourself from them and remember you are beautiful and valuable and absolutely lovely. Keep your head up and ignore the haters. If they continue contact an adult
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 11:03am
You can't stop them, but you can decide how they affect you. Don't let them influence you, don't give them that satisfaction. You can be upset at first, but you need to move on and allow life to continue, don't let others drag you down.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 12:40pm
You have to be strong and take the first step. I don't know what person it is, but if you are unhappy, you have to fight for your hapiness! By walking away, or have a conversation. Everything has a solution
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Surely someone cares about you, do not self-harm. There are many people who want to look good. I, for one, do not know you but I want you to be happy.
I know its hard but maybe its best to walk away from this person if they do this to you all the time
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 3:13am
By not talking to them.. Make new friends.. Get some new hobbies.. Enjoy life at fullest. Atleast trying to be.
just do yewr job.. bcoz it doesnt matter wat other think ..wat matters is yewr doing and with wat feeling yew do a thing for which yewr soul can peacefully sleep at nyght
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 7:20pm
It would be easy for me to give you advice but it could also be harmful. You know yourself better than anyone.
Set my sail away from them. And if it is not possible, I'll try to keep a minimum contact with them.
If possible remove that person from your life. There is so much negativity in the world and you are not obligated to keep ties with anyone who is hurting you and clearly has no concern for your feelings. This might me scary and difficult so look to friends and family who can support you. If that is not an option there are support groups for these type of things. You are never alone in these situations and where it may be hard, in the end it is better to hold on to people who care rather than those who do not.
If they don't care about your feelings, they will not stop hurting you. The best thing to do is to limit your contact and interaction with that person. Perhaps even cut them completely out of your life.
avoid them as best as possible, tell someone you trust whats happening so they can try and help you with it.
I wouldn't know your situation well enough to say, but if I were you, I would try to distance myself from those people
In my opinion leave them because that just shows they don't care at all about how you feel or what you say don't stay with a person that doesn't respect you people come and go out of lifes move on that special someone will come along one day just keep your head up high and stay strong
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 5:24pm
You are the owner of your feelings. No one has control over how you feel but you. Do not let them get to you.
Keep your distance, those kind of people are not worth your energy. You deserve so much better. People who don't care about your feelings will always hurt you, but if you keep your distance and just be careful they will not be able to hurt you.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 6:00am
the only one who can stop yourself , hurting you , is ONLY YOU, just stop thinking about others you need to understand that there are some people you will not care about your feelings no matter how good you are with them and than on the other hand there are some people you will care for you and accept you at your good and worst .
You may want to ask yourself why you keep this person in your life if they do not care about your feelings. You can stop them from hurting you by focusing more on yourself, your own personal growth, and why it is that why they do causes you so much pain. Trying to find out the deeper reason for your pain may be really insightful, and it can help you deflect pain that is coming from outside sources. You may ask yourself if the other person is hurting you, or if the pain is already there inside and this person just brings it out.
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