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How can I stop taking things so personally?

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Last Updated: 10/25/2021 at 3:04am
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I specialise in respectfully helping people navigate their way through trauma and relationship issues. The adversities in our life can actually transform us.

Top Rated Answers
January 28th, 2015 10:25am
Look for multiple causes for events. The world is complex. People harm each other and are harmed unintentionally sometimes. There are numerous reasons why bad things happen. Try to see things from multiple perspectives, and you will eventually arrive at a truth and a big picture that is more than the sum of its parts. A truth which you are a small part of, and not the center of.
February 11th, 2015 4:40am
You must understand that any one word, sentence, or even opinion that someone has of you does not at all define you as a person - the only things that define you are your own words and actions. Remember, others' opinions of you do not define you, they define only them. You define you.
May 5th, 2015 6:24am
When we take things personally, It's an act of self-attributing. It can mean that we need to focus more attention on our own self to see what unmet needs we have.
June 1st, 2015 12:49am
don't let everything get to you and remind yourself that not everything is about you it will take a lot of work and it may be hard at first but still its gunna be worth it
July 27th, 2015 7:19am
If someone were to give you an advice on something personal, it's because they want to help you. They are there to guide us from our mistakes and help us overcome the problems that we are facing. Thus, we should look from their perspective and learn.
August 18th, 2015 11:57pm
I usually remember that people don't always remember what they're saying can be hurtful, and don't mean for it to be hurtful at all. They're not trying to purposefully hurt you.
June 14th, 2016 3:28pm
Think about the other person and try to understand what they are going through and where they are comin from
June 24th, 2016 11:01pm
We can all takes something that is said to us personally particularly if it's from someone close to use that is trying to be helpful when we are going through a tough time try not to take criticism to heart if it seems fair and also know you are not alone in take certain remarks personally we have all probably felt the same at some point in our lives.
July 26th, 2016 8:10am
I'm not sure if people can stop taking things personally. However, they can change how they react. I've heard that CBT works for some individuals.
October 25th, 2021 3:04am
It's hard to not take something personally. I try to remember that another person has lived a life even before meeting me and I can't control what happened in that life before I came along to make them feel the way they feel. What their opinion is on actions, situations or subjects probably has nothing to do with me or my opinions on them. There is a famous drag queen who says something like "Someone else's opinion of me is none of my business" and I interpret that to mean that I should mind my own business and continue on my own path of understanding without worrying about someone else's path.