How do I choose to be happy, when I can't stop feeling sad?
Last Updated: 08/13/2018 at 10:02am
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It's important to have a goal in front of your eyes. Whether its a life goal or just something small, things like that really help. Make plans that make you happy, find something to look forward to. It's a hard step going there but it's worth it.
We don't choose our emotions, they occur naturally to us. If you can't stop feeling sad, maybe try doing something that makes you happy. If it doesn't get better in time I would suggest seeking out professional help.
In order for one to be happy, they must first understand why they are sad. "If there is a will, there is a way" is a vastly underestimated saying because the underlying theme that statement, is willpower, which is why the word "will" is included in the phrase. Once you pinpoint your sadness and it's roots, set goals for yourself in what you want to achieve, develop the willpower to carry out said goals, and continue the "way" you have chosen.
Maybe you could just simply, Feel happy that you are sad. :) That maybe its a goal that you're sadness that overcome you is something like an achievement. That you should be happy for it :)
Just put a smile on your face and try to indulge in activities that make you happy. They say that putting a fake smile on eventually turns into a real one.
I think to myself stop being sad its not going to change anything. Think about my future success and the positive outcome.
Unfortunately, it isn't as simple as choosing to be happy. However, it is possible to surround yourself with people, activities, places, and things that make you feel at least a little happier.
Make it a point to do at least 1 thing that makes you happy each day. Spend more time around people who make you feel good and less around people who make you feel bad. Live for yourself. Do what you want to do, not what you're told you should do. Do things because you think it's the right thing to do, not because someone else does. Don't blindly copy other people's lives, even successful people. Create your own purpose. Success stems from doing good things which takes passion.
Reach out to others.It might not seem like it but there are people willing to help. You just have to seek the help. Keep your head high and stay strong.
Look at the bright side of everything and don't compare yourself to others. Try to do things that make you happy.
Find out what is causing you to be sad. It could be anything like bad childhood memories, not spending time meaningfully everyday, to feeling lonely or even feeling unambitious or without a goal. Take your time to be aware of what may cause you to feel sad and accept that you do feel sad. If there is anything that brings a little bit of happiness out of you, write it down at drop it in a glass jar. overtime you would have more things to be grateful and to feel happy about.
tackle your reasons of sadness. face it. you cant get rainbows without rain. similarly, face your sadness, work on eliminating the roots of it, engage yourself in positive activities and soon you'll realize you are happy.
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