How do I deal with it when people say I react to my emotions are over dramatic ?
Last Updated: 04/13/2020 at 2:27am
Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.
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When people say that to me, I calmly explain to them that I am a sensitive soul and I am entitled to my emotions and would appreciate if you could respect that. Standing your ground tends to demand respect, as long as it is carried out in a calm and confident manner! Hope this helps! Namaste! -Brandi
Well, the first thing is to figure out how you feel about the feedback you're getting. If you agree with it and want to change, analyze the reactions you have and see if you can figure out what triggers them. Go step by step in your investigation and seek assistance if you find you can't do it alone. On the other hand, if you don't think the reaction or the feedback you're getting is warranted, try to find out from those who tell you this what they mean and to provide examples to support their comments. It may be nothing more serious than different styles of communication and choices of words.
From my personal emotions, I would say I react to my emotions my own way! This gives people an idea that you are strong.
The best thing I think you could do is to tell them that though they may feel that way, your emotions are YOUR emotions! If they affect you differently than a similar emotion may effect them, then that just shows that everyone is different. You definitely shouldn't take what that person is saying as a personal stab.
That can be difficult. Nobody can predict the emotions they will feel over a situation. But you can take the time to figure out how to control or calm your emotions in difficult situations. You can plan your own coping skills and what will help you or work for you. If you feel it is interfering with your daily life then perhaps you can talk with a counselor or therapist.
Reacting dramatically usually happens when somebody is anxious, or seeking attention. Sometimes when feeling paranoid you overreact to simple things.
People will normally say all sorts of things when they can't handle or understand that person. Its really good that you know how to let your emotions flow, now u only need to remember that there is a place and time for everything. So know when you should show your emotions and when u need to excuse yourself to do so.
You have to realise that people are not blessed with your foresight, reactions or thinking and vice versa. If people think you are being dramatic and you believe you are being dramatic. You can choose to change.
I try my to empathize with that person, and try to understand why my so called "over dramatic" reaction is affecting him/her in such a way. Then I check in with myself to see if I really do react in an overly dramatic way, Finally, I tell the person that I'm listening to what he/she said, explain why I react in the way I do, and try to find some common ground solution.
When I was younger I probably would have reacted even more dramatically. Now I take a step back, reflect on my reactions, and consider if I am reacting to what is going on now or are my reactions bringing in emotions from the past. In stepping back, I give myself space to think about how I am reacting and by doing so I actually manage to calm myself down. But in the reflection time I may, in fact, consider my reactions ARE appropriate but I may choose to be less dramatic......or not. These days I try to pause before reacting so I can work out what I am actually reacting to; what is happening now, or a past issue being triggered. As for being overly dramatic? What is life without a little drama 😄 Just consider if being dramatic is helping or hindering your life and relationships and be kind to yourself ❤️
You can try to reflect on the situation and see if it really is as big as it seems. Sure, it's overwhelming at first and does seem like a huge deal, but sometimes the little things don't need to be blown into proportion and you yourself would know that.
Not everyone will feel things as intensely as you do. It's okay to not be okay. You don't have to listen when people say these things. Everyone is different and you don't need to let them dim your shine. Remember that everyone is unique and we all cope in different ways. You are you, and if you feel things intensely, then they do not have to do anything other than support you. Not everyone feels the same things all the time. We would be boring otherwise. Keep being you. If you feel that this becomes a problem, please seek out expert help.
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