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How do I focus on what is important to get me through today?

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Last Updated: 10/23/2018 at 5:41pm
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Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 11:13pm
Have you tried a mindfulness exercise? You can go to the member mindfulness support group or check out the mood boosts! Personally, I find them really helpful.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2018 5:41pm
It can be extremely difficult to remain positive instead of succumbing to sadness, hopelessness and emptiness which can leave you doing nothing for a long time. It helps to have a list of your goal and what you would like to achieve during the day. A sense of purpose that reminds you that your efforts are not in vain and really do mean Something. Keeping that in mind all the time can be really hard esckevially when things start to go south or you experience a trigger that changes everything. But reminding yourself with that list can really help when you can’t remmeber why you’re doing anything anymore. Just pause, breathe, reflect, and encourage yourself for tying to move forward!
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2018 7:36am
I look at what reason fueled me at the beginning, which serves as a reminder for myself to progress.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2017 5:55pm
It's hard to do at first, but in time it becomes easier. Stop, breathe, and ground yourself in the present. Mindfullness exercises will help if you try those.
WorkInProgress11
October 17th, 2016 2:41pm
Sometimes, all we can do is focus on one day at a time. And that's ok; that's how lives are lived. Some things that help me are to find something, anything, that I'm even the least bit excited about or enjoy. Schedule time at the end of your day to do that thing, whether it be watching the latest episode of your favorite tv show, or listening to your favorite album for the eleven hundredth time. If I'm feeling a little bolder, I'll think about something that is coming up in the next few days or weeks. For example, I really love football, so I'll try to focus on a game that I'm excited to see or attend. It doesn't have to be big, meaningful stuff. Even the tiniest things can bring the tiniest amount of joy into our lives to help motivate us to keep going.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2016 4:31pm
Practice, affirmations, meditation and relaxation in the morning and than review what is important, you will be able to focus more.
calmSong20
June 10th, 2016 10:53am
Thinking ahead to the future really helps me a lot! Imagining what I wanted to happen to me in the near future keeps me focus on mybpresent activities. For me this is very effective!
peacefulWinter66
June 7th, 2016 10:29pm
Making a to-do list is a great way of reminding yourself about things you want done on or by a certain date. Accomplishing a simple task and marking it off on the list can be very theraputical.
Viana
April 11th, 2016 11:22pm
It works differently for all but dole common and very helpful methods are: waking up with a feeling to begin the day with a fresh mind. Keeping your day scheduled and organised. For motivation, you can try writing words like hope or faith or strength etc, on the back of your hand where you can see it at any time and feel good or you can have a post it or a piece of paper with motivational quotes or reasons to feel good written on it and put on a wall or surface where you can see it at any time :)
JoyfulPanda
February 9th, 2016 11:55am
If you are having a hard time getting through a day, try to focus on taking small steps. It may seem trivial when you manage to get yourself out of bed when you're feeling shitty, but try to see it as an accomplishment. Acknowledge that you did something RIGHT, however small it may be. A little spark of positivity will help you make it through the day! :)
lovepassion
March 31st, 2015 3:02pm
The tactic that I find beneficial, is to write out everything you need to get done in a day. Do it in the evening, so that you have time to mentally prepare and be conscious of the things you will have in the upcoming day, and don't get overwhelmed. Get prepared, and focus on one thing at a time. Physically ticking off an item off of a TO DO LIST, will also make you feel accomplished. These do not necessary need to be chores. Things like "Smile" and "Just Breathe" are constant items on my do to lists, and help me remember to take it one day at a time.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 9:29pm
Find something to focus on. Maybe it is a bracelet or a key you bring around with you. Keep it with you, and when you are upset, look at it and smile. That way you can always remember the good aspects of your life. :) good luck
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 3:10pm
I think about something that makes me happy and use that as my motivation. Whether its my family, my dog or my fiance =)
LadyChoc
September 3rd, 2015 5:03am
A lot of people have already suggested writing lists, and that's a great way to start. Setting reminders for yourself can also help to keep you focused. Start the day by telling yourself, or reading out what you think is important. Continue with your day, and have set time slots (reminders) where you re-read it or tell yourself again. For some, drawing or mapping out what needs to happen in the day can help; as some are more visual than others. There are a lot of different apps that may help as well if you use your phone a lot.
lovingLight24
August 31st, 2015 1:20am
Right a list of what is important and what you like about yourself and at the end of the day add to the list all the good things you have done that day weather it be helping someone or just being polite.. When you can't get threw a day take a look at that list! Xxx
LauraMSW87
August 18th, 2015 8:28pm
It can be difficult to focus on just what you need to do to get through today. Sometimes relaxation methods like diaphragmatic breathing can help us slow our mind down enough to focus. Other times it's helpful ti write out what needs to get done to help you prioritize what has to be done today and what can be done in the future. Other times it's a matter of enjoying some time with a friend or doing something fun to feel refreshed enough to refocus and move on with the day.
SlowReader55
June 11th, 2015 8:58am
Lists. Lists have always helped me be productive. if you don't end up looking at the list? An alarm saying what you should be doing. Just some kind of way to remind you that you have stuff you need to do today other than procrastinating.
SandAndStars
May 25th, 2015 2:43pm
Write down your goals on a piece of paper, and put it in your pocket. Every time you go into that pocket, take out the piece of paper and tick off your targets as you complete them.
xagunia
April 27th, 2015 5:25am
When you wake up, you can either make a mental list or a real list on paper of the things that are important. This list can change day to day or you can write a semi permanent list and tape it somewhere you see everyday. Say the things on the list to yourself and you can even reference it throughout the day when it gets tough.