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How do I know if I'm overreacting?

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Last Updated: 11/14/2020 at 11:47am
How do I know if I'm overreacting?
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Rach42
November 25th, 2014 7:03pm
Over thinking, and becoming anxious over small things are signs that you are overreacting. Best thing to do is to take ten minutes breath in an out in four counts and relax. Then come back and solve the situation
intelligentLake76
December 30th, 2014 6:05pm
I know I am overreacting when my tone gets high and I have a hard time focusing on how I am feeling.
ChatLightning90
April 18th, 2015 10:18pm
When you feel like your reasonable mind goes away and you seem to be making hasty judgments, you are most likely overreacting.
WarmSmile
September 8th, 2015 11:45pm
Your emotions starts to race so fast and you "act" before you "think". Everything hits you so personal and you cannot see things from an objective point of view.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 3:35pm
think about it....imagine being in place of who you are upset at and then you will realise because sometimes we only remember our situation but we should think about others too
Wolfboy2
December 1st, 2015 11:24pm
The best way to tell if you are overreacting is to have a look at how others are treating the subject. This happened to me in primary school, i was overreacting about something but everyone else around me was acting like it was not too much of a big deal, so i decided to to tone myself down abit to a level that was like the others.
7ocenWaves
December 22nd, 2015 4:38am
Once you start questioning! Then it's the point you start being over Breath and count to 3 before!
Greatlistener87
- Expert in Managing Emotions
March 21st, 2016 4:05am
If you are jumping the first chance you get instead of listening and understanding the situation, that is overreacting.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2016 8:03pm
If the other person is surprised, shocked or try to keep to keep a distance from you after a conversation.
Samadhi5
September 22nd, 2016 7:27am
When we allow the ego to get in the way, and the subconscious takes over. Thoughts start to cloud the mind and we allow our initial reaction to take over, instead of allowing our self to pause, take a breath...look at the situation, assess, & then speak from within.
MarrissaShendrya
September 25th, 2016 1:45am
If I'm in a bad mood that day in general, then I'm probably overreacting. I usually like to breath then face the problem in a mature manner, and if I'm incapable that day, then I revisit the issue at a later time.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 7:18am
I know when I am overreacting when I take a deep breath and try to focus in the situation and not on my feelings. That way I can see that my feelings are being disproportional for the situation.
Ge333
December 4th, 2016 11:50pm
You can know you are overreaction if at a certain point you forget the reason you're mad or upset and only focus on the fact that you are upset. When the anger itself is what fuels you and not the reason behind the anger. You should always focus on what's important and the reason something makes you feel a certain way. Always take a step back on "question" yourself about why you feel the way you are: "why is this bothering me so much? maybe it's because im annoyed at what my friend said earlier and it affects my mood? Do this really matter to me that much that its worth hurting the way i feel?" etc. always talk to yourself about these stuff because, as you know, or at least should, "You are the best version of you. No one knows you like you do and no one can help you like you can!"
lsolate
January 25th, 2017 9:03am
Generally think of the long term effects of the thing you might be overreacting about. If they're not as severe as you feel like they are, you may be overreacting.
Here2help00
February 1st, 2017 11:28pm
Think about the event thats taking place and if you think in two years you looked back at this event, would you react in the same way, this may tell you how important or big of an event it is.Always remember that overreacting to something means you care and if you feel a certain emotion over something it may mean you care and thats not an entirely bad thing.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2017 7:50am
Those who truly cares for you and are close to you are best people to let you know if you overreact or not? And there is one more person and that is you, just think about your behaviour or reactions when you are alone, it is introspection, ask yourself, find yourself, answer will certainly be found out by you,
SirNobilis
March 18th, 2017 4:45am
Overreacting occurs when you absolutely refuse to believe any idea, point of view or fact over your own. Usually involving a fair dose of drama, exaggeration and self deception.
strawberryBeauty45
April 29th, 2017 1:23am
Based on my own personal experience, I can usually tell that I am over reacting to something when I begin to have a lot of negative thoughts about myself. I sometimes begin to blame myself for things that I don't even have control over. Almost every time I am feeling lousy about myself, it is usually because I am over reacting to another situation. When these feelings start to overwhelm me, I have to stop whatever I am doing and evaluate my current situation. I analyze the problem and then ask myself "is there anything that I can do to change my situation?" If the answer is yes, then I try to figure out what steps I should take next in order to change the situation. If the answer is no, then I ask myself "is this situation going to affect my future in anyway?" Usually the answer is "no". By going through these couple of steps, it helps me put things back in order and gain a better perspective on the situations where I tend to over react.
beautifullycomplicated
June 24th, 2017 3:04pm
When you are starting to overthink, overdo, and overcompensate for what you feel you're overreacting to
Anonymous
July 7th, 2017 1:06pm
if you focus too much on certain things, especially when you're aware that they're not that important, and you use too much energy on thinking about them, you may be overreacting
MissLuthien
September 17th, 2017 12:12pm
If you feel yourself losing control you might be overreacting. Take a few deeps breaths, and work out how it can be solved, there is a way out of most situations, but you are allowed to be upset too.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 5:24pm
Normally i can tell if I'm overreacting based on my voice. If louder or more sarcastic than it should be, unless it's in a playful joking matter, I'm usually overreacting to something that had happened. Not to say a raised voice always means overreacting, but im normally auite closed and wuiet ehen it would be appropriate to raise my voice.
readingDream88
November 17th, 2017 4:11am
Everyone has different degrees to which they react to things. How do you normally react to things? Take note of how you typically respond to situations, and then compare it to the one you think you're overreacting about. You can also ask yourself if you're overthinking it.
Dekokai
November 24th, 2017 5:01am
To what? To who? To who's standards? What the situation is, does it feel like you're overreacting? If someone asked you to justify your reason as to why you feel the way you do, could you do it? If so, you're probably not overreacting.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2018 1:28pm
When you over emphasis every detail that you believe is negative with being too emotionally distressed and having a lack of confidence.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2018 6:07am
We all react. Perhaps the word overreacting is when you have a story about what happened that is no longer attached to the factual reality of what happened. This tends to happen to me when I have fears and judgements that are controlling me - it has me project things, and see problems that don't actually exist. Having that breakthrough in realizing that my story is not attached to what happened, can happen in a few different ways: being confronted by the people involved in the situation, or being gently coached by a friend who knows me and can see the situation from the outside, or being triggered by something I read or hear or see in the world, and getting that Aha moment that has me check myself. Ultimately, you and Future You are the only ones who knows if you are reacting, or over-reacting.
EmpoweredOakTree
February 9th, 2018 6:02am
You may not know until tomorrow. If things seem less intense the day after, that might be a sign that you overreacted. Perhaps you can know only if you tend to overreact?
Pumpkin74
February 28th, 2018 8:28am
Feelings are not facts. This means that while our feelings are very real and should be validated but they may not reflect the truth. Taking the time to ask yourself what you would tell your best friend in that situation and discerning your feelings is the best thing to do.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2018 5:18am
You will know if you are overreacting if you lash out at simple things that are easily to be solved, after a person offers you a suggestion you becoming defensive about it on the spot and blocking out what others recommendations are before they even finish or started to share.
YouNeverBother
March 4th, 2018 7:12pm
This is definitely a hard question. Sometimes, people get heated up over small things and don't realise this once they have done harm. My advice to avoid this is thinking thouroughly about what made you angry, and asking yourself whether it is as important as you think it is. The answer most of the times is that it is not.