How do I manage to balance my emotions? I either don't let myself feel them, or I feel overwhelmed and crippled by them.
Last Updated: 10/22/2018 at 7:45am
Lara Gregorio, LCSW
I believe that depression can feel all-consuming. I have a real passion for helping my clients to reclaim their voices and lives from depressive thoughts.
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Successfully managing to balance our emotions is really important to have a balanced and healthy life and relationships with others. Not letting others to feel your emotions is not fair. It's good to let others know that you like, love and appreciate them. However, being crippled by them is not good for you. It's really frustrating. Appreciating and thinking about yourself and others as dignified human beings who needs to express their love and feel loved at the same time can solve in a certain extent this problem.
Finding a way to channel them and understand them can help. This can be done by journaling, or speaking with someone about them. I prefer journaling, because I can refer to my thoughts later and find patterns of behavior and thought.
If you feel like you can't find an "in between" for your emotions and it worries you, it might be a good idea to visit your doctor and tell them what's been going on. You can also try chatting with a friend or loved one for their support.
It's difficult to manage emotions sometimes. It's understandable that if you feel overwhelmed and crippled by them, then you'd try to not let yourself feel them. From personal experience, I kind of just relied on others to help me not get overwhelmed, and if I didn't feel comfortable with a topic they were talking about (for example) I'd explain that I felt uncomfortable and asked to change the conversation.
Consider looking into Cognitive and Dialectic activities which can help give you some coping methods and tools to help learn to tolerate and live with your emotions. Numbing yourself prevents you from being sad, but it also prevents you from really feeling happy, where as overwhelming and crippling emotions prevent you from going about your day to day life. Both prevent you from really living and connecting - which everyone deserves to be able to do. Meditation, therapy, journalling, mindfulness as well as self care are all really helpful. They help me regain my 'emotional level' when things are too negative and can calm me down when things are too heightened.
Let yourself feel all of your emotions, but start to keep a journal. Every night before bed, try to remember every positive emotion, and every negative emotion that you felt all day that day (that you can remember) and write them down. After a while (a week or so) look back at what you've written each day and compare. If you see a continuing pattern in your positive emotions and you can locate the cause, continue experiencing it!!! If you see a continuing pattern in your negative emotions and you can locate the cause, remove it. You will be feeling back to normal in no-time. Best wishes!!
If you are having emotions that are taking over, feel overwhelming or interfering with your life, perhaps you could try finding a counselo or therapist to speak with to help you sort out your feelings or emotions. Including group therapy like Emotions Anonymous where you can talk with others who deal with the same o similar feelings.
I try to manage them by acknowledging them... whether its out loud to myself or it's to a friend. I try to recognize what I am feeling at the moment.
For me it was a slow process of allowing myself to feel emotions individually more and more often. Sometimes when I find myself in this situation I like to what I call "pause literally everything"- I go to a space where I can be alone and I do things I like to do that don't take mental thought, for a couple or more hours. Never try to force about with emotions when you're on either end of these spectrums. It's also helpful to come up with coping techniques while you're clear headed for when you do go to one end of the spectrum and can't really think "straight". Good luck!
Every day/week/month is different for me and it depends on what going on in my life. Some days I have to do a mind check twice a day. It's where I'll sit for a minimum of 5 minutes and review how I've been feeling. If reoccurring feelings pop up then I address them. Balancing emotions doesn't mean the never spill over or that we pretend they don't exist. It means that we've acknowledged them, addressed them and then moved on.
I balance my emotions through my passions. Soccer helps reduce my stress and unhappiness, as does music and running. Don't ignore emotions but don't let them take over your life.
Emotions are there because thats what makes us human. The idea is to deal with the emotions and then move forward, Give urself the time and space to deal with the emotions.
Take some time off for yourself and take it easy. Know that you’re doing the best you can and that you’re trying. That’s what matters in the end. If you feel overwhelmed or crippled by your emotions, don’t bottle it up, tell someone about it, about how your feeling and what you’re worried about, don’t keep it to yourself where it can destroy you, talk to someone because your feelings matter x
Step 1 is to identify and realize your emotions into having good and bad effects on yourself. Rest you are good enough to find the others steps and solutions. I believe in you. Now don't ask how to identify what is having good or bad effect on you, you are good enough to know that also. Ignore following part since this is not part of answer, just writing to complete 100 words which is minimum requirement to complete my answer. I don't know why we have to write too long when the answers can be even in One sincere kind loving word. No Offence!
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