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How do I prevent negative thinking?

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Last Updated: 12/23/2021 at 8:41pm
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ChanelChanel32
July 13th, 2018 9:01pm
If you’ve lived with negative thinking for a very long time, you might think it’s unrealistic to just suddenly expect yourself to change your approach. In this situation, even affirmations and thought stopping techniques may seem to merely delay negative thinking for a later date. If this sounds familiar, you might want to spend a couple of weeks at least enforcing boundaries when it comes to negative thinking. The idea here is that you choose a fixed, limited period for allowing your mind to entertain negative thoughts, and that you commit to forcibly stopping or fighting them at every other time of the week. When you’re reassured that you will have time to consider these thoughts, you may find they seem less powerful and have less potential to dominate your mind. Further, many people find that they can’t even think of anything when they come to their scheduled time to allow contemplation of negative thoughts, and that this actually helps them to break their pattern.
dustlandfairytale
July 22nd, 2018 1:34am
I prevent negative thinking by listening to music I enjoy, watching my favorite movies and spending time with my dogs and other animals
RiverOfDreams
July 22nd, 2018 4:59pm
I stop negativity in it's tracks by realizing that I have to make mistakes before I succeed, that I'm human and I can only act on my perception and my past, so everything is excusable.
SarahBlank
July 25th, 2018 2:51am
Distracting yourself with anything, listening to music, and try to sleep when it’s too bad.
AmethystUnicorn
July 25th, 2018 1:29pm
One thing that always helps me is challenging your negative thoughts! Identify whether or not the thought is true, rational, positive and if it isn't, replace it with one that is!
ReflectiveSoulHarsh
August 2nd, 2018 5:21pm
By slowing down, having longer pauses between thoughts. I embrace negative thoughts as much as positive or neutral thoughts. Most of the times, when a thought gives me a -ve emotion, I question myself "Is this just a -ve assumption or Is it a warning against overly +ve or ignorant decision"
hopefulParadise73
August 3rd, 2018 2:35pm
By feeling gratitude for the good things. Making yourself busy in something constructive whenever you feel that negative thoughts start to come. Deep breathing can also help.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:31am
Negative thinking comes from self doubt, personally I think working on your self esteem, mindset and view on life helps to solve this
Ikwan777
August 12th, 2018 6:32pm
You can try some thought stopping exercises where you replace the negative thought patterns with positive ones. Talk to a CBT specialist if you can afford it.
DipityEnigma
September 1st, 2018 6:24pm
"Negative thinking" is all about what you deem it to be. For example, some people think that being given more hours at work is a good thing while others think it's a bad thing; all for different personal reasons of course. If you think about the reasons as to why you think your thoughts are negative, then perhaps you can work around them. You first have to decide whether or not your negative thoughts are rational or not. You may require help from a friend or family member if you feel as though you can't trust your own emotions on the matter. Remember, to regret the past is to fear the future.
romanticthi3f
September 6th, 2018 1:32am
Unfortunately you can't! (sorry!) Scientists recommend that we think around 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day, and yet were not really aware of how many thoughts are running through our brains. Often we are thinking and don't realise that we are - so much of it is just automatic. What we can do though is try and be aware of some of those negative thoughts that keep popping up. We can either challenge them (since most of them aren't true!) or we can acknowledge that they are just thoughts and we don't have to hook onto them or let us ruin our day.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 9:55pm
Negative thinking is so easy to do and brings down your mood so fast. The easiest way to prevent negative thinking is to try and alter/change your outlook on life- if you look at it from a negative point, that's how your life is more than likely going to be. Start by taking a situation you've been thinking negatively about and think about the positives that were created or came out of it as well. If you can't think about any that's fine! Sometimes there are bad situation but remember it could always be worse, and for a lot of people in the world it is worse. If you try and see life from a more positive POV instead of always grey, a weight will be lifted off of your shoulders.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2018 12:52am
It's important to remember that negative thinking is natural. We all have our bad days, and that's okay! However, it becomes an issue when negative thoughts cloud our thinking, and should always be taken seriously. The truth is, it can't be prevented. Thoughts are unprovoked and pop into our heads without us even knowing sometimes- the more we try to prevent a thought, the more we think about it! In my experience, the best way to deal with negative thoughts is by taking a step back. Think, what is this thought, is there any reason and is there anything I can do to solve it? For example, say you saw something that upset you online, and it plays on your mind. What is the best course of action? In this instance, blocking the offensive post or person would mean this cannot pop up again, perhaps disabling the thoughts from occurring again. Of course, it isn't always as easy as pressing a button. If negative thinking is affecting you, it's always best to talk to someone. In my experience, family, friends or listeners on cups are amazing for helping! Every situation is different, and not everything can be solved by how I've suggested, however there is an answer. It's important you work with the people around you to solve the problem.
bigBlanket63
October 6th, 2018 10:20am
Release the emotion you feel is consuming you and thereby clouding your ability to think clearly and logically at the moment whether it is either anger, sadness, or both, through writing, drawing, scribbling, talking it out, shouting into a pillow or some other healthy and positive outlet for an emotionally cathartic release of emotions. If you are still consumed by negative thinking afterwards, create a cognitive-behavioral think, act and say chart to chart any type of negative thinking that may affect your daily normal functioning. Also, note the situation and ask yourself, "what can I do differently? How can I change my way of thinking?"
ReassuringRey
October 27th, 2018 6:21pm
One way to prevent negative thinking is to think of the positive outcomes of your future, situations you're in, and your goals. For example, a big test is coming up and you may be stressed, anxious, and thinking about the "what-ifs." However, in this time, you can also think about the superior grade you're going to get and how your hard word is going to get paid off. Also, positive affirmations such as "I am loved", "I am cared for", "I am worthy", and "I am a warrior" can help bring the message to our brain that we can make a difference and bring ourselves to the best potential we have.
moonchild29
November 4th, 2018 5:08pm
Try balance approach. For every negative thought that comes into your mind, think of something positive too. Even better, think about ten positive things for every one negative thought. It doesn't have to be huge stuffs. Small great things matter too. :) After a while, it'll become like a habit to you and I hope that you can counter that negative thinking. That's what I struggle with tol and this is the appraoch I am trying. Sometimes we can't help but getting negative thinking. But I believe we can balance it with more positive thoughts. Other important thing would be to evaluate your situation and surrounding. What gives you such negative thinking ? Gotta solve the problem from the root first.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2018 3:51am
I prevent negative thinking by saying aloud the complete opposite. You have to have a positive attitude in order to have a positive mind set. Instead of doubting yourself lift yourself up. You have to learn self confidence in order to help build others up. You can't love, and respect others if you don't love, and respect others. You have to learn self respect that's the key to channel your inner positive side. Everyone has one. No matter who you are you are. You are loved, and wanted just as much as the next person. You are important just like everyone else.
CarrieHolmes
November 22nd, 2018 3:07am
Think about the things that can make you happy. Make a list of those things. I know it's not very easy, but please try. Try to read that list everyday, post it on the wall of your room or anywhere you want. Sometimes, you may get tired of the list because you read it everyday, but try to hold on to hope and try to take it step by step. It doesn't matter if you're doing a slow pace or not... Just keep going. Nobody's gonna tell you it's taking you slow. What matters is that you keep going.
Joye74
November 28th, 2018 4:23pm
This is the toughest for me and trying to learn how to reduce and eventually get rid of it. Good health, good network, good food and clean and healthy place to leave has big impact. They do offer comfort, however, they keep us engaged either in maintaining them or enjoing them. Next thing is the meditation and mindfulness. These two are helping me living in present and reducing fortune telling and imagination which most likely never happens. Yet another one is, if the first two are covered then becoming productive and checking self often helps feeling of accomplishments. Even a small task done makes me feel accomplish and temprorily gives relief from negative thinking. There are any, one has to identify which one will work and ready to improve upong negative thoughts. Thoughs are imagination on real!
Anonymous
November 30th, 2018 2:01am
I'm not sure if we can ever completely prevent negative thinking. But there are skills we can learn to help us when the negative thoughts do come around. Sometimes we may be able to stop the thoughts before they snowball, or we can lessen their effects if they do make their way in. It takes a lot of practice to retrain our automatic thought processes. Breathing exercises, meditation, and grounding skills are all great tools to try. There are many resources like articles and videos for learning more about these. 7 Cups also offers many self-help guides with this info. Try these and find what works best for you!
wonderfullbaboon
January 6th, 2019 8:00am
By thinking all the good things I have. Such as family. They're your great supporters. And all your friends, somebody who stands by you. I think all about the blessings from God. If I had bad times, yes, I'll be really piss off but when my mood is coming back to normal, I'll try to think that happened for a reason. Maybe I have to learn something. I will find the answer at the right time. And I'm trying to do the best I can to people around me. That way, I hope my life becomes harmony and finally gain the peace of mind.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 1:54pm
I recommend you to write in a notebook or somewhere easy to see some motivate quotes and when those negative thoughts come to your mind, read them. You can do the same with music, create your own playlist of songs that make you smile and every time you start to feel sad you have to listen to them. You have to remind yourself of the reasons you have to be happy and value all the little things that make you smile in a day. You have to be conscious that you are the only one who has the power to control your mind and your thoughts. And every time you have a bad thought you have to ask yourself how much it really matters to be worried about.
radiantHoliday71
February 10th, 2019 8:38am
Couple of things to bear in mind about way of thinking is that you can not feel good by thinking bad thoughts. Negative thinking leads to negative feelings. and vice versa. To feel good or better than you wish now is to switch negative thoughts with good ones. Erase the 'no' word and change the word, for example from 'what if it does not work?' become 'what if it works?' Like a camera works: Focus on what is important by capture the good times develops from negatives. And if it does not work out, take another shot! you always can try again.
BronyDice
March 28th, 2019 2:09pm
You can't always prevent it, but you can learn how to respond to it better. To understand that negative thoughts aren't based on truth, to step back and see the good things in addition to the bad things. These thoughts are based on feelings, and those can change. Nobody can have positive thoughts all the time, but negative thoughts can't control you unless you allow them to. You have the power to act on them, or disbelieve them. They may seem like they are truth, but they are just a belief, just a thought, just a feeling.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2019 11:38pm
Love to love yourself, even if others destroyed your self confidence or you are overwhelmed. Remember the few moments of succes in your life, the smile of a friend, something you used to like, even if negative thoughts and moments are overwhelming, focusing on good ones helps. Breathing helps, people and friends help, a laugh and a joke helps too. You can also prevent negative thinking by anticipation and self control and calm. You might try to anticipate how a situation or a person might lead you into negative thinking and prepare for it. In general just tgink that "negative" is bad for you and others even though in medical termsit is a good news😉🤗😊
swooned
May 31st, 2019 5:39pm
In my opinion, it is not possible for a person to be positive all the time. Negative things are just as much a part of life as positive things are. It might help to start with identifying negative thoughts, and then voluntarily choosing not to let them control you. It might seem very hard, but if you try, you can get into the habit of not letting negative thoughts affect your physical/mental/emotional health in a very bad manner. On a more practical level, it is necessary to stay physically active. The more productive you are, the lesser chances you will have to go into that vicious spiral of thoughts that accompany negative thinking.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2019 7:40pm
I understand it can be really difficult to prevent negative thinking, but there are many ways to prevent it. First of all, it's a good idea to say good things about yourself. What we think in ​our ​minds will eventually become what we believe. That's why it's important to tell good stuff about yourself! For instance, remind to yourself something that you did good! Moreover, once you start thinking negatively, try to distract yourself. It's like a trap! Try to watch a funny video, movie, talk to someone you trust about what's bothering you, go for a walk, take a hot bath and do some self-care.
ashouldertocryon8
June 23rd, 2019 8:40pm
Often preventing negative thinking will make it worse. The best way to cope is to acknowledge the negative thoughts and try to work through them. This had been really effective for me. It can also be helpful to work through this stuff with a counselor or therapist. I found that working through the negative thoughts with someone you trust is really helpful and can not only help keep the negative thoughts at bay, it can also help widen your mind and make you think more broadly. It can help you think about the 'why'. Why you may be feeling these negative things.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2019 5:17am
Negative thinking Is something that most of us do without acknowledge but that's not a good thing ,because our thoughts has a great effect on our lives.positivity is a really good thing.The universal law of attraction which has been scientifically proved says that if somebody keeps thinking about something constantly the universe will provide them support according to what they think. But if we keeps thinking about negative things constantly the universe in return would provide us negative results. That's why positive thinking is such an important thing. Try to concentrate on your daily activities well and try to be positive about every thing you do. believe in yourself no matter what. And the moment you get a negative thought suppress it by using your positive energies .
genuineNight42
June 27th, 2019 8:49pm
By stop validating yourself by what other people may or may not think around you! Negative thinking usually incurs due to how people behave, interactions with them, and opinions of other people. The minute we start validating ourselves by our own sets of principles, the whole outcome of life will change. Negative thinking doesn't develop itself, however it does evolve. But did you ever stop and think, its not the things in your room that gives you a reason for being a pessimist. It's the network of people around you. Is it really important to care what anyone will think of you, if you think it is. Wait and analyze a situation, where you disappear. How much would that person care then?