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How do I prevent negative thinking?

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Last Updated: 12/23/2021 at 8:41pm
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Anonymous
July 7th, 2019 8:26pm
I don't think negative thinking is always preventable, but we can learn how to be more in-control of it. We may have a "negative" feeling, which comes automatically. Sometimes, this leads to a negative thought. We can keep ourselves from focusing on the negative thought if we look back to the emotion. What is the emotion trying to tell us? Even "negative" emotions still have a job to do. Anger might tell us that someone has crossed a boundary. Sadness might tell us someone hurt us. Sometimes if we can figure out what the emotion is trying to tell us, we can try to change that situation that is bothering us, or if it is not something we have control of we can attempt to accept it. Sometimes we can't always figure out a reason for our emotions, and that's ok too. Sometimes all the emotion needs is a little attention and observance, and then it will calm and fizzle out on its own. We just have the watch the negative thinking when we find ourselves "stuck" on an idea or thought loop over and over. If we keep revisiting the idea too much, it probably means some sort of action is needed.
Paris03
July 26th, 2019 3:16pm
Surround yourself with positive energy. The people who you communicate with daily have an impact on you, also the words you speak and the music you listen to. Listen to something motivational, or a word of prayer (if you're religious) and surround yourself with people who are vibrant and who look out for each other. Here's something basic I recommend: Every morning you wake up, go in the mirror and say something positive about yourself (even if it's the same thing every morning. Speak it into existence! I also recommend trying to find something you like and channel all your negative energy towards it.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2019 7:13am
Try meditating🤗and do things that make you happy so that they can distract you.And remember to say positive affirmations.And spend time with family and friends.Do the things that make you happy all the time.Celebrate your achievements no matter how small they are.Do not put too much pressure on yourself because that’s the first step to living a healthier life.Self care is the basic of positive thoughts.So if you love and appreciate yourself you are more likely to think about the wonderful things and you can look at life in a different way.So anytime you have negative thoughts just treat yourself a little.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2019 2:49pm
Surround yourself with things that make you happy, and that bring you joy. Deconnect with negative people and find a small thing, like a quote or a song, that will cheer you up when you think something negative! For example: whenever you feel like a sad or negative thought crawls up in your mind, don't try to passively get out of it. Rather actively put your mind to something positive. Create art, do sports, listen to the "Happy" playlist on spotify. Create something and surround yourself with happiness and joy. Find things that interest you and invest your energy in this.
GlowingAngelfish111
September 26th, 2019 9:36am
There are many techniques. But here is one that I like particularly. It’s based on the principle of meditation on which to empty our mind we don’t fight the thoughts we let them come and go. Having negative thoughts is natural, but rumination is the problem, it causes the damages. Be kind to yourself, and let the negative thoughts come and go. The more classic one is try to shake it off. Replace them by good thoughts, by absorbing good vibes around you. Music on, meeting with others, simply watching something that makes you laugh, doing something that you enjoy, etc... keep your mind busy with positive thoughts
peacefulLight8704
October 13th, 2019 4:16pm
It's hard to completely stop all negative thinking, and it takes a ton of practice to improve on this! I would try to just start challenging your thoughts, and replacing them with positive ones. For example, if someone makes vague comment that you believe confirms the worst about yourself, challenge that. Are you sure it isn't the preconceptions that you already have about yourself that are causing you to falsely interpret this message? Sometimes, we have filters in our brains that everything goes through. So if you think you don't look good, you will find things to confirm that, whether its true or not.
EdSAB
October 23rd, 2019 4:03pm
If you want to prevent negative, you have to first be mindful of your thoughts, whether they are positive or negative thoughts. Preventing negative thinking requires learning a new habit of positive thinking. Every time you notice that you are thinking negatively about something, shake the thought and think something positive about it. Be optimistic and look at the bright side of things no matter how bad the situation seems. But it starts with being mindful of your thoughts which allows you to notice what you are actually thinking about and adjust the way you are thinking about it. No matter how bad things seem, there is always something positive to look at it.
Leafless393
October 27th, 2019 8:50am
In my experience negative thinking is the result of inner reflection that is blind to one’s personal self worth. Training yourself to see at least one positive thing in every situation changes what you’re looking for, and with that small change you will begin to find more and more positive aspects of yourself. The positive aspects are little precious gems. For me these gems became more valuable to me because, sometimes they are very hard to find unless I ignored the negative which was only there because my mind put it there to begin with and was never real. I don’t believe positive thinking comes naturally or easily for some but is a learned skill we are all capable of mastery
Anonymous
November 14th, 2019 12:44am
Try hanging out with people, try not to be alone with yourself. Try talking to anyone, even an adult, or maybe right down to your pet if there isn't anyone, then get a helpful therapist. Negative thoughts never escape, especially when your moody feelings penetrates the mind into thinking your a failure, your not good enough, you need to end it all, the pain and suffering is terrible...You know there is a reason for your life, not to be worrying about some stupid thoughts. There are things to look up to like schools, colleges, jobs, love, money, and mostly yourself...Once you get out of the "lifesucksphase" and your mind is fully developed, you will figure out your story to your life is just the beginning.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2019 2:08am
I prevent negative thinking by taking a deep breath and doing some high intensity activity for 2 minutes. If it's really bad I like to take a shower. Also, I like to place myself in other people's perspective. Why would this person do? I ask myself. Breathing deeply helps me calm down and refocus. Working out helps me clear my mind and exert some energy that otherwise would not be use the smartest way. When negatives thoughts come your way, you must re center yourself and replace it with a positive thought. Thoughts come and go, it is up to us to allow them make us or ruin us.
Bettyboop1961
December 4th, 2019 12:48pm
Blow out the bumble bees and breathe in the butterflies. Do something positive or something that makes you feel good. Keep busy. Create a hobby for yourself that will give you a positive feeling . Set a goal and something that is easily achievable. When negative thinking starts, get up and do something you like . Keep your mind busy with errands, chores, activities. Call a friend that supports you. Reach out to us here at 7 cups. Know that someone is always here for you. Keep telling yourself you can achieve all.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2019 3:32am
Negative thinking can be difficult to prevent depending on the reason you think negatively. Even people who think positively have negative thoughts. I feel that it is more about pushing those negative thoughts away that eventually help you to make positive thinking a habit. Like the saying goes, the first thought that comes to your mind is what society has conditioned you to think, the second thought is what you truly think. You just have to tell yourself, "No, that's not right," and then try to find the positive side of it. I always try to find the positive side of even the most negative situations. You may have to really think about it at first, but it becomes very easy to see the good in things after a while.
firecrackersintheeast
December 28th, 2019 2:23am
An important thing for me to stop thinking so negatively is to first acknowledge that your thoughts are negative. Whether it's about you or someone else, having negative thoughts fosters a negative mindset, which is bad for your health (both physical and mental!). So when you stop yourself, and say, hey, that wasn't a really nice thing to think about myself/someone else, it's a good first step to preventing your future negative thoughts. From there, I would recommend trying to take a step back from those thoughts, and try to identify evidence in the contrary. For example: "I'm a bad friend." Negative thought! So what do I do that makes me a good friend? Well I'm pretty good at listening to my friends and helping them through tough times, even if I have been isolating myself a lot recently.
windBlow5510
February 13th, 2020 8:35am
First, i accept the fact that I am a human being with emotions, emotions means there's time when i feel up and time when i feel down. Second, negative thinking is temporary, it comes in when i am down and disappear when i am up. Accept the fact that negative thinking is temporary, don't worry about it. I cannot prevent it, it happens and it is just temporary, but i try to make it disappear as soon as possible, build the habit of coming out from negative thought in time, then it will happen less often. When negative thought come less and less often, i think i'm doing the good job of preventing it.
Jenn20
February 16th, 2020 4:58am
Oof I can relate to that a lot!!!!!!!!!!!! I think you should write your thought down to get them out of your mind and to see what you have been thinking on paper. I think you should ask yourself why are you thinking this way. Is it something you learnt from childhood? Did you parents do the same thing to you? I think also speaking to a counselor or someone like that is helpful too! ( I know for me, it was because of my childhood experiences. I took all that to be current self and that's caused me to be the way I am now. But I know negative thinking isn't healthy at all if you are doing it all the time for no reason)
BabyyTyy10
February 22nd, 2020 9:20am
Have you heard the saying that a whole ocean of salt water cannot sink a ship, unless it gets inside, well it's the same for you, the negativity of the world shouldn't bring you down, unless you allow it to get within you. I know it's hard to stop, but for this you must build your walls high and structure strong. The key is happiness. People misunderstand the meaning of this word but in reality it's quite simple. Happiness is not about others, jobs, education, relationships, family. No. Happiness is about you. About how you embrace it and how much you appreciate yourself. Happiness is about you. It always has been.
ilmars
March 13th, 2020 1:32am
The real question one should be asking is how to handle negative thinking, since one cannot simply prevent or control a thought. Stay at peace with the negative thought when it comes, and watch it flow idly by like a cloud drift across the blue sky. Encourage yourself to stay in touch with what energizes you, I believe, is very important, and it will have an enduring effect on your every thinking patterns. Keeping a log of negative thoughts, along with counterarguments is also helpful. It's good practice to put a positive spin on an unpleasant event that triggers negative thought, and write them down on your thought journal. And of course, cultivating gratitude consistently and regularly will be very beneficial for your moods.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2020 12:55am
This can be extremely tricky. I guess, it’s very different and subjective experience for everybody. However, what I do think is the essential thing for this process of trying to avoid negative thinking and overthinking is trying to recognize that you are about to go into such head space. This way, you will be able to recognize it as something irrational and be able to see that it won’t be beneficial or healthy for you, letting yourself acknowledge its potential negative effects, finding reasons to not want to be in such head space. Avoiding it is the key component.
Kaitlyn24
March 25th, 2020 9:20pm
I have quite a few tips on controlling negative thinking. Negative thinking always comes from a few things: Low self-esteem, overthinking, and depression. Low self-esteem can cause great damage to a person. Try finding something you like about yourself. Look in the mirror. It could be hair color, eyes, freckles, anything! Once you have found something you like about yourself, build off of that. Find something every day that you like about yourself. Next, surround yourself with people who love and care about you. It is easy to feel happy and content when you are around joyful people. Overthinking is a big one I've heard of a lot. People tend to overthink even the littlest things and turn it around into something very negative. It is easy to let yourself overthink. Sometimes, you won't even realize you're overthinking. A way to help with that is to distract yourself, escape your own mind. Find a hobby or a great show you like to watch. It will distract your mind from overthinking. And last, is depression. Depression is always the hardest to recover from since it always kind of follows you. Along with depression comes eating disorders, and lack of sleep. A way to help with this is kind of the same with the overthinking. Surround yourself with people who love you, and adore you. They will truly show you just how much they care.
RichardRedacted
March 26th, 2020 3:04pm
This is a good question, but a tricky one to answer. I don't think it's possible to remove all negative thinking from ones mind. That would be the equivalent of saying "Okay, from this day on I will never feel sad again." It just isn't possible. Everyone is going to have negative thoughts from time to time, this is unavoidable. What matters is what you do with the thought. Do you let it drive your actions or emotions? That's when the problem arises. I'd suggest looking at a negative thought just the same way you look at any other "normal" thought. Let it come, acknowledge it, then let it pass away just like any other thought. It doesn't have to have any more power than any other. I hope this helps :)
Anonymous
March 27th, 2020 3:29am
Every time you encounter a bad thought, try and think of a way to turn it around or counter it with a positive thought. For example, if I were to think how horribly I was going to do on a test, I could change it so it would be I was going to do great on the test, or challenge the thought by saying; well, I studied a lot for this test so there isn’t any reason I should do badly. Another way to counter a negative thought is to think of something else that is positive in that situation
WildflowerHeather
April 9th, 2020 3:02pm
Sometimes it is hard to prevent negative thinking. Sometimes those thoughts just pop into your head out of nowhere, and suddenly distract you from what you’re doing. It is easy to let those thoughts distract you, and ruminate for a long time. While you cannot prevent the initial thought, you can prevent the thoughts that come after the original thought. Instead of thinking about your negative thought, instead say, “that was odd, I know it’s probably not true, so I’m not going to focus on it.” Prevent rumination, and try to move on with your day. Don’t let one thought spiral out of control
Anonymous
April 10th, 2020 5:24am
Surrounding yourself with the right people plays a big factor into positive thinking and a positive mindset. When walking into a new situation that you find negative, instead, ponder on what could go right and how you can make sure that it does go right and that it won’t go wrong. Having a support team can also help too. Being around others who want you to succeed and give you advice on how to be the best can help tremendously. These people will encourage you, provide tips and tricks, give personal stories that maybe give you a leg up, and believe in you for the better.
CreativListener
April 20th, 2020 3:40am
Negative thinking seems to come when I'm tired, stressed, hungry or have had a negative interaction with someone else. The first thing I do is work towards meeting my basic needs. If I'm in a negative mood because I haven't eaten in a while, I try to remedy that as soon as possible. If I'm tired, I think, "wow I haven't been sleeping well, I need to be well rested so I don't get these negative thoughts." If I'm overall stressed, I think about what I'm thankful for or think of a way to decompress to reduce my stress level. If I've had a negative interaction with another person, I give myself the space and time to think through the interaction and assess what bothered me about it. By having a strategy for each of the possible reasons that lead me to negative thought patterns, I can regain control over the situation and get back on track with positive thinking and actions.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2020 8:53pm
To prevent negative thinking does not happen over night it can take weeks months and maybe years it is our will and actions that will determine your thinking try saying 3 things that make you happy everyday you wake up and when you go to bed write down things you want in life things that make you Courageous and joyful. Negative thinking can happen to anyone it all depends on your way of thinking not everyone has the same ideas,thoughts,intentions,wishes and ect... Preventing negative thinking is not just something anyone can do at times it takes sacrifice such as waking up early,working out, jogging,attending groups,attending classes that can help others and yourself
Mine23
April 29th, 2020 5:27am
I prevent negative thinking by first being aware of it. Once I start to have negative thought coming into my head, I would ask myself, is it fact or is it just my own thought. Then when I realize it is not fact but a piece of thought that combines with my own feelings, I will start asking myself what exactly that I am feeling right now and say to myself that it is ok to accept those feelings as long as they are real and true. So after accepting those negative feelings, I then ask myself why I feel what I feel. What is the root cause of those feelings. Then I would ask myself, is there any other way to see and feel this same situation. By going through all those steps, it helps not only prevent the negative thoughts but also help me understand the person or situations from a different point of view as well.
KACOSMIC
May 15th, 2020 9:05pm
You attract what you think when you have a negative thought it reflects and comes back to you, my tip is: Eliminate negative thoughts and focus your energy on positive thoughts! You attract everything to yourself like a magnet. The problems? They are part of life, and will always exist. The important thing is to have a positive view of everything believing in the best, train your mind to create solutions instead of focusing on problems. Everything you think happens. Think positive always, have good feelings, imagine what you want and think about your desire fulfilled in your satisfaction when receiving it and THANK you always. Celebrate good feelings and feed them, everything you think and feel today the law of attraction will bring to you. The more you feel good, happy and prosper the more you will be attracted to your life. Be grateful for what you have and make this Gratitude multiply every day and see your thoughts come true.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2020 10:48am
Trust the process. Everything going on in your life right now, no matter how hard it may be, is going to teach you so much about yourself and prove what a strong and powerful person you are. Negative thinking is inevitable, but knowing that your worries are valid and that it's okay to feel that way is so important. Be kind to yourself and know that everything happens for a reason. A good thing to practise is being conscious of your thinking patterns. For example, if you notice yourself starting to think negatively, take a deep breathe and gently remind yourself that you are safe and things are going to be okay. Whatever is going on inside your head, please just know that you don't have to do it alone. We're all here for you if you need us :)
Anonymous
May 24th, 2020 3:02am
The first step to prevent negative thinking is to be aware of what sort of experiences or emotions incite these harmful thoughts. Often times, negative thinking seems to come out of nowhere, but once you start identifying potential triggers for this sort of thinking, you are also enabling yourself more control because you can start anticipating these thoughts. Once you are able to anticipate the recurrence of this type of thinking, the best thing to do is to try to break down these types of thoughts by asking yourself: Are these thoughts rational? How do these thoughts make you feel? Are these thoughts facts or opinions? Are these thoughts helping you achieve your goals? If you find that these thoughts are irrational, opinion-based, and aren't helping you achieve your goals, then you start to realize that this type of thinking is not assisting you in advancing yourself towards a happier and stronger self.
CheerfulCheese
May 28th, 2020 2:03am
I have had a similar problem in the past. So this might sound pretty obvious, but look for the positive things in a situation. It actually is pretty effective. For example, instead of thinking about all the people that might bully you at the new school you are going to go to next year, think about all the new people and friends you can make there. Doing this will help you feel more positive and prevent your negative thinking. It will take time, patience, and hard work, but it will be worth it in the end. Hope this helps! :)