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How do I stop crying so much?

13 Answers
Last Updated: 10/12/2020 at 4:53pm
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I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.

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February 1st, 2015 3:35am
I definitely understand that it's hard to stop the tears from flowing once they start! Sometimes it helps to let the tears come out, because they are a natural form of expression and an opportunity for reaching out and connecting with someone who can help you through what is making you feel the need to cry. It can help also to celebrate the small accomplishments as you are on your way to learning how to deal with the larger situation at hand. Remember that tears are not a sign of weakness, they are a gift of expression.
May 14th, 2015 7:24am
You can't stop yourself from crying because it's natural way for us to relieve stress, tension or inevitable feelings. You can control it by thinking of other outlets such as sports or talking to someone. :)
February 9th, 2015 7:27am
Well, that is entirely up for you to decide. I admit that I find crying to be useful. It is a way for your inner self to express their feelings. Some find crying as weak and to be avoided, but I prefer to embrace the feelings when I cry, then I let it go. If you find yourself crying to much, then maybe there are some causal factors that could be looked at to help you understand. If you understand what or who is making you cry, then maybe you could do change that?
April 9th, 2015 6:00pm
I think there's a couple different ways to stop crying so much. The first, would be figuring out what it is that is making you cry so much and then finding a way to cope with that. The second, if we don't know why we're crying, is taking the time to focus on the things that make us happy and keep us from crying. Whether it's going for a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, reading a book, coloring a picture. Just find something that makes you happy and that you can do just for yourself.
May 3rd, 2015 1:16am
Take a deep breathe and calm yourself down. Fresh air will help to bring your heart rate down, resulting in it making it easier for you to stop crying.
May 6th, 2015 1:37am
You shouldn't. You're expressing your emotion by doing it. Your tears will indicate the reason why you're feeling the way you do
February 8th, 2016 3:54pm
Crying is healthy and a good way to release bottled up emotions. However, try to not think of what hurts you.
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March 22nd, 2016 6:35am
There must be something triggering the crying. Try to deal with what is triggering it before you can stop doing it.
May 23rd, 2016 3:23pm
stay positive because even though things seems hard right now, things will get better and easier. Stay Happy!
August 1st, 2016 8:50am
Perhaps you can try to be aware and find out as to why you're crying so much. It's okay to cry, but in order to heal, one must be mindful and aware of their emotions
October 23rd, 2017 3:23am
You’ll cry for a while. Before you go to bed each night. When you wake up every morning. When a certain word is said during class. But one day you’ll go to bed and you’ll realize you only cried for a few minutes and the next morning you looked in the mirror and your eyes weren’t swollen red from all the tears since you woke up. When you get to class no tears fall when that word that hurts so bad is said. Eventually the tears stop, they just go away. Just give it time.
August 21st, 2018 12:19am
Crying a lot can be a sign of a lot of things going on for a person, all of which are hard to deal with. It can be very draining to have something effecting you enough to make you cry a lot. I think that trying to find the thing that is making you cry is the first step. What are you feeling when you cry? Is it because of a person, a feeling or a situation? Maybe you will notice something reccuring. Then you can begin to work on fixing something if possible and of course feeling better in yourself.
October 12th, 2020 4:53pm
Crying can sometimes be a release and can help you feel better. If you find it is taking over and happening too much, it can be worth working out what causes you to cry. For example, if you cry when you're anxious then it is worth figuring out the cause of your anxiety and working on that, which in turn will help you stop crying as much. I used to think I cried too much and then when I figured out that it was related to feeling overwhelmed I was able to work on that and reduce my tears. (However I still cry when I'm happy too!)