How do I stop myself from crying?

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TreeLover
September 8th, 2015 2:30pm
Tearing up in front of people, during a performance or an argument can be frustrating, make one feel weak and powerless. How to overcome this? Well, first of all, please have in mind that crying is a natural body reaction in order "clean" itself. It aslo helps to "clean" your mind and heart of bad emotions, pain, stress... So before you try to supress your tears, always make sure to ask yourself whether "supression" is really what you want. Sometimes it's good to just cry it out, because supressed emotions stay inside and can turn into something more serious over time if they are left unattended. So first rule - be kind to yourself. However, if you do find yourself in a situation where you need to get yourself together and stay calm, here are a few methods how to do it. 1) Deeply breathe in, look upwards and blink a few times, then exhale all of it, together with the feelings that triggered the tears. During this, keep telling yourself "I'm strong. I won't cry over something like this." Personally, I find this one the most helpful. 2) Find something to laugh about. A funny video, a joke, a weird situation... You can even try to gently mock yourself or the situation, but beware - don't start bullying yourself! 3) Occupy your mind with a task and give it all of your undivided attention. If you can't think of anything, don't panic, but take your time and lead your mind to "safe waters". This method is avoiding and ignoring your emotions, which is why I suggest doing it only if you really must and when you feel like you are ready, face the emotions that you had supressed. These are my suggestions, I hope it helped. Stay strong, you are not alone! :)
RoyalTee
December 26th, 2014 10:26pm
Keeping emotions and well tears inside can be dangerous. It is better to find a private moment and place and let the tears flow. Tears cleanse the soul and can give you the emotional release that you need. Plus, you often feel a sense of euphoria after allowing yourself to cry. Which of course can help lift your mood.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2014 6:47pm
when you feel so low its so hard sometimes to stop crying, i often try to think the positive good things in my life, that what normally helps me
Anonymous
May 21st, 2015 12:43pm
you need to calm down and try to concentrate on you breathing in trough your nose and out trough your mouth
Anonymous
November 13th, 2014 3:04am
Think about something you love to do, Keep switching through to find which works best :) Try busy yourself in your favourite hobbies!
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2014 6:01pm
You don't have to do anything to stop it. Just cry. It stops after a while on its own, once you are drained.
Jadie
December 3rd, 2014 5:07am
Taking deep breaths and drinking water can help. Smiling can also help to trick the brain into pausing the tear-flow, even if there doesn't seem to be anything to be happy about. But if you're in a space where you can cry, it can also be helpful and healing to let the tears come out!
HeadlessQueens
December 18th, 2014 1:33am
It's alwyas best to think about positive things at these times (i.e., hobbies, friends, look at inspirational quotes). You can also try exercising to release this endorphins and get a better mood. Or just do something that you overall enjoy!
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2014 1:07am
Write down on a piece of paper all the good things that you like about yourself and all the good things that are happening and have happened in your life. Also figure out what the trigger is that is making you cry in the first place
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2014 10:24pm
It is important to know that it is alright to cry. Sometimes we need to let out our emotions. Once you have calmed down a little bit, I try to figure out why I am crying. To do this I do free journaling (write about whatever is on my mind). After that is done, I read my journal to figure out why I am crying. I think it's important to talk to others about your crying too. Often times, talking to others about what worries us or makes us cry helps a lot. That's what 7 Cups of Tea is here for. Find an active listener, a friend, or family member to talk to :-).
Anonymous
December 9th, 2014 5:18am
It's really difficult to stop yourself from crying. Sometimes you can stop yourself from crying by physically breathing in and out slowly. Crying is usually a physical response to heightened emotions. Breathing slowly and deeply through your nose and exhaling through your mouth will typically calm your body down. Another part of controlling your reaction to something emotional is the mental aspect. When you feel like you're going to cry, it will sometimes help to focus on something else completely like a math problem, music, or anything you enjoy.
BeautifulBeginnings
December 22nd, 2014 3:05am
I rarely try to stop myself from crying because it is better to let it out. However, if I cannot cry because of where I am, I will simply bite my lip, go talk to someone or just watch funny videos. :) I will also focus on breathing deeply, thinking of happy thoughts!Q
Erynn
December 30th, 2014 7:49pm
Sometimes it is very healthy to cry. But, perhaps, if your crying has gotten to a point where it is not helping and is very constant and somewhat problematic you might want to stop crying - at least in some times. When we go through emotional pain and never cry, that can be a very bad sign. Self-soothing, positive affirmations, journaling, drawing, challenging distorted thoughts, mindfulness, grounding techniques, and distractions may all be useful to you. We also have an ACT Guide here on the top bar of the page under "Guides". You may find it helpful to approach your emotional pain in a new way. Treatment of underlying psychological conditions may also be a critical part of helping yourself stop crying. Sometimes, in recovery or before recovery we go through a phase of intense crying, but we get through it by healing not the crying, but the pain or depression or other thing(s) that is causing our tears.
Homeiswherethehopeis
January 5th, 2015 9:40am
Crying is okay. Acknowledge this. Once you accept it, you realize that your tears are not something to be ashamed of. Now take deep breaths and exhale through your mouth, this will make you more relaxed. If you still find yourself crying, try counting the breaths you take or maybe playing some sort of game to distract you a little bit. Hope this helps :)
Lennya
April 8th, 2015 1:23pm
... O.o ... I'm not sure you can stop yourself from crying in general. Crying is a perfectly healthy human response to a variety of emotions and it can be very healing to simply let it out when need be.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2015 7:22am
It will stop when you are already at ease. It will stop if you'll force to stop it. However, it's okay to cry until you have it in full. But don't be too much consumed on the reason/s why you cry. It will pass.
SpiritWolfNYC
May 30th, 2015 9:29pm
Crying is a normal part of letting out emotion and sometimes we really just need to keep on crying to let it all out
shadow8197
June 22nd, 2015 1:34pm
The easiest things to do can be to think of something that makes you happy. Or you can do something that you know will distract you from whatever you don't want to think about.
AliceInWonderland1997
September 22nd, 2015 2:00pm
Breath in and out and tell yourself every positive thing you can possibly think of. Try to make yourself laugh by looking up funny kitty pictures. Try tohave others make you laugh.
Kitka
November 2nd, 2015 9:47pm
When something makes me very sad that I cry, I have found that writing in a journal helps me to get out the reasons why I am sad, and set that feeling aside. If it is recurring I can see why I was sad earlier, and see what has changed about that feeling over a period of time. Sometimes it feels good to just let myself cry things out privately. Crying is nothing I think anyone needs to be ashamed of.
Kimberly18Joanne
December 22nd, 2015 7:28am
Pat your tears dry and remember everything that ever made you smile. It's ok to cry but it's better to smile.
PaloP
January 5th, 2016 10:03am
Cry is good for our body. This allows take out our feelings and gives us a relief. But if you cry a lot, you have to go to a proffesional to locate the focus of your sadness.
WonderLostSoul
July 12th, 2016 11:19am
Try to distract yourself as much as you can, watch funny cat videos or a favorite tv show! Smile! :)
GuideforLight
July 26th, 2016 4:15pm
Go and get your love. Hug someone that makes you feel secured and cry out loud. Don't supress yourself. Supressing yourself makes you more anxious. Let it out.
Diamondrose12
August 30th, 2016 9:57pm
I think of the positive outcomes because there always is for each and every problem! If that doesn't help I listen to music or play games.
SpaceAngel
September 20th, 2016 6:29pm
you can never really stop yourself from crying, once you start crying you cant stop, give it some time, and after you will feel silly that you are crying and then you will go to sleep :P
h3idi
September 27th, 2016 3:53am
cry! its a great release. it is ok to get emotional sometimes. you are complete allowed to. it is ok.
killinitquinn
April 24th, 2017 6:25pm
Inhale for twelve seconds, and then exhale for six seconds. Repeat until you feel more calm,, try and practice self care (a hot shower, rubbing cream on areas you lay want to harm, avoiding sad music, but listening to songs you like...).
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 10:30am
I think it's healthier to let it all out.. But if you really need to hold it in, try some breathing exercises and try to put on a more positive mindset.. either that or look for comfort from people around you.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 12:39am
You can stop yourself from crying by reaching out to a family member, friends, counselors or even school principals about you're feelings and they can support and comfort you as well provide necessary resources and referrals on how to handle and go to next to seek for more help.