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How do I stop myself from falling in love?

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Last Updated: 02/23/2021 at 7:09pm
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playfulPuppy88
August 20th, 2015 12:27pm
You can't, but you CAN find a way of dealing with the fact that the love is not meant to be, or not good for you
ButterflySkyesListens
September 6th, 2015 1:49pm
Distancing yourself from them often works. As with anything to do with love though its not guaranteed to work. Perhaps focussing on their negatives might also stop infatuation in its tracks. Sometimes though you just have to wait it out.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2015 4:02am
It all depends on how we define love in our lives. Falling in love is generally considered a healthy sign that our heart is functioning at optimum Input/Output levels. This is how I see it. When we are able to give and receive love at equal levels with a significant other, usually someone of similar interests and goals, then the grounds are set for falling in love. So why would we want to stop ourselves from having this awesome experience? Perhaps this is the question people ask when they have been hurt by the experience and simply do not wish to open up their heart to feel the pain of losing out at the end. A broken heart however, can be mended and made whole again only by having learnt and grown from the experience, thereby making it stronger and much more able to endure the challenges it brings. Stopping ourselves from falling in love only makes us more likely to be lonely. So look for ways to expand your love and try new ways of expressing and receiving it. In fact, being in love does not only mean we have a significant other by our side. We can find ways of experiencing love in our community, church, career, family, friends, neighbors, etc. There are great people everywhere. Just be open to love and let it fill your heart in its variety of forms.
calmingDog76
September 23rd, 2015 3:02am
In my case it was valuing the friendship above the romantic relationship. I sensed that the other person did not share my romantic love feelings - in fact they made it clear. But I enjoyed her company and felt at ease around her.
whimsicalMoment68
September 23rd, 2015 10:07am
I don't think you can stop yourself from falling in love, "it's not like I can choose who I can fall in love with" , just let it happen just don't get too attached
FractalBunny
October 21st, 2015 11:51pm
It's hard to keep yourself from falling in love. However, if you are in a position where you can't be in a relationship, just accept your feelings and put them in a safe place in your mind. Acknowledge their existence, but don't dwell on them.
mayraishere
January 2nd, 2016 11:45pm
Why would you want to stop it?! Falling in love is amazing and terryfing. We give everything of ourselves and expect that the other one will treat it with kindness - sometimes it happens (greater times), sometimes it doesn't (awful times). Last time I fell in love it was with a guy who lives in the other side of the ocean. He fell for me as well. Did it hurt? Sure. But, at the same time, the feeling of love someone that intensely and being in love in return is something that would never tread. Love is risky, but so as life.
relatable21
January 9th, 2016 9:52pm
Make sure that you really know the person you think you like. And make sure he or she knows you. And I mean the REAL you. Don't change for them unless you really want to.
RalphBG
December 9th, 2014 6:33am
You can try to avoid the person at all costs, find someone else, or there really isn't an answer, unfortunately.
Peacefulmeditation
August 20th, 2015 5:02am
Recognize the love and be honest with yourself. Then make an effort to either be with that person or stay away from them if you cannot shake the feelings and circumstances won't work out for you two to be together.
CompassionateGirl90
February 5th, 2016 8:08pm
If you have set the intention that you don’t wish to love again, then you probably won’t. Because that intention is there, you just won’t be interested in people in that way. If you don’t believe anyone is worthy of your love, life tends to present you with people and situations that reflect and serve as evidence of your beliefs. But if falling in love is a desire of yours, and you believe it’s possible and that someone is worthy, even if only in your subconscious, then it would be very difficult to stop it from happening. There are ways to avoid intimacy with people, and I’m not just talking about sex but emotional intimacy as well. Many people are good at avoiding emotional intimacy by default, and chances are that you are too if you have really made up your mind not to fall in love. I don’t feel it would be beneficial to some to close down entirely to the possibility of romantic love, but more to open up to the belief that you are capable of falling in love with someone who will love you back and be available for you. Most who wish not to love again do so because they have been hurt and they believe that will inevitably happen again if they love someone else. So it’s more a matter of healing those wounds, setting your intention, and altering your beliefs and behavior so that you can attract the right kind of love – if indeed romantic love is for you.
innocentlover
July 16th, 2017 8:53am
One way guys. Sit alone, contemplate, is this person really worth it? Forsee the consequences, and please focus on your pride Love is strong, it can cure and it can kill. After an unsuccessful realtion, part of you dies inside, dont try to revive it by filling the blank with toxic again. Live and take your mind off of this friends will help, for 3 months of love are gonna take you way more than that to recover after a breakup. "Fool me once, shame on you Fool me twice, shame on me" keep that in mind
Anonymous
November 17th, 2014 12:00am
you can't! ask yourself it it is real love or just a puppy/calf love. i personaly have a lot of them
FeatherIce25
April 9th, 2015 3:34am
Love is a strong word and is often confused with infatuation or attraction. When you fall in love ,you don't get a feeling to stop yourself. So if you have a need to stop yourself, it is probably not love .
Ephraim
August 27th, 2015 3:36pm
There is more to falling in love than one may imagine. Love is described as a strong feeling of emotion towards... But what exactly is the cause of that feeling? Accepting what you feel and answering why you feel that way is a way to answer the question ; "How do i stop myself from falling in love."
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 9:00pm
Why would you want to stop yourself falling in love... The heart controls that.. Plus love can be a wonderful yet dangerous thing! Embrace it if it's a healthy natural love... Life is about taking a step in a positive direction and making the most out of whatever situation you find yourself in.
SilveryBlueSkies
December 30th, 2015 3:16pm
Love is a feeling, and feelings are okay, feelings are on the inside and you cant really stop any of them from happening especially love, what you can do though is ask yourself if the person you are falling in love with is really truly the best possible healthy choice for your life. No matter who you are your life has value and you need to credit that to yourself. so make sure the people you allow into your life are healthy choices and remember, when you are with someone, its best not to think that they are doing you a favor by being with you, they aren't, you both are granting each other the precious gifts of your shared memories and lives together
geenormanxox
January 3rd, 2016 1:15am
You can't help falling in love, but if you feel like that cut all communication with this person ...
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 10:11pm
Based on my own experience, I used to fear love. It took my last relationship to realize,I do not fear love, I feared the breakup and pain that came after. I know now I enjoy love and going into a relationship with the best,positive outlook can make for a better relationship. Pain happens and makes our heart sad temporarily,but it also makes you a stronger person.
Creasour
January 8th, 2016 9:06pm
You should try to spend time with friends. Come out. Put your mind to busy with other things, it will come as good groove a little socializing.
ThatSweetGuy2511
January 10th, 2016 7:27pm
In my personal experience, there were a few ways that I successfully stopped myself from falling in love. I would make a pro and con list as to why I feel the relationship would never work. If it's an acquaintance you're having feelings for a pro / con list would definitely be suitable. However, if it's a really close friend I would write down my feelings for them on paper (this too can work with the acquaintance) and tear it up or burn it... Usually that'll somewhat help you. If you feel yourself falling for them more day by day it's perfectly fine to spend some time away from them to process your emotions, but don't ignore them! If all else fails and you know you're in love, just tell them how you feel and clear the air. It will make you feel so much better...
SenpaiXD
January 17th, 2016 8:31am
Falling in love is something natural. Something that your body does without your mind knowing. One simple thing you can do is to simply acknowledge it and be true to your feelings rather than ignoring it. It's one of the best way to discover yourself on a deeper level
Aflower
January 28th, 2016 9:40am
That's hard, I would even say quite impossible. Because falling in love is something you can't controll, you just fall, without even realizing. And when you realize, that's when it's already to late. The human race is a species who needs to be loved, and feel loved, and you can't stop that. I think a lot of people wish they could stop it, but that's life. You'll have your ups and downs with love, but it just makes you the person you are today.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:12pm
Of the many things in life we have no control over, the best of these is Love, never stop yourself falling in love because you may regret something.
Carleen00
January 29th, 2016 4:35pm
You don't. You can choose not to act on feelings of love, but loving someone isn't a choice. It's a programmed response that I truly don't believe we have control over.
Ven
February 5th, 2016 7:35am
You cannot stop it. it's human nature silly. A better way is to control it and handle it well. Don't get too carried away and do not do rash things. Even though in love, you should still think rationally :)
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 6:30pm
You cannot stop that. If you fall in love, you fall in love. But you can handle yourself in different ways.
raspberrylemonade
May 17th, 2015 10:13pm
Distract yourself! It can be to find a new friend, try a new hobby, spend time doing your favorite hobby, or try and find someone else!
PoliteOcean
September 2nd, 2015 6:25pm
Its hard for some people to want to fall in love for the risk of heartache or putting their feelings on the line for someone else. But theres not really a way to be able to stop from feeling those feelings for someone once they do happen. The thing to do is treat the person the way you want to be treated and in hopes, have the same faith that they will be the same with you.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2015 12:11am
do any good thing in your free times, have a goal and do your best to achieve it, be strong and love when you be able to love not when you need it :)