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How do I stop myself from falling in love?

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SweetEnlightenment13
November 4th, 2015 5:37am
You can't stop yourself from falling in love but the best way you could do is to control your feelings and be open minded.
anchoredwithhope
November 4th, 2015 2:27pm
There is no way. You can't choose who you fall in love with. Love just happens. You don't really get to decide much of the who, where , why and how of it.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 10:04pm
Love is temporary, you don't fall in love. You get tempted to talk to that person and be with them. Look at your love from a different point of view as if it were a mist in the air. Let it disappear and then MOVE ON.
Abbyhereforyou
November 5th, 2015 5:16am
You cannot. But can always assess the situation. If you are in love with someone married, in a relationship or someone whose gonna get you in trouble, that's how you'll be able to change it. through evaluation and assessment.
Namaste2015
November 6th, 2015 12:44am
The heart wants what the heart wants. If you are not ready then you simply need to focus on yourself
srslysd
November 6th, 2015 12:51am
Love is one of the greater subject while living here on earth. People fall inlove but get hurt easily. By those experience some are afraid to try. But there are some who risk their heart just to love someone even though it hurts them so much. Here are some ways to stop yourself from falling in love: 1.,Think of that persons' flaws- people have their flaws that you don't really like. Think of it and then you will start to be discourage about that person. 2. Talk to that person less- if the two of you are close to each other talk to that person less. Avoiding to talk to that person also avoid you from falling in love. 3. Focus yourself from other things- Be a busy person. You may have some new hobby or try sports. Focus on the things you love to do. So those are the things you could do for you not to fall in love.
Greatlistener87
- Expert in Managing Emotions
November 6th, 2015 2:27am
You can never stop yourself from falling in love. But if you know you are having some sorta feeling for that someone and you know it might not work out or there are restrictions try to have less contact or keep some space/distance away from that person till all subsides.
Phillip985
November 11th, 2015 3:47pm
Focus on other things in life. You can look ahead of you at your future career or engulf yourself in the things you love to do. Never feel too pressured to do anything. You don't have to fall in love with anybody.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2015 10:23am
You don't. You close your eyes and you let yourself fall, because even though it might hurt, it really is a beautiful thing.
peacefulWaves67
November 14th, 2015 10:52am
Well, First of all you can't really stop yourself from Falling in love. Feelings such as love can't be just stopped, and I would recommend accepting it...it'll make it a whole lot easier for yourself. If it's impossible for You and your crush to get together (already has a partner, doesn't love you back etc) try to avoid too much contact to not torture yourself or just keep enjoying the person's Company; whatever fits you the best. Just Figur out what's the best for you and in the meanwhile, spend time with your friends, focus on your hobbies, other loved ones and you as a person. :) Good luck!
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 6:30am
Love is a natural emotion and is meant to be shared. There's nothing wrong with feeling deeply for another human being.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 1:29pm
Stop love? You can't. No one can stop a heart from beating because it is inlove so just follow it...
Ksha97
November 18th, 2015 10:02am
When love is yet another mystery Sometimes we think love to be simply a crush Well , falling in love is not a sin , so why stop oneself
Brittneym101
November 18th, 2015 3:20pm
That's something that you just can't fight no matter how much you try. When you fall in love, That's it!! There's no turning back from that. If you try to force yourself to not fall in love with someone you're going to end up doing it. We can't control love sometimes.
dancingTurtle59
November 19th, 2015 5:04am
you want to b careful not to fall in love to fast it is much better to be friends first to see if u will be compatible we all want to feel loved and sometimes we go to fast into it only to be hurt buy it
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 7:49pm
If you don't have any massively good reasons as to why you don't want to then let yourself see where it goes.
brighteyesO71
November 20th, 2015 2:36pm
That's like stopping yourself from feeling. You can't run from feelings.. You may ignore them but that's not healthy at all. Love is a beautiful thing when it is consensual and healthy.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 5:00pm
theres no need to stop yourself falling in love, love is natural and beautiful, loving someone is one of the best parts of life
PuppyLover9392
November 21st, 2015 5:13pm
Stop feeling that everyone is into you. Even if they are, I suggest we should probably care more and love ourselves more. Caring too much would only lead to heart breaks and unstable emotions.
admirableFaith91
November 21st, 2015 7:57pm
Its not about falling in love... It's about falling in love with the wrong person! Its true that you can't choose to fall in love by judging one with your brain and all... But you can stop yourself from taking the wrong step. Yes, being in relationship with someone just because you feel that you are in love with that person is one of the most important facts why people have a heartbreak. we can't stop our hearts from falling in love, but you can stop them from being hurt by thinking before going into any serious relationship or a one night stand. So, be smart, use your brain to think before you make any hazardous move. Be safe.
Eliise
November 22nd, 2015 11:16pm
Never stop yourself from falling in love. Don't rid yourself of such an amazing experience, both for learning and growing
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:45am
I'm not entirely sure how to stop from falling in love. But maybe it would help to take a couple of steps back and think if you are really in love. It's happened to me before where you think you love someone only to later find out you weren't but I think it really helps to try to understand how you see love and if what you feel really is love.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 4:05pm
love is a beutiful feeling why stop it we need love in our life beeing loved and loving somone without excpecting anything is very great and beutiful
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 1:08pm
You cannot exactly predict when you will fall in love. Ask yourself why you are not looking to fall in love? Is it because you want to focus on yourself? Or is it because you have been hurt before? Asking yourself questions like this will help you focus on what you want
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 9:07am
If there is a way, I have never heard of it and I am 50 years old. Our hearts love who they want to and there is nothing you can do about that.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 8:26pm
Know yourself, and love yourself first so you know what true love actually is. Then you can be sure that whoever you are falling in love with is intended for you and that there is no reason to try and stop love from flowing.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 11:49am
I've never felt the need to stop myself from falling in love, because i think that every relationship is an experience and every experience is something that i can learn something from, whether the experience is good or bad. Love... can definitely hurt, a lot, not gonna lie about that. But i personally think that love is something that is really really beautiful and wonderful, but it's the person who you fall in love with that can be... a bit not good. And because that's the way i am, i've never saw the need to stop myself from falling in love, because even if it doesn't work out now, i feel as if someday, i'll meet that someone who is worth it all.
peachicus
November 29th, 2015 12:24am
That's very hard and in some cases impossible but your best chances of avoiding love is by avoiding the person you have feelings for, spend less time with them and don't facebook stalk them
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 11:27am
Falling in love is a decision after all, you have to be strong enough to decide that, try to control your feelings as much as you can, and maybe keep yourself distracted by things you're interested in!
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2015 2:56am
You don't :) love is a unique thing and so unpredictable. It's not bad to fall in love and you never want to try to stop such a beautiful thing, it can be frustrating and it can be hard at times but love always finds a way :)