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How do I stop myself from falling in love?

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Last Updated: 11/15/2021 at 6:32am
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Top Rated Answers
December 2nd, 2015 6:27am
Value yourself more :) spend a lot of time for your self. put in mind, "you don't need someone to be happy, because you already are even before he/she came into your life". Love out Loud! :)
December 2nd, 2015 11:04pm
falling in love is a natural thins, if you are trying to not fall in love then the best thing to do is to tell people that love you that you dont want a relationship
December 4th, 2015 6:25am
You can't prevent yourself from falling in love, you've had to change everything about you! Your WHOLE you, biological and physical! Take it from me, I've tried!
December 4th, 2015 8:32pm
you can't. but if you don't like someone you just try not to think about them all the time and maybe one day they'll go away. yes I know it's not what you wanted to hear but it's the truth.
December 5th, 2015 10:49pm
Falling in love is a normal process for human beings, is healthy. Sometimes we fall in love for short times (shorter than we expect) sometimes it might be the person we waited for so long. Take a deep breath and don't panic, it's ok, it's normal and it will pass if you don't want that person. Soon another person of your interest might come in your way :).
December 6th, 2015 3:53pm
Focus on my work gold. Cut out greed by accepting it and let it passes. Empowering my work goals. Mindful
December 12th, 2015 3:54am
You can't stop yourself from falling in love because it can strike everyone, anytime. You don't even have to stop yourself from being in love. It just happens that you're sometimes scared of what will happen because you know that in love, happiness and pain is a total package.
December 12th, 2015 4:00pm
concentrate on your interests and try to spend most of the time on them.keep your watch away from the ones on whom your having interest on.
December 13th, 2015 3:48am
I don't think there's any such thing as stopping yourself as I believe that it's something that will or will not happen naturally.
December 13th, 2015 5:44am
One way I have learned to not fall in love with someone, is to compartmentalize my feelings. Its hard to learn, but possible with practice. Its like putting your feelings into a box and telling the boxes when they are aloud to be open, or when they have to stay closed.
December 16th, 2015 1:52am
It's not really something you can control. It happens whether you want it or not. Love will always find its way.
December 16th, 2015 1:53am
Love is something that you can stop yourself from falling into :( I've been in the same boat where I've kept falling in love with people that entered into my life and left me extremely broken, and that's the thing about love. It's not always the amazing, magical thing that we see in movies. Sometimes it enters your life, destroys everything, and leaves without a trace. However, if you ever want to consider stopping yourself from falling in love, you should try to distract yourself by doing other things that can keep you busy and your mind off of love. It's what I do, and it works...most of the time :P
December 16th, 2015 6:58am
You can't stop yourself from falling in love mentally, physically, or scientifically. It's a natural occurance in our body that releases chemicals when we see that one person. On the other hand, falling in love can be hard at times to let go of it we can't have that person. But this is just apart of life
December 18th, 2015 8:43pm
It is really hard for me, if I am dating a guy. I met a guy off the net and the first hug started me falling in love. I believe love happens.
December 19th, 2015 12:19am
I'm guessing you have a good reason to stop yourself falling in love ( for example the person doesn't return you feelings or you are already in a relationship ) . The best way to stop your feelings growing stronger is almost certainly trying to stay away from / avoid that persons company as much as possible . Also , finding something else like a new hobby ( maybe some kind of sport ) or distraction is usually effective . Spending more time with friends and family can also help you not to feel lonely if you miss this person and it definitely keeps you busy . Concentrating on work or school can be a good idea , as well as generally keeping your mind off that person as much as possible by engaging yourself with any other activities you find absorbing and distracting .
December 19th, 2015 4:11am
You can repeat yourself over and over that no matter how happy, how good, how special and unique everything is, eventually it will disappear, all of it will be swallow up by routine, so -why bother at all?- and if it does work, there is the possibility that you will suffer so very much. Of course you will never feel pain but you will not feel LOVE either, love songs are going to sound weird, hugs will feel like someone is crushing your ribs. So...are you sure about your choice? are you really sure that you prefer the safety of knowing that you heart can’t be broken?
December 20th, 2015 6:26am
I think falling in love can mean many things. It can mean developing feelings for someone we know or either it can mean to get into a relationship with someone. I don't think it is possible to stop ourselves from feeling something or having feelings. They are a natural process and we have not much control on when they come. But, we can chooses how we act on those feelings and that is what really matters.
December 23rd, 2015 7:28am
I would ask myself what I get out of falling in love, and what I would lose. Then I would ask myself if it's worth the cost.
December 23rd, 2015 7:37am
Let yourself fall. Falling in love is a beautiful part of nature. Just make sure you don't land because if you fall, eventually you'll have to land.
December 23rd, 2015 11:30am
How do I stop myself from falling in love? How can I stop? It seems like you ask me to stop breathing. Yes,I can hold my breath but not for too long. After I held my breath my lungs are asking for more air, making me breath harder, just like falling in love if we stop ourselves from falling the more prone we are into falling hardly inlove.You, I and everyone of us can't help falling in love. We just need to let ourselves fall, feel the feeling of being in love after that we can learn to move on, to let go.
December 23rd, 2015 2:51pm
You can stop yourself from falling in love the same way you can stop your heart from beating. It will happen out of no where and it will take your heart by storm.
December 24th, 2015 12:56am
There is nothing wrong with falling in love, but there is nothing wrong with NOT falling in love either. Love is a beautiful sentiment that sometimes might make you sad because it is such a strong feeling, The key thing here is remembering that love is as natural as water and sometimes it might just appear, when it does, you should trust yourself and act on your experiences.
December 25th, 2015 8:12pm
You can never stop yourself from falling in love its a human instinct but you can be careful. You can take your time in relationships and not rush into it. You can decide when your ready today and who you want to date. You can take time out for yourself and find out what you want in life and wait until the proper time to start being in a commited relationship.
December 25th, 2015 9:32pm
I also wish I knew the answer to this question! The heart wants what it wants, there's no stopping it. You can only ignore it at best
December 26th, 2015 2:05pm
I don't think you can its just an automatic human reaction i think. It's like purposely trying to stop your thoughts and that can be hard
December 26th, 2015 11:38pm
You can't. It's just something natural that happens. It can't really be controlled. You can try to, thought I wouldn't know how to.
December 27th, 2015 11:21pm
I'm going to be honest I don't think you really can, unless you disconnect yourself from your emotions. :)
December 30th, 2015 7:01pm
I do not believe that there is any way for one to stop themselves from falling in love. However, lust and crushes can be managed.
December 30th, 2015 8:32pm
you can not stop how you feel at the end of the day, so I say enjoy the ride and embrace love just like pain and understand the dynamics that one has with the other.
December 31st, 2015 12:28am
You can't stop yourself from falling in love. It's natural. You just have to listen to your heart and mind and go with the feeling.