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you can't.
we don't glide or float into love; we fall, we plummet, we plunge. We have no control when we're falling. The whole process is a violation, a violence, having its own volition. Love overcomes us, overwhelms us, overtakes us. No wonder we lose our appetite, our sleep, our minds when we fall in love. i remember an elvis presley song. lyrics goes like this :
Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I can't help falling in love with you
Shall I stay
Would it be a sin
If I can't help falling in love with you
Like a river flows
Surely to the sea
Darling so it goes
Some things are meant to be
Take my hand,
Take my whole life too
For I can't help falling in love with you
For I can't help falling in love with you
You don't really stop myself from falling in love. Surround yourself with friends and family, so you wouldn't feel lonely.
How to stop from falling in love. Love is all about experiences, exposure to the partner, attachment, and thoughts about that person. For starters do the opposite of what i mentioned. I'd say to hold back from being expose to the person(contact, face to face interactions,etc.) Identify your values and notice the desire to a certain person has on you. Notice whats behind the desire and deep down inside that you really want. Chances are it's things you could provide for yourself.
It means you're human. Sexuality is fluid, and no experience needs to be perceived as "bad" or "wrong". Having said that, however, just because you dream you kiss someone of the same sex does not mean it holds any truth or points to anything about you. I have dreamt of seriously injuring someone in my dreams before, and that doesn't make me any more likely to do that in real life. Be kind to yourself!
I don't think it's possible to stop yourself from falling in love. You can tell by the phrase; "falling in love." It's falling, you can't stop yourself. Maybe it seems frightening, but that's the charm of it.
If it is meant to happen then whatever you try will not work.
Why would you want to stop something that is in human nature? fall in love and live a happy life. Remember the only goal in life is to be happy and achieve peace with ones self.
You can't stop it moreover if it's love already. If you really want to avoid this thing called love, you have to physically move away from this person. However, it's not a hundred percent effective because love conquers all.
you cant if its really love then there is no denying it you are attracted to that person and even if theydont love you back it is still true
Love is a great thing to have and I am understanding that you don't want to fall in love. What is is that prevents you from wanting to love another person?
I am not sure we choice to fall in love I didn't and it was not the right fit for me but I still fell in love even though everyone around me told me he was no good for me but I think you need to find these things out for yourself in a relationship so in my experience you can't stop yourself falling in live I guess
In my personal experience i stopped from falling in love with this boy by finding things i didn't like about him and then soon i became obsessed with it and to this ay i can't stand him.
you just cant
Don't fight something that can't be controlled! You deserve to be loved. Don't stop a feeling that is great
I don't really think there's a way. I'm big on experiencing emotions fully though. If you really can't (like it would put you in a bad place), keep busy, focus on your friends & family, keep your distance from the person.
Make a list of reasons you're not compatible or you're be more compatible as friends. Take it slow. The reasons usually come to you 8)
There is no solid way to "Stop" from falling in love. Perhaps maybe distancing yourself from the person slightly? Maybe Allow yourself to think "Is this really love I am feeling? Or infatuation?" Love, is inevitable, but you should not need to feel the pain from infatuation, causing you to distrust love.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 9:25pm
Actually you can't, all you can do is learn to accept the fact that people come for a reason and that may be either to stay or teach you something. And love is decided by the heart, I have loved smart, sweet and even people who are lost on their path and every time I tried to restrain myself I felt myself fall deeper. So don't restrain yourself just learn to not go too deep underground by only focusing on the bad things. Think of the good things that may turn out from it
You can't really. When you fall in love you can't control it. Falling in love is one of the most natural feelings in the world. If you love them, but they're bad for you, just stay away from them long enough until you can look at them, and tell yourself no.
This is not something you can control. The best thing to do if you really do not want to fall in love is to just occupy yourself with things that you enjoy doing and work on yourself
Don't stop something that is a fluid and general emotion. If you stop it, it won't allow you to progress.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 1:13am
To me, you can't stop falling or being in love. You can deny it, or try to bury those feelings inside of you, but you can never truly stop yourself from ever falling in love.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 2:00pm
Falling in love is never intentional it just happens. Stopping yourself from falling in love is not possible my friend coz you can control only what your do voluntarily
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 12:20am
you cant. you just have to let it happen
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2016 11:35pm
I am not sure that it's possible to prevent yourself from falling in love while remaining engaged with the person. Separation may be the best case if you don't want to love someone.
That's difficult...but just let them go. Don't talk to them or think about them in ways you shouldn't. Avoid their social media and their friends. Tell yourself not to do it and eventually you won't.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2020 7:08pm
I don't think falling in love is something you can stop. If you really love a person you can't just stop those feelings. It is natural desire that comes from within you and stopping it is almost like just not being you. If for some reason, it seems as though the person isn't worth your love, then focus on those aspects that makes them unworthy and try to realize that they aren't worth your efforts. This you way will gradually realize their true worth and "fall out of love." If you are scared to fall in love in fear you might be hurt, my advice would be that love comes with its ups and downs and whether you or not you decide to give someone a chance shows your feelings for them.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2021 7:09pm
I understand it can be scary but it’s not always something you can stop from happening. You can not always control your feelings and as scary as they may seem, love can be a wonderful thing. However if you feel like the relationship is damaging to you physically, mentally or emotionally, removing yourself from the situation might be the best move forwards. You must always do what you feel is best for you and your mental and physical health. Your health must always come first and foremost and if you would like to talk more about your relationship, there are lots of listeners here to help you.
I used to be like you even a few months ago. In recent times, I have been able to tackle that alacrity. Once you start to love yourself and get to understand yourself and your psychological needs, you will become more aware of your needs. We fall for people easily only when we are propelled by our loneliness, not by our good sense. I am telling this from my personal experience, the pickier you become when it comes to people, the better it shall be for you in the longer run. Love shall come to you in its best form only when you are not waiting for it.
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