How do I stop obsessing myself with the thought of failing in professional field but I am still studying?
Last Updated: 01/09/2017 at 8:59pm
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Sometimes we see failure that isn't even in existence. Many of times we fear failure when we may even have a fear of success, keep studying!
I try to ask myself - am I doing all I can to ensure that I'm not going to fail? Being prepared makes me feel better. I also try to remind myself that because I'm worrying means that it is important to me that I strive for my best.
We all doubt ourselves and our possibilities, because no one is perfect, we assume that sometimes we might not make it like others. While studying, think that the knowledge will take you somewhere, and I mean somewhere good, great infact! Knowledge is important and while you're gaining it, there shouldn't be such thoughts, while you do, distract yourself and try to focus on the thought that you can really do it. There's endless possibilities to our hard work and determination. :)
It's fine to worry about being successful. When this happens to me, I usually meditate and try to relax. List my accomplishments.
It's normal for people to prepare themselves for the worst to avoid disappointment. From the sound of it, you intend to pursue further studies and part of being happy is do what you want to do. I would suggest you think it through, if the fear of failure is the only that you are concerned about, then I just want to say that fear is only an emotion :)
By focusing on each day as it comes. When I rush ahead and create nightmares for myself I am not helping myself. When I enjoy today and take each day as it comes, I become more stronger, more open and more resilient to life's twists and turns. I then learn to look at success and failure as two different impostors. Neither is me, but both together create me.
Don't worry about what the future has in store. Live the now in every moment. You can only cross a bridge when you come to it
Know that if you're studying something that you are truly passionate about, then you are doing the right thing. Wether or not you fail is another matter, and has to come from your own heart, and wether or not you believe that you can do your best.
Take it one step at the time. Let the future worry for itself. Enjoy what you are doing in the now and when the time comes you will enjoy what you are doing in the future.
I too have that same thought and fear. I am currently a college student and I am afraid that I will not be able to obtain a job in the fields that I am interested in. Instead of looking too far ahead into the future and worrying about what types of failures you may encounter, what would help is to focus on the present (it sounds cliche, I know). What can you do now to improve or develop the skills that you will need for your profession, so that you can succeed in it once you start working? Improving your skills now through experience (internships, courses, organizations, etc.) can prepare you for any obstacles that you will face in the future.
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