It can be difficult to move past a quarrel with a friend because though we want to get back to a positive and enjoyable relationship with them, we still want our feelings in a given matter to be validated. At some level, we may not feel that our thoughts were appreciated or our feelings were considered, so part of us still wants some kind of resolution or closure on the matter. Part of moving past the quarrel may lie in looking outside of ourselves for a moment to consider their thoughts and feelings. We want them to do this for us, so it can't hurt to do it for them. Seeing the validity of their side might help motivate a conversation of why your side also has validity, leading to better reciprocity of respect in the friendship.
Try and distract yourself. Indulge yourself with things that make you happy! Do you have any hobbies? A particular song/album that takes you away, so to speak? It's quite difficult moving on from something that you haven't resolved so I hope you manage/managed to resolve the issue :) You can message me at any time, I'd love to help! :)
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March 6th, 2015 6:41am
Recognize that we are all uniquely woven and therefore, we are all entitled to differences of opinion. It is for this reason that we, as humans, are so often caught up in quarrels and arguments. You may find that simply forgiving the other person AND yourself will provide a huge sense of relief.
what aspect do you think about ? it makes you feel upset and sad ? or do you feel like you one of you should apologized? or is it a quarrel over something serious or something silly ? once you identified that then you can make a decision that best suit your situation.
You can always take time to think about what happened and why. You can make a list of pros about your friend and why they are in your life. And perhaps once you see all the great qualities in front of you it will help you to see what a great friend you may have and allow you two to work on your relationship.
Perhaps you're angry or feeling fearful that you had a fall out with a friend of yours, one that clearly matters alot to you. Learning to accept that thinking about it won't change what has happened is a good way to start.