How do I stop thinking about wanting to die when I actually fear death?

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Last Updated: 08/13/2019 at 3:04pm
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DancingDrop
April 29th, 2015 11:16am
It's not easy to stop thinking about it. But, you can divert your mind by making yourself busy in something. Actually in my case, it took around some years to get out of it. But, lately i realized that it's all about our activities that we do daily. Start reading inspirational books, play hard outside with friends, have a loud communication with family members, hear music but that should not remind the thought of death, travel some where and enjoy the pleasure. Am sure, by this way, anyone can get out of the dwell thoughts of death. Think about it, life is short to regret and so start enjoying each moment. Good luck!
PashT007
March 31st, 2015 8:24pm
Appreciate life and know that there is someone that is dead that had intentions of living. Life is amazing, we just have to learn to cope with the pressures of this world.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 7:11pm
Bible verses made me fear death more than the desire to die. I decided to escape society for awhile and commune with nature. My happy place saves me.
ptvDarcey
March 31st, 2015 9:35pm
Fearing death is very common. I mean, nobody actually knows what happens next and the way of not knowing is quite scary. Thinking about death, is also common too and wanting to die is a feeling that, although horrible, happens when people are down and low. To take your mind of these emotions, focus on something that makes you thankful you're alive! A relaxing bath, a good book, an exciting film, some enjoyable music - you pick! Death, however, is not the answer.
jazeela
April 7th, 2015 10:35am
keep your hand on your heart can you hear that beating? that thing needs you and you need also, believe in yourself and things will happen they way you wanted!!
Anonymous
April 30th, 2015 3:57am
I would recommend embracing it. Unfortunately, it is something that is going to happen to all of us and is simply inevitable.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 2:02pm
You need to get help and speak to a therapist. If you fear death it's because you don't know what to expect. You are afraid of what might happen, when actually that's the one thing we can't control. Deal with the here and now and rather than asking yourself this question, ask yourself why are you so unhappy? What is going to make your life better?
SaviorRA
November 16th, 2015 10:57pm
The feeling of wanting to die is not a real one. It is actually a call for a drastic change to a complex problem. As humans we feel that the best way to achieve this drastic change is to die however this is not the case. Find something you enjoy. Pursue it, whether it be a hobby or lifestyle change. Do your best to loosen all ties with that initial complex problem. By doing this you will create this drastic change in your life removing the possibility of death.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 4:07am
You can't simply Stop thinking about it. But you can find a way to manage it. Grab a marker, every time you find yourself having these dark thoughts put a dot on your arm. By the end of the day you will see how many times you've had these thoughts. This will make you more conscious of such thoughts and allow you to manage it better. Then you can change your thinking, but quickly jumping to happier thoughts, or distracting yourself so that you don't allow yourself to think so darkly so often.
wisegirI12
February 2nd, 2016 2:44pm
What are some things you live for? Any goals, dreams, future aspirations? It's very important to love yourself. Your life is NOT meaningless, and many people might not be living if it were for you. You are special to many people, and you have to keep thinking that to help yourself.
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 3:36am
What is the reason that you want to die is the bigger question. Try figuring that out and helping yourself in that area.
sunshineVision16
April 24th, 2017 7:56pm
There are so many things in life that we don't think of for example how blessed we are to have a bed to sleep on and just little things that others would die for. If we focus only on the bad side than it's hard to overcome but I'm sure if you look around there are so many to thank for.
Increasethepeace8
July 17th, 2017 8:41am
Commit to living. Just as my thoughts shroud my surroundings with darkness, my creativity within me is here to manifest into the world around me. My emotions are meant to connect me. Energy in motion flowing through my body and I have the power to react the way I want to and in the best way I know how towards love.
mthilliard
November 7th, 2017 4:58pm
Tell someone you love. Please. Let someone know that you're scared and that you want to feel better but you don't know how. It helps. It won't fix it but it's a good start.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2018 10:12am
Do things that you love. for example, i read books and do scrapbooking to keep my mind off death or others.
Dandroider
May 1st, 2018 6:52pm
When it's really bad, try to distract yourself. Then try to figure out why you want to die (certain recent reason, past, self esteem?) and then try to find a way to work that out. I recommend seeking professional help.
hopefulParadise73
June 26th, 2018 3:14pm
By thinking that death is natural and out of our control.It will come at the fixed time.Everyone who is born has to taste death
Riderangel
August 13th, 2019 3:04pm
If you fear death, well and good.. Yes, good for you.. But first tell me.. Why do you fear death? The answer can be.. Because you think you will hurt your family and friends who are close to you and care about you.. In that case you are right and you should really be worried for them.. Or it can be because you are worried about what happens after death. You keep thinking if life exists after death.. Or what if there is no life after death? Either case you should understand that, that really shouldn't matter. Because you are alive now.. And you are 100% sure that you exist and your life is in your hands. Also.. Lets see why you keep getting those thoughts.. Is it family issue or love failure or work stress or you feel like a loser with no purpose in life? If you feel any of these, there is always a way out my friend.. You just need to calm down and rethink your whole life incidents.. When you do so.. You might also realise that your life is filled with good moments and bad as well.. So life isn't just about the bad ones.. And the intention of this world isn't to hurt you. If you have had no friends or family, its your fault for not making an effort to have one.. And if you really want to die, its your choice.. But if you live, live like everyone is jealous of you and they want to live a life like yours.. My friend if you think that's not possible.. I'll tell you a little secret.. The rich are jealous of the poor and vice versa.. The rich want to be happy and want time to relax without worries, the poor want money and want to live like the rich. But no one wants to acknowledge what they have. You acknowledge what you have and be happy with what you have.. And live with people who keep you happy.. They whole world will want to be you.. And you shouldn't be afraid of the death.. You should be afraid of all the things you should be happy for, but you are not. When death comes, it comes.. Its just like anything else.. Like you were born, you will die. If you are not worried about birth.. Dont worry about death... You have one amazing life.. Just enjoy it and live happily. Have a great day..! And help others when you can..!