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How do you cope when people you look up to reject you, ignore your messages even when you keep begging them?

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Last Updated: 10/04/2021 at 4:08pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
November 11th, 2019 6:35am
Sometimes I ask them why they are acting this way. Other times I let it be, because they might not want to talk right now so I give them time and space to figure out what they are feeling. If I ask them why they are acting this way, I say something along the lines of, “did you see my message” or “is there something I did to upset you in any way” so I know if I can fix it or if they are just not in the mood to talk at this moment. Then you know how to act with them in the future.
GrandLight8319
June 29th, 2020 10:36am
I understand that its difficult when those you see as a role model isolate you, what you need to do in that situation is detach yourself from the situation for some time and focus on you, You deserve happiness. Don't ever stoop down for anyone. Realize that some people are not who we think they are and accept that , you are stronger than them. One day, they'll come around but until then look after yourself ,your well being and take care of yourself. Its you that you have to look after first. heal and then slowly everything will fall into place.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2020 6:22pm
I have a simple motto, learnt from a friend: "You only matter to me if I matter to you". If those I look up to reject me in a rude way, like by ignoring, they are not worthy of my appreciation. If I do not matter to them, they do not get to matter to me. If, instead, they would reject me in a kind way, like by communicating why they feel they cannot connect with me, I would accept that as them showing my well-being matters to them but my presence is not welcome. That's fine. Not everyone is ready to join your party. You can politely bow out and let them be, while being able to maintain a high opinion of them. Rude people don't deserve to be thought of again. They only matter if you matter to them.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2021 4:08pm
Being rejected by a person you admire doesn't feel good, but I think the key is patience. Apart from patience, I consider that an important step is communication. I would try to communicate with that person that I admire in order to make sense of how she feels and why she feels that way. If that does not work I will give them space, but I will continue with my daily life and activities. Then I will try to arrange a face-to-face meeting with them to discuss the problem to come up with a solution that feels right for both of us.