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How do you know if you're truly happy?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2020 at 6:30pm
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AborealGiggle13
August 11th, 2018 2:15am
I'd say there's this sense of satisfaction that isn't fleeting, and problems don't affect you like before. Things feel lighter, months don't weigh you down. The path doesn't feel so overgrown and hard to navigate. You're enveloped in hobbies you love, with coworkers you value.
musicalBubbles69
August 12th, 2018 6:04am
You find happiness in every daily activity you participate in. You feel joy in waking up every day.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 4:32pm
You have an elated feeling, a feeling of joy. Something you just KNOW is happiness. It's an amazing feeling, it really is.
OnwardUpward01
August 15th, 2018 6:38am
When your expectations meet your realities then you will be happy. Easier said than done!
Anonymous
September 14th, 2018 9:26am
You know you're happy when you just do what you want and feel satisfied with what you achieve. Happiness is not something you look for. It comes naturally to those who have a reason to keep going and love what they're doing. You don't just stumble upon a reason to be happy by checking under every rock and devoting your life to finding the correct definition of happiness. The meaning is purely subjective and the accuracy of it is purely arbitrary and based on the definition of other people. Just do what you like doing and happiness comes to you.
Tyedyedbutterfly65
September 15th, 2018 10:01pm
True Happiness is when you can wake up everyday and be Thankful Grateful , and smile even through the darkest hours , Face the fears and know that you at least have tried . Give yours lots of love and others love and show respect and understanding, the more you show others that they matter then you will feel so good about yourself !!! true happiness is when we can give love and happiness to others. Love one another and Live life to the fullest we only get this one chance in Life ,choose to be Happy and know that you can do things you never thought you could! You will feel it in your heart and soul!
Joe44
November 5th, 2018 1:09am
How do you know if you're truly happy? Well, I think that it depends on what the representation of " true happiness " is to each person; some people may feel truly happy when they achieve some sort of spiritual enlightenment, others may be truly happy when they obtain an embodiment of said " true happiness ". Some people can also view and experience true happiness differently as they age... True happiness continuously evolves throughout each person's life. It's shaped by us and sometimes it's just... there. It's an attribute of life and it contributes to life. To each their own ! Happiness heeds.
niceMonkey80
November 24th, 2018 9:02pm
When you’re truly happy, you will have the energy to do things. You’ll actually want to do things such as reading, going out, socialising. Everything is actually exciting to you. Little negative things that happen to you don’t affect you too much; you can easily brush them off or forget about them, instead of staying up worrying. When you’re truly happy, you’ll find yourself complaining about small stuff like having a bad hair day or being cold at school or messing up one test. When you’re truly happy, you’ll want to be with others to reflect the way you feel and project it on others, share it. You feel good and healthy and excited when you’re truly happy.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2018 4:14am
Happiness is one of those things that comes from within. Everyone has their own idea of happiness and no one feels that emotion the same way as someone else. However similarities are usually there, when you are happy you will feel it. You will feel like a weight is off your shoulders and almost as if nothing can ruin your constant happiness. Now just because someone has bad days doesn’t imply that they can’t still be truly happy, because of course they can. But until you are able to reflect on your life and feel good about where you are at ( although it’s common to still strive for more) you are not truly happy with life. A person might wish to make sure that another individual is not the sole factor in making you happy, neither is money money, or any other non-factor. You want to be stripped of everything and still be able to be happy with just yourself.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2018 12:35pm
WE just know it by the peace in our hearts and minds :) Truth is most beautiful thing that we can encounter and when we are happy inside we are near to the truth. This automatically leads us to peace :)
arabellu
December 8th, 2018 4:36pm
I think a part of being happy is to convince yourself that you are so. And you realize you've been happy whenever you haven't been asking this thing to yourself for some time. Being happy is just a definition in your head, you have to figure out which one fits you. It can be as simple as waking up in the morning and findinf out the world just follows its path, having breakfast with a friend can also make your day. Happiness is just constituted by appreciating the little things. You can be happy with very little if you want. Just figure out what makes you happy and work on it until you manage!
Charmayne2802
December 12th, 2018 12:48am
I feel a warm sensation in my stomach and I can’t stop smiling. My heart feels like it’s going to explode and I can’t contain my feeling. This can last for a minute or it can last for days and months. I feel truly happy when I read because I enjoy it as a hobby and it makes me smile and I get that warm fuzzy feeling in my stomach. Sometimes I also experience uncontrollable laughter which indicates I am truly happy! When I’m truly happy I don’t feel anxious I feel calm and very relaxed. I don’t find happiness, happiness finds me!
Emmo
January 6th, 2019 4:24pm
you don’t. i guess it’s just what you choose to believe in. do you believe in ultimate happiness? do you believe that you have it? how do you define “truly”? it varies all the time. the question was never about anything but perspective in life. a piece of chocolate can mean true happiness for one person, just as even a castle of gold wouldn’t for another. me, i don’t think about whether or not my happiness is true or false. in the end, it doesn’t matter. what matters is that i feel like i’m happy, and i know i will fight to feel it for even just a moment longer.
GlobalTree42
January 15th, 2019 6:59am
Happiness is a perception. I am happy because I am here. When I wake up every morning, I ask myself how I can improve the day for myself, and everyone around me. The more I involve myself, the more love I have for our world and the people who live in it. When we choose to follow our bliss, and live in the present moment, everything else just falls into place in life. When we make ourselves vulnerable, and become honest with ourselves and others, when we give without expectations, and when we smile at the joys in our life, the scarier things become manageable and less scary.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 2:46am
truly happy... right. to know if we truly happy depend how far you want to expand the time you want to measure happy. oh and forsure one cannot predict the future. so there is not happiness in the future yet because we do not know therefore you cant measure it. so how can we measure happy? i would prefer to measure it by our decisions and outcome as well our effort. if you measure a marriage but you never put effort to save it than is that good for you? you can't blame the whole thing by one word or one outcome.
Drphillis
March 22nd, 2019 12:53am
In my experience, happiness is subjective and means different things for everyone. It doesn’t mean that everything in your life has fallen into place and everything is going right for you, but what it means is that you are more than satisfied with the things that are going on in your life. It means having an understanding that things won’t always work out how you expected, but still being happy and grateful for how they did. It’s easy to be happy when everything is going great, but true happiness is smiling and having the same attitude when things may not be. So in my experience, true happiness is having a knowledge that the world is hard and things will go wrong but not letting it dampen your sunshine and your positive outlook.
Anankhe
April 5th, 2019 5:56pm
When you have made peace with your past and can calmly deal with life's challenges, when you feel energised no matter how much you've worked, when you cannot keep that stupid grin off your face and your whole being radiates joy, positive energy, and life. Happiness is often a choice, a result of how flexible, accepting we are, and how we perceive stressors we face in daily life. Happiness comes from being rooted and connected to your own nature, from being true to yourself, and being assertive. You'll know you are truly happy when there's a skip in your beat as you find wonder and beauty in ordinary activities and things you encounter is daily life. There'll be a spring in your steps, and a spark in your eyes.
WowThatsABigHug
April 10th, 2019 10:36pm
True happiness is different for everyone, but when you stop asking if you're happy or not, that's a good first sign. True happiness creeps up on you like any other serious emotion, and you may not realise it until someone comments on the skip in your step, the glint in your eye or the sun in your smile. Often you don't realise what you're feeling until you see it in your actions - are you giving to others? Do you support other people? Do other people seem glad to be around you? These are all signs that you're overflowing with happiness, as true happiness has a habit of effortlessly lifting other's lives.
uniquesummer16
April 28th, 2019 2:31am
When you feel like you're not really comprising on your big dreams and goals in life, when you're doing your best and don't feel like you're settling for something lesser than you deserve, when you have made peace with your past and are hopeful of the future and thankful for the present, when you have cut off all the negativity and only have supportive, reliable and uplifting people around you, when you feel like you're living the best version of your life and being the best version of yourself or working towards it, i guess that's when you know you're truly happy.
AHelpfulPoet
May 17th, 2019 10:25am
When you can make yourself smile with barely any effort. Just by thinking about something. When you can make other people smile with barely any effort. Just by saying something. Creating your own happiness, and creating the happiness of other people, that's how you achieve true happiness. There is no greater pleasure, nor greater sense of gratification, than what comes from being the reason for someone else's happiness. And through that, we make ourselves happy. The simple truth that I personally live by is this: Kindness is the easiest and most rewarding form of fun. Be Kind. Have Fun.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2019 2:14pm
I think, first of all, real happiness is a sense of peace and calm. You could tell if you're happy if it's easier to focus your mind on the here and now, not dwell on the past and not worry about the future. Positive thinking comes easier. Have you learned your lessons from your past and moved on? Have you been able to find a balance, not worry about the future yet still take the necessary steps towards your goals? Are you living according to your values? Do you have kind-hearted supporting people around? Have you managed to keep some distance from toxic people in your life and forgive? I feel those are all questions worth asking ourselves to determine if we really are happy. At the end of the day, happiness is something only you can know if you feel. Ups and downs are still going to happen, but you would feel content, tranquil and better able to deal with whatever happens in your life. I hope you are happy :)
GuidedLover45
August 17th, 2019 10:11am
If you are truly happy, you will know it. You will be in an extraordinarily good mood everything, or most things, will feel like they are going right in your life. Being happy isn't based off materialistic things, you can be happy from actions that you show, or actions that are done to you. Happiness is based on your ultimate feeling on life and how you believe you can achieve anything. An example will be like you are very uppity and excited about whats to come, not about how miserable the future will be, because the future will not be miserable, it'll be great!
Heretohelpalways12
August 17th, 2019 6:45pm
True happiness comes from a state of internal fulfillment. Now, fulfillment is different than the excess and avoidance of pain. The latter is hedonism which has been found not to lead to long term happiness. It can be rewarding in the short term to go after pleasure, but in most cases it will not lead to sustained fulfillment. The question you should ask yourself is what brings me contentment? When do I lose track of time? What is the important things to me in life? Once you answer and implement those things in your life, you will be closer to that internal sense of happiness and fulfillment.
lesedima
August 29th, 2019 7:50am
You enjoy the lifestyle you've created and if you've done so with love and intention, you're probably a happy person "Ways to tell if you are truly happy can be assessed by your ability to reach your projected potential and objectives that you have set forth in your life." If you are able to move past the disappointment and weather the storm then you are happy. You speak your truth. The more comfortable you are with your own opinion and yourself, the happier you'll be. if you pursure your passion, then you know that you're truly happy. You can create your joy
BrutallyHonestGuy
August 29th, 2019 7:52am
For me, true happiness is based on 3 things, first is to know where you came from, second is to know where you are currently and third is where you are going. And this can be taken quite literally and at the same time really not. True happiness is knowing your flaws, your mistakes, your past, choosing the right items and memories and walk forward. Know where you are currently, enjoy the things around you and appreciate them. Use it however you can in a positive way. And where you are going, because there is no one who can be sad about going to his goal and his dream. It's when you figure out who you are, and what you truly want is when you are truly happy. Otherwise it fades away.
sheldon0022
August 29th, 2019 8:52am
When I am happy, I am very attentive, my vision becomes clearer, I can smell my environment more, my mind is empty of thoughts and I just feel relaxed and completely present in the moment. Those moments stay in my memory, and whenever I am not happy, trying to recall them makes me feel better :D . You can't always be happy though, which is a good thing, otherwise you wouldn't be looking forward to being happy from to time, haha. For example, I have this moment of being truly happy, and it was just this random day I was sharing a cup of coffee with my family and it was raining. The sound of the rain, the smell of the earth and coffee, everyone laughing and chatting, I fondly remember that moment and feel perplexed by how is this even a happy memory? How is this even important to me? Isn't that just any other day? Majority of my happy memories formed when I was alone though, just the most random moments of my life, haha.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2019 9:14am
Everyday we all go through a range of emotions, sometimes it is hard to pinpoint exactly what emotions these are, and sometimes it is very easy, for example anger is an emotion that is easy to judge for most people because it is felt very strongly. Happiness is harder to define, because happiness is not always only one feeling, for example some people may say they are happy if they feel content, or if they feel safe and others may define it based on a particular situation such as 'I am currently eating my favourite jam doughnut and that makes me very happy'. To judge if you are happy each day, first of all define the things/times of day/situations/people that make you happy and write them down. Being aware of what makes you feel happy/makes you laugh/makes you feel safe/content is the first step to knowing what makes you happy. Then, when you have this list, try to do more of those things :) It could be small things like, having a cup of tea/coffee with a friend, talking to a parent on the phone, having a bath, to bigger things like going on holiday, planning an event. At the same time, try to work out what makes you feel bad/unhappy and try to move away from those things. If you can't then speak to someone about it. The listeners at 7 Cups are always here for you!
YourLittleFriend
October 4th, 2019 4:04am
Honestly, I think there is no solid definition of happiness, hence being truly happy will be different for everyone. This means that searching and identifying your happiness may be difficult. Every day I ask myself, am I truly happy, and every day I fail to answer that question. This may not mean that I am not happy, it just means that there is nothing to benchmark my happiness. I remember that I was happy as a child, but I can't remember what it feels like. I heard that many people believe that happiness is looking forward to waking up. Although I believe that that is true, that's an example of happiness that you enjoy over a long period of time. Happiness can also occur in a shorter period. Although it can be hard to identify, sometimes you know when you are happy. This may sound unbelievable, but I remember this one moment that I knew that I was truly happy. Although I can't remember how I felt, at that moment I knew. It may be because I laughed a real laugh, or wasn't pretending anymore, but I knew that I was happy. This happened ages ago, and although I can't remember how I felt, that is my definition of true happiness. Yes, I probably have been happy every now and then without knowing, but for me, when you are truly happy, at that moment you know it.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2019 10:29pm
I just feel that I'm being myself when I'm happy. For me happiness is the best thing ever. You can even spread happiness around and make everybody happy around you. This is possible when you are happy. Treating myself with the things I love for example ice cream makes me feel more and more happy. Treating ourselves will definitely make us happy no matter what. Going for a walk alone also makes me happy. Talking to my loved ones makes me feel happy. Sunsets makes me feel happy. Beaches have my heart. Well my life makes me feel happy.
KarleeRAllen
December 18th, 2019 8:48pm
When I am truly happy, I feel like I can be myself, and I don't have to pretend to be a better person than I am. I can laugh freely, I can smile without being insecure, and I can just show people the real me! You should be able to feel the happiness in you, it makes you feel warm inside and outside. I feel like people act like they are happy, but you always know inside whether or not you are happy. You also smile more. You feel light headed almost. It is an amazing feeling that everyone should be able to feel.