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How to be good to yourself and to others?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 5:58am
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Anonymous
March 15th, 2019 8:20pm
By thinking In a positive way you will help not only yourself but others. You shouldn't judge people without knowing the hole story and you should always try to see the good in people and in every day Life situations. You never know who might need your kind words, and what difference can they have on others life's. You can be good to people not only by using kind words but also giving them compliments when they did something good or worth nothing. By being good to others you are not only helping them but also becoming a better person.
Hanaa00
March 24th, 2019 9:46am
I’ve learned to be good to myself and others by first learning to love myself and to give myself needed time and space for growth. You only become truly good to yourself when you learn to appreciate your strengths and focus on them rather than analyze your flaws. We all have weaknesses, and that is okay. It is okay to not always have it all figured out. We must not let it affect the way we are, and what we hope to make out of our future. By learning self love, compassion and empathy, we nurture love for others too.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2019 6:03pm
Being good to yourself and others are two very different kettles of fish! If you're looking to improve your self love, I'd recommend writing a short list of things you like to do to feel relaxed. Maybe write a diary entry or have a think about the things about yourself that make you happy, and things you're proud of (there's always something, no matter how small!). To be good to others, ask them what kind of support they need. Check up on friends every so often and ask them if there's anything they want to talk about (especially if you've noticed them feeling blue).
15Kenzi
June 30th, 2019 4:27am
Just make sure that you feel good on a daily basis. Not only on the outside or health wise but also emotionally and mentally. Make sure you're stress free and happy. If you're not take some time out to make yourself stress free and happy. Try to set goals that are achievable and when you don't achieve them don't feel too bad. Cut yourself some slack. Try to enjoy everything once in a while. Go out to eat with someone , take a walk in the park , catch the latest movie or read a book. Keep in touch with family members and surround yourself with the people who love you. Make friends who are optimistic and supporting. Those who will correct you when you're wrong and help you get it right. Be with you when you need them. And please,if you can't do any one of these things doesn't mean you're not being kind to yourself. We're all human and born imperfect. As long as we accept us for who we are and what our capacity is , we'll be happy.
RhoenH
July 4th, 2019 5:47am
I always advocate for treating others the way you want to be treated, and do not give more than you can give. Be around people who make you happy. Don't surround yourself with toxic people or you will start to feel bad. Remember to always validate yourself, its easy to put yourself down, but try to say positive things to yourself, and keep doing it till you believe those things. Remember to take time for self care whenever you need it. When you take care of yourself, and conserve your energy you become a better person and you start making better friends.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2019 1:13am
Try not to hide the truth, you can try to stay as honest as possible, to yourself because then you can review and understand better, to others because then they will have all the facts so that they later won't get confused and can asses the situation themselves first, also try seeing things out of different perspectives, for example: you have a problem about what you think about a certain event, you can look at this event from a negative perspective first, then from a positive one and finally from maybe an natural perspective. You never know what you may learn!
AmethystRayne96
September 25th, 2019 4:05am
Being good to yourself and others can truly make a difference in your day. Personally, I try to take time to think about my physical and mental health, what I would like to improve and how to do so, and do the things that I truly enjoy as much as possible. Being good to others can be as simple as just being there for someone when they need to talk, a shoulder to lean on, or just a friend to have fun with. I’ve found that really getting to know a person helps me learn what I can to do help them.
Miller2019
November 7th, 2019 12:27am
If you wanna be good to yourself and others, you always have to start eith yourself. Self worth self esteem and how we look at ourself as human beeings are really effecting how we treat ourself and others, if you don't love yourself, how can you love others? if you don't treat yourself with respect, then how do you expect others to give you respect? Tell yourself that you are worth it every single day. Tell yourself that you care about you too much to make that bad decision, because you know the outcome and consequence. The ultimate gift is to give someone else a reason to smile.
Panda4202
December 4th, 2019 1:55pm
I believe it starts internally, start by loving yourself first. Understand it is human, it makes mistakes and that's okay. Forgive it. That's step 1. As for others, always remember each person has their own secret battle they're fighting, they might be going through a rough time or having a bad day and at times just giving a smile, saying goodmorning, sharing a chocolate bar or asking if they're okay can make everything better. If you keep that in mind, i believe being good to others will come out naturally. Everyone makes mistakes, its our privilege as humans to be allowed to be mistaken, to fall down and then get back up with a new kind of strength and knowledge. Spread love and forgive.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2019 12:51am
To be good to yourself, you need to learn to accept yourself and be happy with yourself. I find that learning to love yourself is truly important. We often forget to care about ourselves. Before you can be good to others you need to be happy with yourself. When it comes to others we should just treat others the way we want to be treated. We are all equal. No one in this world is more important or superior to another. No one is lower than anyone else. We were all created equally and we also need to remember we are all human.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2019 12:47pm
We can be good to ourselves by showing ourselves kindness, especially if we feel like we don't deserve it at times. We take it easy on ourselves and we do things at our own pace. We don't hold ourselves accountable for things we have not done and we try not to hold drudges against people for things that they have done. When we are truly kind and good to ourselves, being good to others comes almost naturally. Loving ourselves and appreciating who we are is the first step to loving those around us and appreciating them. Doing the things that we love is nice, but doing the things we love with those who we love is even better. There is no secret here, if we show kindness to ourselves and if we feel proud of ourselves for what we do, we are good and kinder to others.
lovelyDancer19
April 11th, 2020 9:29pm
Everybody needs a little selfishness in your life, along with being good to others. You deserve the exact happiness you give to other people, but sometimes you need to give it to yourself. Praise yourself, when you do something good give yourself a reward. Spend a little money if you need to, a $5 ice cream won’t break the bank. As for others, give everyone a nice little smile as you pass. A single smile can change someone’s mood instantly. Smiles are contagious. It also won’t hurt to ask someone how they are feeling. Not everyone is happy and some need a listener if they are struggling.
ChemistryLover
April 18th, 2020 9:01pm
I think sometimes is easier to be good to others and not to yourself. At least for me I'm a very harsh person when it comes to criticizing myself, my work and even the ways in which I react to situations. I think that we can be more critical of ourselves because we are in control of ourselves more. To be honest, it took me a while to understand the importance of being good to myself and doing so can vary by person. For me, I do activities that relax me and make me happy those activities that let me give me time for myself to grow as a person but also emotionally.
Evertonest
May 8th, 2020 6:17am
It depends on what you mean by being good to yourself and others. If you mean doing good to yourself and other people, it may be wise to 'do good' to yourself first. You can't 'do good' to others when you aren't 'doing good' to yourself. So how can you treat yourself well? You have physical, psychological, social, and spiritual needs. Fulfilling those needs would mean doing good to yourself. These needs can overlap - fulfilling your social needs can fulfil your psychological needs. To fulfil your physical needs, they can include: - Eating healthy - Drinking plenty of water - Sleeping well - Exercise Satisfying psychological needs can differ from person to perso, but can include: - Making time to wind down and do things you enjoy - Playing with your pets - Seeking support from others when you're feeling down, upset, stressed, etc. - Journalling To satisfy social needs, just do whatever you like to do to connect with others. This can include: - Being part of a community - Hanging out with friends - Hanging out with family To satify spiritual needs, you can: - Meditate - Do religious activities - Go outdoors and connect with nature There are many ways to 'be good' to other people. They can include: - Doing something nice for others - Helping strangers - Complementing others - Donating to charity - Use respectful language to others - Maintaining and respecting boundaries
NightOwl5280
May 13th, 2020 3:38am
I think that a lot of it is about perspective taking. Sometimes when I am too hard on myself I need to take a step back and think what would I say to my best friend if it was her going through this. Or what would my mom tell me if I told her I was feeling like this. Most of the time, I would be much kinder to my best friend and my mom would say something loving and supportive (I'm lucky like that, she's awesome). When it's someone else I need to be kind to, it's kind of the reverse. I try to put myself in their shoes. Sometimes that is easier than other times. I can think to myself okay that driver cut me off because they are rushing to work or just didn't notice. It's much harder when something makes a costly mistake or is rude to me. But if i can pause long enough to take a deep breath, I can usually give it my best go. And I am not always perfect about either, but forgiving myself for that is part of being goof to myself, too.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 1:19am
It is important to treat yourself and others kindly, everyone is fighting their own unseen battles, so it is important to try and be patience with the people around you but also with yourself. Encouragement, kind words and even just a smile can be all someone needs to help them through their day, treat yourself with this same kindness by trying to speak kindly to yourself and giving yourself a break if things do not work out. Remember everyone is doing their best, so support others where you can and give yourself time and seek support when you are struggling.
pinkbuddha
January 12th, 2022 5:09pm
I think what made me a good person to myself and others is realizing what I wanted to improve on. To find those aspects of myself that I thought could use some improvement to become the best version of myself, I did a lot of Shadow work. Shadow work is often recommended by psychologists and allows you to work on the part of yourself that you've repressed and take consciousness of it. It allows you to work with your inner child which is believed to be one of the principal sources of many of our current behaviors in adulthood. Shadow work allows you to grow as a person as it enables you to learn a lot about yourself and the life you bring to others.
hopefulArrow2212
May 29th, 2021 4:24pm
It is important to be kind to yourself and to others by treating others how you would like others to treat you back. 1) Respect them and their basic rights as a fellow person 2) Respect their personal boundaries 3) Have patience and understanding while talking to others 4) Talk to others in a respectful manner 5) Help a fellow person in need if you see them needing assistance (within your capabilities of course!) 6) Share or donate what you do not need or have an excess of to the less fortunate 7) Be there for someone if they are in need of emotional or spiritual support
Anonymous
June 10th, 2021 4:04am
It takes time, but I think it's a matter of knowing yourself, giving yourself your favorite things to the best of your abilities, and consistently giving yourself love every day. From there, you will learn to spread that goodness to others - you have your batteries filled up already, so you can start giving to other people. What you give doesn't have to be a lot as well - it can be a simple hello, or a "how are you", even just sending a meme or two to them. Sometimes it can be unexpected - if you can send them food, voice call them to say hi too. These are more for family and friends though, but given this pandemic these can apply to others as well.
Lifeline17
June 30th, 2021 5:26pm
You can be good to others by being empathetic and understanding everybody's situation and listening to them whenever they are in need or want to express. You can be good to yourself by taking care of yourself as well along with others. And love yourself first by accepting who you are and try to improve the same way you want others to do. Don't be self centred but also not to forget youself while taking care of everybody else. As they say, "be the change you would want to see in the world". Both your heart and brain should work simultaneously
bubblegumScenery6104
September 9th, 2021 11:21am
You can be good to yourself by making yourself your best friend. Treat yourself like how you would treat your dear one. You can be good to others by practising kindness and compassion. But first, you need to have them for your own self. When you start treating yourself with kindness you would automatically exhibit the same with others. Sometimes it might seem like being kind to yourself is difficult. In times like that, take a time-out. Do something that you love or simply do nothing. The most important thing is to take it slow and love yourself. Accept yourself. When you are kind to yourself and others, you will feel good and better.
biddybuddy123
September 10th, 2021 10:17am
Accept yourself fully. That means getting rid of judgments you have towards others and more importantly, yourself. If you are insecure how to act in front of people, and feel like they would judge you for who you are, that means you didn't accept yourself for how you are, you didn't 'approve' yourself as 'worthy' and 'good' to be accepted. This is because of judgements we have towards character traits. Like lying is "bad", honest is "good and right", being 'this' is 'acceptable' and this other thing is 'not'. Those are judgements we have about human traits. The truth we are a whole, meaning we are all of those traits. Lier, honest, cheater, loyal, two-faced, one night stander, and long-term kind of person. It is hard to accept that, but that is how we are. We judge traits based on how our culture and environment taught us we should view them. Every trait is a two-sided coin. For instance, lying and honesty. If you see someone use lying to deceive someone, you would consider it a bad thing. But you should make your own opinion based on -your- experience that comes from -how you choose to use a trait-. Like, you may use lying to save someone from getting hurt by finding something that they maybe don't need to hear, or from lying to kids you don't have candy cuz you don't want them to eat too much of it. Or honesty. It is good to be honest, but people use the truth to hurt us, or if we give too much info, they use it against us. You see? Don't perceiev things in matters of 'good' and 'bad', 'right' and 'wrong' as everybody has different definitions for them and considers different things to be 'good' or 'wrong'. So accept yourself as a whole (it will take some time), realize how many judgements you have towards yourself and others, release them, let them go, be in state of accepting whatever comes your way, and you should be ok! ;)
LynnTheListener
September 23rd, 2021 2:47am
It can be really easy to focus your energy on helping others while completely ignoring your needs ( I definitely do that). It's important to check in with yourself, and if you feel yourself feeling mentally or physically unwell, take some time to be good to yourself. It doesn't have to be super lavish either, even just making sure you're getting enough sleep and water is a super easy way to get in the habit of being good to yourself. When you feel good with yourself, it will be easier to reflect that onto others. Random acts of kindness, listening, and showing that others are important to you are really simple yet impactful ways to show kindness to others.
AvrilGraceofGale
November 28th, 2021 4:39am
Stop looking for someone else's approval, stop belittling your desires and thoughts for the satisfaction of others. There will always be people who want to dissuade you from what you like, from new ideas, desires and aspirations. Who are they to you? Bystanders, teachers, classmates? Stop listening to their comments and ridicule. Choose your goals. Otherwise, they risk being forgotten because of someone else's opinion. Risk, act, be resourceful, generate new things around you. Many never got what they wanted because they feared disapproval. But you can. You will stand. You will become the best version of yourself. Because what matters is your opinion of you. Have the courage to tell people no We often do not know how to refuse people, and then we complain that their requests only grow and people, as a result, sit on our neck. Only you can change this: don't try to be a convenient option for everyone. You should take your will into a fist and explain to people that you also have your goals and deeds, that you are tired and want to rest, and not do the work for others. One short word “no” can help with this, but it can be very difficult to pronounce. Speak straight Try not to lie and not come up with "excuses" - so you will only confuse yourself. Just say, “Sorry, I'm busy right now”; "I have other things to do now." If a person does not understand - just do not respond to his calls and messages for a while - do not distract yourself. If a person asks for help personally, after the same phrases, do not continue to develop the dialogue further - after all, you are busy and it's time for you to run on business.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2021 1:05pm
I love this question! I was struggling with it for so long and now I realized that all I have to do is to have grace and be accepting. Like many of us, I have a family. Sometimes we say and do things that hurt each other and sometimes we don't agree with what they do or say. But whatever happens, we know how that person is. We accept them as they are and that way it becomes easy to forgive and be good to them. Accepting yourself as you are is the most important thing you can do. sure we all need to improve and we should grow, but that process speeds up and is more enjoyable with acceptance.
sweetlife101
December 31st, 2021 9:36am
I believe that staying positive and accepting people are the key to be good to yourself. If you respect yourself and accept yourself for who you are, it is easier to accept others no matter who they are or even if they have issues. I also believe that self confidence is good because if you are proud of yourself, you can achieve so many things and therefore can also inspire people all around the world.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2022 2:43pm
It is important to practice self-care and to also have positive thoughts for yourself and for other people. It is important to be kind to yourself and to other people. It is also important to respect other people's personal space, boundaries, limits, and what they are and are not comfortable with. Treating yourself and doing things that you enjoy is also important. Trying new things and doing something exciting is also something that can be good or you as well! There are many things out there that can be good for you, but also safe and healthy for you at the same time!
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
May 11th, 2022 7:43am
That's a nice question, I'm glad you're considering being good to yourself and others. For others, it is kinda relative maybe, so perhaps think about what is "being good" for you, who do you consider as a good human, what qualities do you admire in good people, what actions or behaviors make you feel good when you're around them or think of them. Being good to yourself is relative as well however it is a good mix of self care, self love, self compassion, self kindness, treating yourself like you would treat a loved one ~ acknowledging your strengths and needs and working on yourself, to be closer to your ideal self. I'm sure you got this, one step at a time. ❤
OlivePumpkin444
April 10th, 2022 2:21am
Being good to yourself and others doesn't happen overnight, but the road to it can start overnight. It's all about self-awareness and empathy towards both yourself and others. No one is perfect. Although we say this, we need to remind ourselves every once and a while. It also starts with small habits, such as making sure you're eating a little better than yesterday or taking a bit more time to be compassionate, rather than straight out judge someone. The more you engage in these kinds of positive behaviors, the deeper you carve a path for yourself of being good. Not just to yourself or others, just being a good person in general. There is always hope and change is always constant, so with a little change day by day, hope will diminish and be replaced with reality :)
SchmellyAshley
May 7th, 2022 5:20pm
Prioritize yourself. Learn to apply self-care into your life. Doing what makes you happy without hurting others in the process is also a great way. Reading motivational quotes to keep you going is highly recommended. However, if you're come to the point where you feel like you have enough self-love, please don't be surprised if ever insecurities come and invade your thoughts. It's perfectly normal to hear those thoughts and the best one can do is ignore them at all costs. On to the next part, showering people you respect and care about with compliments can definitely brighten up their day. Even a simple act of kindness to those in need could not only help others, but also your well-being. I tend to find joy in helping others and I hope people learn to find bliss in it as well. Smiling and simply being there to listen to others rant and vent their feelings is enough, too. Please keep in mind that there will always be challenges thrown at you in life. You'll fail and make mistakes countless times. And honestly? That's okay. It's okay to be a perfectly normal human being. It's not about your failures or mistakes, it's about learning to accept them and the way you see them as: discouragement or fuel to keep you going.