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How to be good to yourself and to others?

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Last Updated: 11/28/2020 at 2:10pm
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Top Rated Answers
Louisa982
April 8th, 2017 1:30pm
It's important to look after yourself as well as being good to other people. You could find things you enjoy such as reading, dancing or painting and do this for a small amount of time everyday.
ams96
April 22nd, 2017 5:11pm
This is an awesome question. Being good to yourself means treating yourself with respect, and not being hard on yourself. Focus on being the best 'you' that you can be. As far as being good to others - do the same. Treat them as you wish to be treated. Offer support to friends, hold a door open for someone, simple tasks like that can really show that you're a great person.
Paige81
May 31st, 2017 2:16pm
To be good to yourself and to others you just take it one decision or one action at a time. It becomes natural after practicing enough times. It is vital to be good to yourself. For me, if I am not taking care of myself then I am not truly taking care of others. It can also be difficult for others to trust how genuine you are towards them if you are not applying those kindnesses to yourself.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2017 6:51pm
Love yourself. It may sound so so simple but really you should love yourself. Not to make yourself something you aren't but by showing gratitude a little everyday really helps. As an individual I had a lack of love for myself. To combat this, I tried expressing gratefulness to the world. By that I don't mean hugging every tree on earth haha. I mean by, for example if I were to be late, I wouldn't rush in saying "Heaven's sake I'm so so sorry that I'm late!". Instead this would be replaced by " I know I'm late and I hope I can earn your forgiveness but thank you so Mich for waiting for me." Here, a simple sorry was replaced by a cheerful thank you, attracting positive vibes to not only yourself but others around you. This brings a slight happiness I suppose and the little things always count. In this way you're being positive to others, which is helpful to them as well as yourself.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 6:50pm
Treat others the way you want to be treated, for what is a world without compassion and non-judgemental people? A world where hate wins.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2017 1:42pm
Our bodies and minds are wired to notice what feels good. Sometimes it can be a hug. Other times we may need to be more patient.
AAAwesome24
June 29th, 2017 3:37pm
I simply coordinate to everything. I respect myself in a way that I value/accept what and who I am. As well as to other people, I respect and value them. I dont look for physical appearance nor stat in life, I respect ll of them and accept their flaws, beliefs and culture.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2017 4:42pm
Firstly you must learn the respect. Never kneel to others. If you do that they will respect you. After that it will be easy to be good with the others...
YourFriendforever
July 12th, 2017 6:34am
Be positive.. Start from today.. practice self care and share your positive vibes with the others around you.. that is the first step to do good to others by making them happy. :)
contentedDreamer86
August 4th, 2017 7:42pm
Understand yourself, feel yourself. Accept the situation as it is and know that you are doing your best at the moment, and then try to see how you can improve. Take the same steps with other people. Might be difficult at first, but gets better if you keep doing it.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2017 2:22am
Often we are told to be treat others as we would like to be treated, but how would you like to be treated? We often treat ourselves worse than we would treat others, and we tell ourselves things that we would never say to a friend. So if you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself stop and think: "Would I ever say this to a friend?". Chances are that you wouldn't because we want our friends to be happy and to thrive in life. So be a good friend to others and yourself and building confidence and resilience with encouragement and positive feedback.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2017 11:53pm
Treat yourself like you’re worthy right now, even if you don’t believe it. This includes taking care of your body, by eating a healthy diet and exercising. And begin to take action toward achieving your dreams. By following our dreams, we contribute to creating a beautiful world.
maiflower
October 14th, 2017 1:35am
I think the most important thing is to be kind. As far as being good to others, just be empathetic and kind- know that everyone is going through this crazy thing we call life. As far as being good to yourself, take a step back and try to see yourself as a friend that you are trying to help and do the same thing. That's kind of what I try to do personally, I hope this helps! :)
ComeChatWithShorty01
October 26th, 2017 1:57pm
You want to know how to be good to yourself ? I'd love to give you a list of things to try. But by Respecting yourself & the ones around you. The way you respect yourself people will notice & it will attaract respectful good people to your life. Which will also help bring happiness into your life. Starting off by being good to yourself is a awesome way to feel good about everything around you.
DashyTalk
November 2nd, 2017 8:19am
Personally I have learnt a lot through self awareness. The moment you get to not only understand but also appreciate who you are as a person, what sorta personality you are, your strengths and weaknesses. That way you will be able to maximize on the positives so as to overshadow negatives, its working for me since I embraced self awareness. When you completely understand yourself and appreciate the same then it will be easier for you to relate with others. I have seen it work!
playfulPuppy88
November 2nd, 2017 10:25am
It is important to realise our words hold great power over us and certain phrases we repeat in our minds and out loud impact us in such unconcious ways. Even jokingly putting yourself down too much, negative speech, judging others including yourself. You are constantly determing your future mindset and brainwashing yourself, make sure you brainwash yourself the right way. Repeat loving, caring and positive speech, find what you are greatfull for what you value about yourself and others. Force yourself everyday to see the good even if it is just one little thing, pay attention to it. What you give your time and energy will grow, and so can positive thinking grow.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:27pm
You can be good to yourself and to others defines how you approach them in a manner if you're kind they will pay back later.
goldenPeace97
November 12th, 2017 10:22am
how many times you have experienced that when you are joyful and happy then you are the most amazing person on this earth. that you don't get annoyed or bothered if your favourite vase broke or when someone criticises you or talks bad about you. you just become helpful without demanding or asking anything in return it just feels like you have something in abundance and you dont mind giving it to others even if they dont return you that. yes so to be good to yourself and to others all you need to be is joyful and happy and peaceful . these are the essentials for someone to be good either to themselves or to others ( one cant be good to others if they aren't to themselves) . now to be joyful,happy and peaceful one needs to start practicing self care and love and that is when we will be able to care for others and love them as well .
Elenny02
November 15th, 2017 1:51pm
The key to being good to yourself and others is acceptance. You need to accept yourself in order to accept others.
natashaRiver38
November 17th, 2017 6:10pm
To be good to yourself you should realy start loving your true self. And then try to be content with loving others
xenabeeena
November 22nd, 2017 4:35pm
Surround yourself with positive people who love themselves and who treat you with love and respect. Forgive others and forgive yourself. Or even just sit down and make a list of qualities about yourself that you actually like. Spend some time every day expanding this list.
DaenerysStormborn
December 6th, 2017 8:41am
To be grateful & start your day by asking yourself what are you grateful of and what makes you good.
ajj23
December 6th, 2017 2:33pm
Learning to be good to yourself is a great way to learn to be good to others. Treat yourself as you'd like to treat someone else. Be positive, be complimentary, be appreciative. Develop habits that improve your health and happiness. Reach out to others and share positive stories. Be a positive influence. Be accepting that we all have different experiences of the world.
TheGuestCat
December 8th, 2017 2:18pm
Allow everyone to have their feelings. Pause. Find a way to respond instead of react. I think we all are so scared of being wrong that we are constantly qualifying our feelings against others feelings. Our feelings are right or wrong.
patriciaxmarq
December 9th, 2017 9:19pm
Respect yourself and others. Be positive and learn that its also ok to not be okay. Be gentle with yourself, eat well , exercise and learn new things!
neverendingNarwhal22
January 6th, 2018 1:56am
We endeavor to help others. That is a given. We must always remember to take care of ourselves first. Something as simple as a warm bath can help “recharge our batteries.” If we cannot be good to ourselves, we cannot be at our best for others.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 12:51am
Start by not criticising yourself. If you are unhappy with something you did or did not do just let it go. Try to make the best of everyday and if you can't that's Ok just say that tomorrow is going to be a great day and move on.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 12:24pm
Learning to be good to yourself and others is like any other skill. It requires persistence and diligence and lots and lots of practice. Trying to catch negative thoughts and comments before they arise is key. Eventually, if you try and make positive thinking and action habitual they will become just that: habits.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 10:57am
For me the key is that I respect other people while still standing up for what I think and need. It goes a long way to listen to people but not letting them walk all over you.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 8:43am
Respect everyone and they should respect you and help people with there worries then they will do the same for you.