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August 23rd, 2017 6:58am
As difficult as it is, being upfront and honest is probably the best way to go. If it is a particular behavior that makes you uncomfortable talking to the person in a calm environment and explaining your feelings is a way to express that. If the person makes you overall uncomfortable, perhaps telling the person you need to spend less time with them is better. Either way, explaining your feelings to the person and allowing them the chance to change is probably the most fair solution.
If you are in the presence of someone who makes you uncomfortable, being in tune with your emotions and the physical sensations in your body will give you the much-needed insight into why you feel this way. You might be afraid to speak up if someone is doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Keep in mind that they may not know how you feel. Revealing your thoughts and feelings can smooth the way to better communication, negotiation and compromise. There will be people who are unable to take social cues from others and they make most people uncomfortable. If you have already tried other approaches in an attempt to be polite, limit your time with this person or walk away if necessary. I hope this helps you and anyone else in this situation. :)
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August 7th, 2017 2:34am
You can excuse yourself when they are around, or just don't hangout much with them.
I agree with others here who have said that being direct is the best approach. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, even at work or school, there are things you can do about it. At work you can talk with the human resources department or an overhead manager about the behavior that is making you uncomfortable. At school, you can talk with the school counselor, principal, headmaster, or dean (depending which school level you are in).
If it is someone you know personally and they make you uncomfortable regularly, try talking to them about the behavior. Start sentences with, "It makes me feel uncomfortable when you..." It is likely that the other person is unaware that you feel uncomfortable.
As far as showing that discomfort, a lot of things come across in body language. Things like leaning away from the other person, refusing to make eye contact, refusing to talk to them or respond in a normal way, are all things that might tip them off that something is wrong.