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I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?

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Samar27
January 13th, 2019 4:56pm
It's not about having something wrong with you. At some point, we care and love people lots that we can't be mad or be able to hurt them by any means. It feels like we are attached to them and can't stay that long away from them, or to even stop taking to them for a while. Sometimes we are also afraid or scared that we could hurt their feelings by something we say or do. So we try not to be angry at them and find reasons to why they did that thing, and make up excuses for them rather than being mad or angry at them.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2020 8:37am
No, there is nothing wrong about you if you don't get angry at people you care about. Instead this makes you a much more kin and compassionate person, who cares and loves for people around them. Although,one should always be careful to treat themselves right too, being angry at someone is only an impression as to how much someone's actions and words affect you or hurt you if they feelings and actions aren't reciprocated and there is nothing wrong with that as well, we are allowed to show people that we care for that we need them or maybe tell them if they do something wrong.
Udaythelistner
January 7th, 2022 1:04pm
Anger is an expression of thoughts & it's completely upon us how/when/whom do we express it. It's a personal choice of yours that you dont want to get angry on certain people there is nothing wrong in it. However, there is another thing I want to mention here is, do we make a choice or it's a external trigger to express yourself. For example someone is shouting at you & if you don't react to it this will make the situation null for you & for them as well. So it's completely your choice to react or respond. I hope I am able to answer, it might be confusing as there are two topics in the explanation.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 7:49pm
No, there is absolutly nothing wrong with that! It is very normal to have an instinct in which not to hurt people you love, or at least care for.
Angel1011208
February 7th, 2018 2:13pm
Not at all, I feel like everyone goes through that, where something bad has happened from someone you care about but you can't get mad because you care too much! this all just means you're a great and loving person.
Lemi
January 10th, 2019 6:20pm
No, there is nothing wrong with it. If you are that aware of that person's feeling and always have that 'brake' to stop you from blurt your feeling out at him/her, it just means you are just care enough about this persons feeling so you thread it carefully. But this doesnt mean you just keep silent and hold your thought when you are disagreeing with his/her , though. You try to deliver the message as best as possible without letting the emotion get the best of you. If you are doing it along this line, then no , nothing is wrong with you whatsoever.
SaraHoffman
December 6th, 2018 11:02pm
No. There is nothing wrong with you many people feel this way. However I would want to watch out because some people will realize that and walk all over you because they know you won't get mad.
Here4Anything
November 16th, 2018 3:39am
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. During my first relationship, my girlfriend would get upset at me all the time because I could never get angry with her. Sometimes love and caring is just too great for one person and it ends up so you can’t get mad. I can promise you that there is never anything wrong with you simply because you can’t get mad at anyone. Just keep being you, and doing what you feel you need to. You can try to explain to them that you can’t, but you don’t even have to do that. Just staying the way you are is helpful for everyone
Caringmoon07
November 14th, 2018 11:50pm
Just because you find difficulty getting angry at loved ones does not mean there is something wrong with you. Everyone deals with anger in his or her own way. If you feel the approaches you are currently taking are not helpful, then you should reconsider how you solve problems where anger is involved. It is okay to try out different things as well. Just because something works for one person, does not mean it will work for you. You might find that you deal with your anger differently depending on the other person involved and that is okay, too.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2018 12:16pm
Getting angry at people I care about is a normal thing. because anger as all emotions come and go. I can not reject any of them. For the attempt to reject some of them gives rise to much anxiety. It makes us feel inadequate But inadequacy only makes sense in a sense of what is appropriate. But who else really knows? If we think about that we only know what was taught us as a truth. But what is the truth really? We thought about a lot of things that we think that is the truth. But it is of fact?
GEMINIALDRIDGE8D
October 13th, 2018 10:03pm
Not at all! I’m not an angry person at all. I rarely get angry at anyone, especially without reason. But I myself find I can never get angry at the people I care about and love. They’re only people I argue with, but I cannot get angry at them. If they do something wrong and I should be angry, I may seem agitated slightly at first, but I get more upset than angry. And if I do get annoyed, it takes an apology, sometimes not even that, for me to be in a good mood again. I’d rather never get angry at the people I care about than not have them, so I don’t hold grudges and I can’t stay angry.
calmPalm17
October 12th, 2018 3:12am
I think everyone gets angry at the people they care about, partially BECAUSE they care about them so much. When we are emotionally invested in someone, it can bring up lots of intense emotions. I find that a lot of the time, anger is actually rooted in another feeling. A classic example is that when a little kid wanders into the street. The parent yells at them and is angry, but they are angry because they were scared. Another would be how people sometimes get angry when someone dies, but it's also tied up with sadness. When feeling angry at someone you care about, it can be helpful to try to identify if there is another emotion causing it. At the end of the day: no, there is nothing wrong with you. Anger is a completely natural (and sometimes very productive) emotion. What matters most is what you do with that anger, and learning how to not act on it, without trying to suppress it or pretend it's not there.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2018 10:10am
When people have problems getting mad at the people they care about there can be many reasons for this. One reason can be that they are afraid to start conflict between them and that person. They might be afraid with how that other person might take the anger. Another reason people might avoid getting mad at people they care about is that it might cause a bigger conflict than they wanted. In that case avoiding a conflict might seem like the better route because they want to remain civil with the person rather tell them how they feel.
Kennajunespoon
September 20th, 2018 12:25am
I can assure there there nothing wrong with not getting angry or upset at the people we care for, that is your ability to be compassionate, we are all human and we all feel it. It’s a great characteristic to have! But know that it is also okay for us to feel angry at times and even feel anger and frustration towards the people that we love and care for. It doesn’t make you a bad person at all, it’s a normal human emotion to feel and it gets to the best of people. I hope that this helps!
Sunset316
September 16th, 2018 1:57am
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You see, you should be blessed to have that quality within you. People around the world struggle to have something like that. Whenever some people get angry, they blow up instantly to whoever's close and in this case, it would most likely be family or friends. A few hours later, all that remains is regret. But emotional pain can't be washed away with simple 'sorry' or an apology. So, no, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Getting angry at the ones you care about will only result in resentment and regret for yourself.
vanillawest88
September 6th, 2018 10:55pm
We are all human and have emotions. Anger happens to be one of them. You will normally feel better, and relieved even. Don't be ashamed of expressing a feeling that comes to all humans naturally. We have all buttons, and levels where we can become mad. it is not a given, to be happy all the time. It's even unrealistic to think you will not get mad at people you care about. I n my opinion, the people we care about know how to make us angry the most. They know you so well, so they know your buttons, and levels.
Zildjianknyc
August 22nd, 2018 4:05am
It is not imperative that you are able to be angry with people that you care about. However, it is important that you can maintain healthy boundaries with people in your life. When you are able to maintain healthy boundaries with people in your life, it can help minimize the situations in which you would want to be angry with someone. Avoiding the cause for anger in the first place can be far more satisfying and rewarding than developing an ability to be angry. If you are successful, you can model this behavior for others and help bring down anger and anxiety for you and your loved ones.
LovelyNebula
August 15th, 2018 4:48am
No there is nothing wrong with you! You may be frustrated with other situations taking it out on the people you care about not meaning too. Tell your friends you do not mean to and that you care, and that there may be stuff going on which could be affecting your mood.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 1:43am
No, it is completely normal to care for the ones you love in such a manner. Allowing yourself the freedom to say no to others is healthy, although progress may seem slow, it is important to stand up for yourself.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 3:05am
Definitely not! We all have people we care about and can relate to this when it comes to that specific someone. It's completely normal to feel this way. It's just our protective instincts working, where we are aware that things we say or do can affect others and we wouldn't want someone we care about feeling uncomfortable or somewhat sad. Maybe it's just you being very considerate of the people you care about's feelings and that's totally fine!
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 12:36pm
You need to set boundary in your anger. It can help you to avoid something you dont like, something you dont want to happen with you. Showing anger is a skill to acknowledge people that you wont accept such behavior.
Numinox
July 13th, 2018 7:52am
Absolutely not. This it might be difficult because of the ties you may hold but if you genuinely can’t get angry against a close friend or family member it is 100% A-ok!
Belle2023
July 13th, 2018 4:00am
Their is nothing wrong with you. It’s totally normal when you feel upset or angry with your family it’s by something that happened and eventually that will go away.
Kayaondra02
July 11th, 2018 1:11am
Usually if you care about someone you want to be there for them. You have this irrational fear of hurting them. Since you care about, and for, them you don’t want to hurt them, (make them upset) As a caring person you care about how they feel.
AniqaT
May 1st, 2022 3:17pm
Firstly, there is nothing wrong with your concern. When we care about people we always have the tendency to see the good in them at all times but it is important for us to also recognise the bad things too, especially when we feel uncomfortable ourselves and do not set boundaries to ensure a healthy relationship is maintained. Finding the opportunity to acknowledge the problem and then talking things through with them sets clear goals for the people around you and yourself and helping you to prevent any further misunderstandings or unwanted resentment; communication is key to setting boundaries, even with the people you care dearly for the most.
peacefulAngel99
June 30th, 2018 8:40pm
Of course there isn't, It's actually a natural feeling for alot of people! Nobody likes to hurt the people they love because when you hurt them it hurts you!
Elena2081
April 27th, 2018 12:07am
No, it is just that you love them more than other people, and it is completely normal to have these feelings, you shouldn't worry too much.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2018 7:30pm
It’s not uncommon to be reluctant to get angry with people that you care about. Many of us want to please those we care about and keep the peace. Just be mindful of your boundaries and feelings, so you don’t feel like your own needs go unmet. You and your needs matter just as much as those people who you care about.
Moella
June 6th, 2018 8:00am
I think not being angry is a virtue in itself, but please take care of yourself and don't let others walk all over you. Besides that, I think not geeting angry at people you love can be just natural.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 6:43pm
We are only human and we can sometimes have a whole array of emotions and it can be that it's the people close to us who get caught in the cross fire. Learning to control your emotions can be difficult but with anything practice makes perfect, if you work on it for long enough it will eventually become second nature to you.