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I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?

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HelpingMindandHeart
November 30th, 2017 6:59pm
No , it shows you're kind hearted and care for the people you love the most but there is a thin line and reminder even if you love them endlessly you mustn't give them the power to walk over you because at the end of the day you'll lose pieces of yourself
HarshYogi
December 14th, 2017 11:29am
Short answer: Nothing is wrong with you. On the contrary many people are searching for the way to 'not get angry' or have controlled behavior. You are blessed with heart that stays calm even in moments when other would get angry. I wonder, why would one want to get angry? Is it because they are not heard? Is it because they have to face a situation that is opposite to their expectations? Or something else. In any case, getting angry can only deteriorate the situation. For example, your children are not listening to you and you wish to shout at them - 'keep quiet and start studying'. They may sit on desk but their mind may not. You may end up creating wider rift between you and children. Not getting angry is state of bliss. Enjoy life the way it is :)
givingperspective27
December 16th, 2017 12:42am
Of course not! It sounds like you're just a very empathetic person. Sometimes seeing another person's perspective on a situation can make it difficult to get angry with them, even if it's warranted from your perspective.
Archer8
January 3rd, 2018 5:03am
Absolutely not, anger isn't the only way you can express discomfort or being upset. Not getting angry is actually quite a mature way of handling situations. You can always discuss what upset you calmly at an appropriate time, or just generally communicate regularly. Even if you didn't approach the situation at all and just let it go, the fact that you aren't getting angry is a true indicator of how much you care and how the situation isn't worth a harsh reaction towards the people you care about.
twentyonesalvation
January 18th, 2018 12:34pm
No, there is not. It's just that you love them too much you easily fogive and forget their mistakes. As long as you're not taken for granted, continue understanding them.
soulTaco29
January 18th, 2018 7:38pm
Anger is an emotion that indicates someone has wronged us, is infringing on us or is causing us pain. A consistent lack of anger towards someone who continually hurts us (even if they are a loved one) might indicate a bigger issue. Perhaps we think so highly of them that we are neglecting ourselves. Perhaps we are worried that if we get angry, they will leave us. Perhaps we feel too uncomfortable with conflict. Despite what people think, anger can be a good emotion as long as it is appropriately managed because it reminds you that you have value and deserve to be treated well. A complete absence of anger can indicate a bigger issue.
tuesdaymorningsnow
January 24th, 2018 11:30pm
Anger is a natural human emotion. It is not wrong or unusual to feel angry. What matters is how you deal with that anger. I try to acknowledge that anger and think about why I'm feeling it. Then I try to put myself in that person's shoes and imagine things from their perspective. I find that when I do that, it is easier to react with compassion rather than anger.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2018 11:07pm
That just means you really love them and that you are willing to overlook their imperfections. That's ideally how you want to feel about your loved ones, but you have to be careful as it makes you vulnerable to them, which can be a good thing, but they can also potentially use you. As long as you keep your eyes open it shouldn't be a problem, maybe consult with a different friend if something arises to make sure you are safe.
MarshmaIIows
January 31st, 2018 1:50pm
Being angry doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you, and being not angry doesn't mean that it's wrong either. Anger is potentially just like happiness - also an emotion. Sometimes, with people who we love, it's very hard to stay angry or just be angry at them because our love for them is way more than our anger. And that's a very normal phenomenon, I believe.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 9:09am
No Dear . there is nothing wrong in this. It shows how kind and loving person you are and that can't be wrong.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:42pm
Absolutely not! There’s nothing wrong with caring for people. Many people find it hard to get angry with people they care about.
rosequartz777
February 7th, 2018 8:05am
Nothing is ever "wrong" with you. You are not a mistake, neither is there something wrong with you. You just seem to truly care about your loved ones to the point of never wanting to get angry about them. This might be because you're afraid to lose your connection with them. Know that you have the ability to love honestly, and with this honesty comes truly caring for them and for the betterment of their character. And so, if they ever do anything wrong, don't feel afraid to call them out. You deserve to have good friends and you must be an honest friend. And if they ever say things that truly anger you, you must learn to love yourself enough to detach and move away. You must move away and let them go for your heart's sake. Don't put up with insults and bad attitudes just because you love them, love yourself enough to LET GO.
Angel1011208
February 7th, 2018 2:13pm
Not at all, I feel like everyone goes through that, where something bad has happened from someone you care about but you can't get mad because you care too much! this all just means you're a great and loving person.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 9:54pm
no, that doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. if anything its shows how much you care about them
warmPudding59
February 26th, 2018 9:03pm
No, you are just compassionate. There is nothing wrong with you for being understanding wuth the people you care about.
Listeningheart33
March 24th, 2018 4:28am
As you said you care about them, and love them to the point that, that feeling is overtaking you from feeling angry or upset with them when needed. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You most be an amazing person in order to put you feeling of care and love above everything
tiredsnail
March 31st, 2018 6:56pm
There is nothing wrong with you, and I understand where you are coming from. Your emotions may act differently depending on who you are interacting with.
Demons3
April 4th, 2018 3:46am
No it is completely normal, in fact that could be a positive thing. Not getting angry with loved ones can make your bond with them stronger because in anger we do things and say things that we do not mean. Therefore this could be good.
Smolpotato87
April 14th, 2018 8:57pm
Absolutely not. It's hard to get angry at the ones we love, even if they treat us badly at times. With that said though, you should not allow yourself to become door mat. Your feelings matter too, and though you may not be able to get angry at the people you care about when they mistreat you, that doesn't mean you can't put a firm foot down and let them know that how they're treating you is hurting you.
Elena2081
April 27th, 2018 12:07am
No, it is just that you love them more than other people, and it is completely normal to have these feelings, you shouldn't worry too much.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 6:43pm
We are only human and we can sometimes have a whole array of emotions and it can be that it's the people close to us who get caught in the cross fire. Learning to control your emotions can be difficult but with anything practice makes perfect, if you work on it for long enough it will eventually become second nature to you.
blacktea1
April 28th, 2018 5:23pm
No, is a natural response since there's appreciation in between is normal to not to get mad at them.
EspritDuKaren68
May 5th, 2018 9:55pm
How do you feel about not being able to get angry at them? If it makes you feel badly, then maybe it's time to set boundaries. While I wouldn't recommend lashing out, I DO recommend peacefully but firmly setting boundaries. You can love people and have boundaries all at once. That way, you never grow to resent those whom you love.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2018 10:36am
No, not at all! This is a very common feeling. It shows that you're compassionate and empathetic. It is always hard getting angry at a person you care about. But just think that that person needs to know (if they hurt you or if they did something wrong) as it will ultimately benefit your relationship in the long run. Sometimes tough love is the best kind of love
MaddieW1
May 24th, 2018 9:54pm
The first step to fixing a problem you feel you may have is admitting it! However the second step is to never use the phrase, 'something wrong with me'. Everyone has flaws, thats what makes us human, you feeling like you can't get angry at people may come from feelings of guilt, or a fear of confrontation rather than physically not being able to. Next time you feel like someone has hurt you, think to yourself how you would react if there could be no consequences, then work from there.
Emmur
May 26th, 2018 4:11am
I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all. You don't need to be angry or upset in order to share your emotions with other people. It may just be the type of person you are. Everyone expresses themselves in different ways, and for you, it could just be more honest and heartfelt. I've often found that getting angry can lead to worse situations than if we all calmed down, took a few breaths, and talked it out. Sure, you can't always be happy with someone 24/7. There's going to be conflict, but that conflict may not result in the feeling of anger. It could be more saddening, imply guilt, or even just be the act of separating yourself from said person for a while. There's definitely nothing wrong with you though. c: We're all unique in our own ways, and that makes us beautiful.
QuietHawk
May 26th, 2018 8:12pm
Either you are not in touch with your feelings or you're so above the fray that you simply feel compassion for them rather than allowing yourself to imagine that whatever they did to you is about you. You recognize that people usually do what they do because of them - not because of you. You have a high degree of understanding.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2018 7:30pm
It’s not uncommon to be reluctant to get angry with people that you care about. Many of us want to please those we care about and keep the peace. Just be mindful of your boundaries and feelings, so you don’t feel like your own needs go unmet. You and your needs matter just as much as those people who you care about.
Moella
June 6th, 2018 8:00am
I think not being angry is a virtue in itself, but please take care of yourself and don't let others walk all over you. Besides that, I think not geeting angry at people you love can be just natural.
Ybf
June 20th, 2018 11:39am
There’s nothing wrong with not being angry at people you care about. We tend to be more lenient with closed ones and sometimes may be afraid to display anger in fear of becoming distant with them. But is important to communicate our feelings in a healthy way.