I can't stop crying for days on end. What do I do?
Last Updated: 10/15/2021 at 5:42pm
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I would try and think about what I could do to make me feel better through exercise, activities, or use the resources here at 7 cups! Try talking to our listeners and use that as a starting point to get the root behind the crying! Try to think about and understand what made you feel this way in the first place and what methods you could do to make yourself feel better and get out of this slump. There is so much support out there and on this website so I would really recommend checking out this website and seeing all of the help we have to offer!
There’s nothing wrong with crying, but if you want to try to manage your tears, there are some things you can try: Focus on taking slow, deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. This may help you relax, which could also stop the flow of tears. Relax your facial muscles so your expression is neutral. Think about something repetitious, like a poem, a song, or nursery rhyme you’ve memorized. Take a walk or find another way to temporarily remove yourself from a stressful or upsetting situation
Talk to someone who you trust about what is going on. Is there a happy place you can think of? Do something that makes you happy or do something that cheers you up. Talk to someone that you like talking to. If talking to someone that makes you happy or doing something that cheers you up does not seem to be working, reaching out and asking for help is never a bad idea. It is always a good idea to ask for help and it never hurts to ask. Doing something to calm you down or taking your mind off of the thing that might be causing you to be feeling these emotions can also be a big help.
Write out what is the reason that is making you cry and break it down even further into small steps, be sure that you take your time whilst doing this otherwise you will rush it and write out steps or reasons that are not actually true. Once you do this try and solve those steps for example do it once a day and be sure to treat yourself while you complete a step so you feel happy and it will contribute to your mental health. After completing the small steps and finishing off the reason that made you cry for days on end, you should be able to not cry for the reason that made you cry this much in the first place.
Crying is a self-soothing response and, if you are crying for "days on end," then you likely need some self soothing. In the short term, to stop crying, try some of the following: 1. Take a deep breath. And then take another one. 2. Tilt your head up. When you do this, the tears won't roll down your face and will reabsorb back into your eyes. 3. Splash you face with ice cold water. Pinch yourself. Do something to physically shock yourself and draw your attention from crying. 4. Meditate. Let a guided meditation clear your mind. Then reach out for help. Chat with a listener at 7 cups. Call a friend. Consider reaching out to a health or mental health provider. If you are considering harming yourself in any manner, call National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255), which offers free, confidential, 24/7 support.
It is good to ask yourself the question of what it is that is making you cry? It is easier to answer this question by writing everything down (especially if you don't want to tell your close ones). Sometimes you just need a brainstorming session on what it is that is triggering you to cry. This will help free your mind a little as you learn the reason for feeling this way and have more determination to tackle it. If you are someone open to sharing with a loved one but feel hesitant why is this the case. Are you worried about how they would react? Are you worried about being invalidated? If this is something you cannot find an answer to, you could try and distract yourself with doing things you enjoy, or going on a walk, or even meeting friends. You may also want to ask yourself what you do when you notice a loved one is crying - How do you console or reassure them? Sometimes it’s good to think others have been in your shoes before. Why not talk to one of our amazing listeners on our site who are here to give you a listening ear? You can explore your thoughts and feelings further this way.
First of all, go drink some water. A full cup or two at the very least. I'm going to focus on your immediate needs before addressing underlying issues. It could be helpful to go take a shower, and really make sure you're feeling the water and the soap, and the shampoo if you wash your hair. Maybe hum a little tune in there. It helps, I promise. After, if you have any lotions/body butters/etc, use those. Care for your body so you can care for your mind. Otherwise, put on comforting, fresh clothes, brush your hair and teeth. Now that your body is taken care of, go eat if you can. Or else try journalling your feelings, reasons and possible solutions. You can even light a candle and/or play some soft, happy music. It could also be beneficial to speak to someone about it, be it a friend, an expert, or one of the lovely Listeners here on 7 cups. Take care
Whatever happened must have hurt you really badly. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this pain right now. Let it all out, give yourself time, and when you're ready, take steps to start rebuilding your life. The path forward may not be easy. You may encounter situations where you take 2 steps forward and get thrown back 3 steps. Don't fret, keep on keeping on. Know that if you don't stop trying, no matter how big or small your steps are, you'll get to your destination some day. If you need someone to talk to, we are ready to be your listening ear. May all be well for you very soon.
Everyone cries once in a while, in fact, it is quite natural to cry. People might cry when particularly emotionally stirred, or when facing something traumatic, or when under a lot of stress. Crying can give us a cathartic release, a feeling of closure, and the ability to move on. However, if crying is not serving you in a positive way (for instance, by helping you release tension or sadness in order to move forward) or if crying is becoming a problem for you by interfering with your activities of daily life, relationships, or ordinary responsibilities and obligations, seeking the care of a licensed/certified health care provider might help. If you don't know what to do, consulting with a health care or mental health provider might be the best first step towards a solution.
If you feel you have cried a sufficient amount of tears then it may be time to draw a boundary. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say enough is enough. It’s important to know the difference between giving yourself permission to release the emotion vs just going on the downward spiral. You have to do something to reset your nervous system. I like to sit down and have a conversation with the tears and emotion as if it were an entity or being. You could ask what the tears they want you to show you, accept the lesson, and thank the tears for everything they taught you, and let them know you no longer need them and ask them to go. One practical way to stop a crying fit- You can tilt your head back, close your eyes, and smile. If you do this with a smile it sends the signal to your nervous system that you are safe. Distract, distract, distract and particularly distract with something that brings you joy and warms your heart in some way. This can be easier said than done, but only you have the power to control the thoughts your allowing to hook into your mind.
I think you have to let yourself cry. Whenever I received bad news like a rejection to a school, or a bad day, or a broken heart, my Dad would always say "let yourself feel like this for [X] amount of time and then remember where you were heading before you felt like this and go get back to getting there." It's okay to cry! But don't forget that life is going on all around you while you do. You could end up missing out on something so good! So let yourself cry but remember to let yourself live too!
I'm sorry that you've been having a rough time recently. Have you taken some time to journal? Maybe that will help you gain a better understanding of what's causing you to feel this way. Another thing that may be helpful is spending some time alone in nature. Just taking a walk or relaxing there may help you feel calm once again. Do you have people who are available to support you? If not, please remember that there are listeners available who really care about you. Maybe take a moment to talk to one of them. Hopefully some of these things will help and you'll feel better soon.
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