I have never felt so sad in my life. Why do I feel this way?
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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 6:43pm
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Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 7:06am
Are you in a bad situation? Did something happen to you?
Imagine a wave, in front of you. Sometimes it is a little wave and you can jump over it, but other times it is so big that you go under and struggle to get back up. That‘s the exact same situation in our life. Sometimes there are giant waves in front of us and we feel helpless and sad without knowing why, but there is always a way out.
It is just a bad period maybe you are really stressed because of school/work or family and friends. You should try to go out and have some fun.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2018 6:26am
We experience a wide range of emotions in our lifetime, whether we want to or not. These emotions can be triggered by an external cause or nothing at all. What is important is to safely let out these emotions whether it is through writing, talking to someone, music, art, meditation, or other things that make you calm and happy.
It is great that you can recognise and identify your emotions. has something happened to make you feel sad? would be a good place to start. Sit with the emotion and ask the question and see what comes up for you. Maybe have a notepad and pen near by. You will be surprised to see what can come up when you just start writing. I also started an exercise last year which was a massive help for me and that was listening to some melancholy (sad) music and just letting my emotions come up. Once I sat crying to this piece of music and then. I felt amazing. Honour your emotions they are here for a reason. Make peace with them by listening to them and let them do their job. Sometimes we may repress our emotions so they try again another time to come up and be seen.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 1:00am
depression can be a factor in this. this really depends on the situation... if you truly suspect you are depressed, attempt to contact a doctor or therapist
Sadness is experienced when we have suffered a loss or witnessed something traumatic. I sometimes feel sad by listening to the news. It's heartbreaking which evokes the feeling of sadness.
Many things can cause sadness in life, especially if depression is a long time struggle. Depression can make you sad for no reason at all. Try to find ways to get your sadness out and try every day to take a step torward feeling better no matter the fear.
Puberty? Issues? Depression? Emotions? Everything is possible. Try asking people around you. And if that doesn't work, try asking people here on 7Cups
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 10:59pm
Anything stressful can bring on sadness.its okay to feel this way sometimes,you just need to talk and let it out
There are many times in life where you feel like you have hit rock bottom. Maybe you have a problem you aren't dealing with properly?
You are in a stage of life where you begin to be learning how to world really works. You have bad people in the world and you start to know that not everyone is as friendly as they used to be. You will get thru it but it is a hard thing for people to accept
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 4:55pm
It's human nature. Please remember that there WILL be better days no matter how rough times are, the sadness will go away.
Sadness can come from any number of things such as not enough protein in your diet, too much or not enough sugar, dehydration. If you have other symptoms you should see your doctor.
Sometimes people experience great sadness on or about the anniversary of something from their past, like the death of a loved one, a bad experience but usually it disappears once you realize what it is.
Did you get turned down for something lately that you said you didn't really care about? It could be that subconsciously you did care for some reason such as not getting promoted instead of the person who did, you didn't get to go on a trip you would have appreciated.
Recognizing what is bothering you can help you let it go and move on in peace.
I have parts of me that no one knows. I constantly beat myself up. I don't do enough, I can't do it right, I can't except complements because no matter what I don't think it's true.
I am really sorry that you feel really sad. There really isn't a right answer I can give you for why you feel so sad. Is there something in your current life that has changed? Are you missing someone? Is it you are lonely? Maybe these questions can be a start for you maybe to think a bit. Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2017 5:36am
There are usually reasons what you feel this way. these reasons are not always easy to understand because they might come from what is happening in your life now, or they might come from the past. That is why one usually needs to get some input from a support group or a therapist to begin to understand what is happening and what it is happening now.
Reasons for sadness are countless but the solution is only one, and that is you! Remember happiness is within!
Sometimes we feel that way because we're humans. I think we feel that way because of some life uncertainty and sometimes it's just us who makes things complicated even though we don't do it intentionally but it happens. But! We have to be strong for our own good even if its hard.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2017 4:06am
Sometimes we can get things like depression, that can make us more sad and sad more frequently. There is more to depression than just sadness but if you are dealing with loss of interest, loss of appeite, hopelessness, helplessness and guilt you might be dealing with depression
Anonymous
April 19th, 2017 7:45pm
Hello there,
Maybe think of what exactly it was in the first place that made you this upset and why, after recognizing this, ask yourself what you can do to help yourself in the situation. There's nothing wrong with feeling this way, it's normal and natural, plus, if you can, try writing your feelings down onto paper or doing something you actually enjoy.
You can even talk to an Active Listener, everyone on 7 Cups is here to support you no matter what you are going through.
I hope this helps!
Take care.
Because you believe things that are not true and you have to take back control of yourself so that you can start living again.
Life is like a game. The smaller levels include a low level boss(sadness). As you finish levels, the bosses get stronger. You get defeated once, twice, but you never give up. Each time you get up on your feet, face the boss, and make it to the next level.
As age increases, complexity of emotions get intense. But each time you get out of something, you know that you're a stronger person and ready for the next level
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 1:12am
If you haven't felt sad in your life it'll probably because you're life has gone well so far and nothing has upsetter you currently and because of this you feel ebullient and grateful right now and never experience sadness too.
Perhaps your sadness originates from your feeling of lacking a purpose. This can often make a person feel like they are wasting potential or if they have low self-esteem it can make them feel useless. Or maybe your sadness comes from loneliness, not having some to share emotions and life experiences with can leave one depressed. Finally, it could be that others are putting you down. Maybe you yourself don't even realize they are doing this. Remember that just because someone says something does not mean they are correct. Their perspective is different and they may not even know the whole story. These reasons may be why you are experiencing such sadness. I wish you luck and remind you that you are unique I'm this World and have great potential so don't give in.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2019 4:08pm
Something sad and upsetting happened recently and you haven’t experienced it in a long time, and you feel very sad and upset about it. You are trying to cope but need help or support. The situation that happened affected you really badly so you are down about it, try to talk to your friends or family for advice or support, if you aren’t comfortable talking to them, here at 7 cups , you can easily find a listener who will listen and be there for you when you need it. Don’t be shy or embarrassed because of what happened. You will get through it!
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 9:17am
being optimistic is the first step to push bad thoughts and sadness out of your life. but also the way you look to any situation can also lead view thing in different perspective.
I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way. You could be feeling like that for any number of reasons. Was there a particular event that generated this feeling? How long have you felt this way? Have you spoken to anyone about how you've been feeling?
You could be feeling sad for a number of reasons including hormonal imbalances, depression, stress, and perhaps a combination of factors. If you've been feeling sad for a long time it might be important to reach out and talk to someone for better and more clarifying support.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2017 2:38pm
It could be due to many things. Tragic life events, biological changes and how you're treated by others can contribute to depression. Perhaps seeking help or talking to someone you trust about these feelings would help you feel better. Stay safe.
You feel this way because of whatever is going in in your life it could be something your attached to or person. Its the experience our hardest times are when we're sad and feel lile no one gets you..that your alone. The best way to fix this is realize it and act upon it and 7 cups of tea is a great way to start! A major sad part of my life was when my brpther left me in 6th grade I lost a male figure in my life and I have a niece now but because of family complications I couldnt meet her. I was depresses and I did not have a good relationship with my parents so I depended on one person to help..myself and through that I couldnt so I had one best friend to help me through. When you feel so sad in life it could really be anything you just got to acknowledge what the thing is and how you can change it.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 3:20pm
Sometimes when we are alone or we experience change in our lives we begin to feel sad or upset. All I can say is that this feeling is normal everyone has a time where they have never felt so sad before and it is about how we deal with this feeling that is important, we cannot let it take over us.
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