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I made a mistake and my friend was angry with me, what should i do?

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Last Updated: 12/21/2020 at 8:22pm
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lilacbutterfly22
December 21st, 2020 8:22pm
If your friend is angry, allow her space if they need to feel what they're feeling. Their emotions are valid but so are yours. Since you recognize that you made a mistake, when you two are able to talk again, if I were you, I would provide them with a genuine apology, taking accountability and ownership over what you had done, and conveying that you are sorry, and letting them know how you plan to correct things in the future and try to not make the mistake again. Also, apologizing doesn't entitle them to forgive you immediately, these things take time, so be patient as they process how they are feeling, and be sure to provide yourself with self care and compassion after the conversation is done. I'm here for you, and you've got this, friend.
avanef
September 10th, 2018 12:43am
If you know you did something wrong, speak to your friend and let them know you acknowledge you messed up and apologize to them for it and do your best to avoid doing what you did in the past. If you don't think you did anything wrong, still speak to them. Try to understand what they are upset about and see if you need to apologize at all and if you feel you need to do anything to make them know you won't do it again. Friends do fight and get angry with each other in life, so I wouldn't fret it too much. But communication is key to any friendship with anyone, and if you want to maintain that friendship and make things healthy between the two of you, you both need to talk things out and make sure you're on the right page with everything and that no one's hurt and being left out/unnoticed. Hope everything goes well for you and your friend and know we are there for you!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 12:55pm
Have you considered apologising and acknowledging the fact that you know you've made a mistake? If they still seem angry with you after you've apologised, perhaps give it some time -Sometimes people just need time to process things, and they might not be ready to have a conversation with you right now. Once they've taken the time to process the situation, they might be in a better head space in order to sit and have a rational conversation with you about it.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2020 6:09pm
A good thing to do would be apologize. Own up to the mistake. Acknowledge that you did something wrong and would like to see changes between you and have things back to the way they were before. Admit it was your fault and show that you're sincerely sorry and won't do it again. Regretting what you did and letting your friend know that it's okay to be angry but you're there when they're ready to talk can help. You're well on your way to that point by understanding that you did something wrong. Giving your friend their space to cool down and relax and get over their anger is also a good thing. After some time passes you can go from there
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 3:19am
Acknowledging that you made a mistake to the person you've upset and apologizing can make a big difference in these circumstances. I think also allowing each person involved time and space to reflect on the situation will also help. I think the first step is to always own up to your mistake and apologize to the person you hurt, and then understand that it may take them a bit before they're able to move forward. Sometimes we are willing to forgive and forget immediately, but in some situations it takes more than that. Once you've apologized and acknowledged what you did wrong you can't control the other persons reaction, but you can be patient and know that you did the right thing by owning up to your mistakes.