What can I do to stop myself from getting so angry all the time?

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Last Updated: 04/03/2018 at 6:04am
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Top Rated Answers
Leeann
September 13th, 2014 12:07am
When I feel like I am getting angry, i like to take 10 minutes to myself..to do something I enjoy..like reading.or listening to music..something to calm you and to take your mind away from it all
HerforU2580
November 1st, 2014 5:10pm
You first off need to understand that anger is a secondary emotion a reaction to something else.When you feel this emotion try to do relax technics
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 5:28am
Meditation, Meditation and Meditation. Practice it. Regularly and Sincerely. It's the single most powerful medicine against anger issues. Meditate over yourself. Many kinds of meditative techniques are there. And you could start with anyone of them. A key part of every technique is control over breathing and becoming the observer of the situation rather than participating in it. Both of these give a very quick growth towards calming our mind and reducing anger.
exuberantPapaya
June 19th, 2016 11:09pm
Anger is natural but it's bad. Anger is unstoppable if you have no control over yourself. But nothing is impossible. The word itself says 'I'm possible'. Whenever you are angry, just try to calm yourself by sitting if you're standing and if you are already sitting while you are in anger then lie down on your bed or anywhere. This might help. Or elsewhere drink water and control. I know it's not easy at first. You may find it hard to control your anger at first time. But you may see changes the third time, fourth time, and so on. The things you get angry at, just ignore them. The things or people that makes you angry, just ignore them too. Because that's life. they will bother you. But how many times? The time will come when they will also get tired of bothering you. Maybe that time is away from you, but that time will come. Just have patience!
Hannahx
October 23rd, 2014 7:48am
Just breathe. I also find a quiet place and read or zone out to the world around me and into the world of my music.
Seremonia
October 23rd, 2014 3:19pm
Each time you are so angry, write down the cause of it. Collect them and see the similarities, and find general understanding of it. Then try to solve it. It's not quick solution but it's a start.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 3:54am
Listen to your feelings more closely and decide which feelings aren't worth your time. Just decide to remain calm and problem solve. It just comes down to a choice of how you want to handle things.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 8:29pm
First you could find out what makes you so angry. Once you've found that out it will be easier to prevent you getting so angry because you'd know exactly what not to do or what to do.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2014 4:59pm
Why dont you try relaxing or breathing exercises to help calm you and look at things with a balanced perspective?
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 11:48pm
you could write what you feel at the moment or think about happy things. also listen to music you love can help
KaylaBear
November 5th, 2014 10:58pm
The ways i stop myself getting angry are, Music, Baths, Going for a walk, rhythmic breathing, singing, watching a film, playing games, there are many different ways to stop yourself getting angry, the trick is to experiment and find one that is most suitable for you.
ListenAdviceSupport
November 12th, 2014 4:32pm
Take a minute to isolate yourself from the problems you are having, and let say to yourself that "it's okay" to sometimes feel angry, maybe taking up a new hobby, or finding something that makes you feel happy will help with releasing the anger you are experiencing.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 9:43am
First increase your self awareness and foster insight to the triggers that cause you to be angry then process your feelings and thoght and try to rationalize and regulate them through positive coping strategies you've learned or are learning through literature on anger management or by a professional.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 2:42pm
you can try meditation or you cn lso listen to music music is a great way of cooling down your anger
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 6:16pm
Relax by taking deep breaths, counting to twenty backwards and think about why you are feeling angry. Anger is just an emotion that we all feel and its okay to feel angry but it's upto us to decide whether to act or react to it.
hellopomegranate4772
April 24th, 2015 1:53am
Try taking a deep breath, walk away if you need to. Take a drink of cool water. Or come on this lovely site and chat with one of us. We will help you calm down.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2015 6:33am
Go walking to take your mind off of things you could always discover what you always wanted to learn and do.
pedicator
May 10th, 2015 4:47pm
Being angry happens to everyone. It's important to recognise these angry feelings so we can deal with them in a constructive and healthy way. Sometimes things can make us so angry we see red and have a hard time dealing with our emotions. Taking a deep breath, counting to ten, and allowing yourself to have some time to think things through is a huge help in managing feelings of anger.
gracefulForever57
May 30th, 2015 5:46am
step back and recognize that you are getting angry or upset notice your triggers so you can better yourself next time and take a few deep breaths so that way you can relax yourself for a bit
Anonymous
July 20th, 2015 7:08am
How about first letting the emotion flow in your mind stream without any hesitation. Just feel what you are feeling, as soon as you become aware of it its effects are lost. :)
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 9:54am
Firstly, try and avoid situations that will make you feel that way. If however, you are caught up in such a situation, try to find a way to end it before you are unable to control your emotions. Once you have become angry try counting to 10 or leave as soon as possible in order to calm down.
kindMoment44
November 9th, 2015 5:23pm
Laugh. Relax, and try to see the way other people are feeling, and look at their perspectives. Its only human to make mistakes and do stupid things, so they might not always be aimed at you. But the best way to combat anger is laughter.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 7:58pm
By trying to focus on the good things around you and by making a rational choice to be optimistic and tolerant towards whatever could make you angry.
WarmShadow8
March 22nd, 2016 12:57pm
Take a deep breath. Three times. Just think that anger isn't a solution to problems and its the cause of a lot of problems actually.
GodlyMan2016
June 13th, 2016 6:40pm
Breathe and continue to find activities that can keep me focused on positive things so that I can stay focused on what is more important in life.
windfox3
October 24th, 2017 6:38am
Anger management is a thing that requires concentration and depends on your environment. Maybe you can turn on the music and crank it up and let the lyrics be your vent as you work anger out. Maybe you have to shelve it for awhile and take it out on the punching bag at the gym. The main thing is, that you don't take it out on others around you. Don't make them a victim of your anger. Hammer it out in a metal smiths forge. Beat it out at the gym. Bike it out on the road. Ride the wave on a surf board. Whatever it takes. Anger is natural. How you cope with it will define how awesome you are as a self mastered human.
YourFriendforever
April 3rd, 2018 6:04am
You can learn new ways to tackle your emotions.. Remember this that getting angry is not wrong but what you do to tackle the anger at that point of time is what makes the difference.. :)