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What do I look like to others when I have a breakdown? Do I look insane?

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Last Updated: 04/10/2018 at 9:05am
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February 27th, 2015 5:58am
The best way to learn what others think about you is simply to ask them. Ask your friends what they think of you-- that may help to ease your concerns.
March 11th, 2015 4:18am
You never look insane. It doesnt matter what anybody else thinks about you. You just need to be yourself and be strong and keep pushing.
April 7th, 2015 4:25pm
No, personally I don't think about it like that.It varies, but I think for the most you look like you have been strong and just broke down and couldn't keep moving forward.. just relax!
April 10th, 2015 8:27am
You just look like someone who is is need to help and comforting. Most people will see you and feel the need to hug you. You won't look insane
May 22nd, 2015 8:47pm
What does breakdown mean to you? if it means to cry everyone cries..many breakdown..sometimes, breakdowns are healthy
September 29th, 2015 12:40pm
No, you don't look insane. It shouldn't matter what people think when they see you breakdown, just worry more about getting help so you can feel better :)
January 11th, 2016 7:31am
If in the process of having a mental breakdown or in a situation of panic, first establish whether you are in a potentially dangerous situation to you or towards others. If not, find a strategy to calm yourself down. I take deep breaths and say my dog's name until I calm down. It sounds silly, but my dog's name calms me down. It may look strange but I'm not bothering anyone, especially when I find a nice quiet spot for me to be alone.
February 2nd, 2016 1:51am
I typically hold it in when I have a breakdown. I don't like showing others what I'm going through, so I normally deal with it in private. If I'm really in a bad place, I'll vent to a close friend. I enjoy sitting in my room, listening to music, eating ice cream, and taking some time to recollect myself.
March 1st, 2016 11:27pm
This is a difficult question. A breakdown to one person can be everyday normality for another person. What one person might find insane, others may find normal. All people have different views and opinions. If you feel you are having a breakdown, don't think about what you look like to others but think about what you (and people who care about you) can do to help. Some people judge others, no matter what - that is a fact of life.
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April 11th, 2016 4:12am
Some people may understand it and feel compassionate, but there maybe others who might not understand it and think that you are over reacting or any of that sorts. But the point is its always good to have a time and place for breaking down. If you need the space to do so away from people do it.
June 14th, 2016 5:38am
Often the biggest fears of others is literally going insane, or looking insane to others. I can tell you right now, there is no beautiful way to break down. There's no romanticizing it, because it's horrible. It's exhausting to deal with, and when you come out of it, you feel numb and achy. But, you're not going to go insane, and how people perceive you really doesn't matter. You have to practice self care, and that is learning to ground yourself and encourage yourself (I know, easier said than done, but it's worth it). It's all a moment, and it will always pass.
October 3rd, 2016 10:59am
It's intelligent of you to identify that you have breakdowns at times. I don't think you look insane if you know when you're broken.
March 21st, 2017 6:01pm
No of course you don't look insane. Everyone copes with things differently and lots of people experience breakdowns when emotions have been built up for a long time and they need to be released. There's nothing wrong with that and it's definitely not insane.
November 7th, 2017 9:46am
You look like a human. No you don't look insane. So many people, can relate to the feelings you are going through so there is no shame whatsoever.
January 2nd, 2018 6:20pm
Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind :) You don't look insane to those who love you. At the least, they will be concerned for your well-being. And you don't need to look out for other people.
February 6th, 2018 4:43pm
When you have a breakdown it depends entirely on how the others view you, everybody is worried, that is a guarantee. What they do from there is like the fight or flight response, they help or walk away. It doesn't make you look insane at all but merely in need of a friend.
April 10th, 2018 9:05am
When I see someone having a breakdown, I see someone who has been battling with a long and painful journey and is ready to show how vulnerable they really are, I don't see weakness, I see strength and bravery.