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What is keeping me from being happy?

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Last Updated: 04/23/2019 at 9:08pm
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February 19th, 2015 4:53pm
There can be a lot of things contributing to that. You are probably expecting too much and are hence not satisfied, thus unhappy. Maybe some incident of sorts has kept you from being happy as you are not able to get over it. One could also be depending on others for their own happiness, which is a risky thing to do. So go ahead, try to find happiness from small things and forget whatever you have been through in those small moments!
April 18th, 2016 11:29pm
My attitude. When I employ an altruistic approach, I feel more fulfilled and better able to choose happiness. I keep in mind daily, sometimes hourly that my outlook and feelings can provoke any outcome. Others may influence me but I am able create boundaries that acknowledge my true self. And, I never fail to rely on my wonderful supporters and life long friends.
April 25th, 2015 1:01pm
I like to think only you can control how you ACTUALLY feel, no matter what happens, no matter who does what that may affect you. So long as you train your mind, train your thoughts and strengthen them to deal with different situations with a more positive attitude and outlook of life, I think that will help minimise all the negativity and thereby maximise the happiness you feel as a result.
April 26th, 2015 3:48pm
freedom, space, breathing the air, keeping me from depression, anxiety and panic attacks, no peace in mind and soul i guess thats the main reason of it....rejection or fear to be alone or single or whatever it is
May 22nd, 2015 3:15am
Each of us is unique. What makes you happy may not make someone else happy. Additionally, we change as we grow older. Yet, evidence suggests that some things are more consistently associated with happiness. For example, genuine happiness is linked to finding contentment, avoiding envy, cultivating love for others, and building mental and emotional resilience.
May 27th, 2015 4:56pm
You are! Really no one else can stand in your way if you decide that you want to happy. It sounds easier said than done but good things never come easy. When you choose to think bad thoughts and decide to be happy, you can be!
June 18th, 2015 5:55am
You are keeping yourself from being happy..if you think you are not happy you simply wont be happy..but rather if you do not think about being happy and do what you please instead...they u will see that your happy... all you need to make sure is you stay positive towards youself
August 17th, 2015 4:02am
I am keeping myself from being happy. I am clinging onto bitterness, resentment, and pain due to my inability to simply come to acceptance with the situation. However, acceptance is essential to forgiveness and letting go. Forgiveness is my key to happiness and freedom.
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April 26th, 2016 4:18am
Yourself. This is because you are responsible for your own happiness and no one else. Don't let others be responsible for your happiness then u will never be happy.
November 14th, 2017 2:34pm
I understand how confusing and frustrating it can be when you want to be happy and can't be. But, no one can stop you from it. Except you. Maybe you keep overthinking things, or stress alot, are scared of moving forward or accepting change, or maybe you just tend to see and delve in the negatives of any situation. I am not judging you. It's okay to be scared and stressed. But for you to be happy you need to try to find positivism in everything - every person, every place, every situation. Remind yourself of the things you are grateful for. Remember the truly happy moments in your life and cherish them. I know it seems easy for me to say. But I have been there as well. I understand how upsetting it can get. But I am here to motivate you and you can try. Try a little hard every day, taking one small step at a time. I know you must be trying and I am sure, if you keep going, you are gonna get there :) Only you have the power and authority over yourself. As the saying goes, "It's mind over matter". Hope this helps. Good Luck :)
December 12th, 2017 3:39pm
I do not believe there is a particular thing keeping a person from happiness. I believe it is more of making the choice to be mindful of ourselves and offer ourselves compassion and empathy, and to allow ourselves to feel the wave of emotions we are feeling in that moment in time, including happiness, even if it is only for a short moment.
April 23rd, 2019 9:08pm
What kept me from being happy was a bad mindset, I learned that mindsets are the key to becoming happy and that looking at things in a more positive manner can be a gamechanger, I am now happier than ever with the help of medical professionals. Negativity is the only issue in overcoming sadness if you can find a way to make negativity into positivity you have already won the war of the mind, that's how I like to think of it at least. Another good way to gain happiness is by removing sources of negativity such as abusive people.